Well, it took awhile but I think I figured out how the site might work for me. If there are any couples that might enjoy chatting with no pressure or expectation to meet, that could be the ticket. If you view my profile you might consider activating the Instant Messenger in the morning and or evening, we might be able to establish contact that way. Or you could look at the lower midwest chat room. I'm not in the chat room often but I do check in usually in the evening. As far as my profile viewing I'll click on ones that I think I might be compatible with. However, not being a paying member I can't really see much or respond to anyone that might take a look at me. I can share that I won't even attempt a contact if there are requirements that I don't meet. So, members don't have to worry about me trying to chat them up to convince them that somehow they should bend what they want so we could meet. I occasionally look at the same profile more than once and most likely its because I find the profile picture to be very appealing. I was a paying member several years ago but for the cost of full access against the probability of an actual meet...economics wins out. The site just isn't worth the price. Of course, I also understand that I'm one of thousands of men on the site, so thinking that I'm somehow special is silly.