I'm looking for a partner (maybe sub) for ongoing encounters. I'm attracted to intelligence and I'm a hedonist, very into physical pleasure of all kinds for both myself and my partner/sub. I'm OCD when it comes to cleanliness and hygiene, so please please please for the love of god practice good hygiene! (I , I ...ok, not really.) I am very good at blending in and all but a few people who have known me for decades would ever guess what I am truly like. Perality-wise I am a very strong introvert. That does NOT mean shy, it means I energize myself through solitude and contemplation. Crowds are fun for a time but they exhaust me mentally and physically. My sense of humor is sarcastic and weird and morbid. Halloween is my favorite holiday and I love all things dark and scary. A bit about me...about ten years ago I got three novels published with HarperCollins. Despite the first one landing on a national best seller list, the rest never sold well enough to make it a full-time gig, alas and dammit. All of my novels (there are seven out now) are weird, but I won't go into details here. I'm part of a married swinging couple and am playing with her knowledge. Ethical non-monogamy is a good phrase for what we have (yes, she has her own partners but NOT for BDSM, which does not interest her). You are very much encouraged to verify this in any way that makes you comfortable. She'll be happy to talk to or meet with anyone. She is not into BDSM at all so has encouraged me to find someone to help me indulge my desires.

My Ideal Person Someone who is confident, smart, and funny. Able to hold a conversation. Would like someone I can be friends with socially (though not a requirement if that's not your thing).