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Rubens_the_First 60 / M
"Well endowed? Perhaps. Well fed? Definitely! :-)"
Calgary, Alberta, Canada
 
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Rubens_the_First 60/M
Calgary, Alberta , Canada
A lady looks beautiful with the right clothes; a woman looks beautiful without them.
Introduction
What to say ..... and how to say it briefly? I recently ended a long term relationship so I am feeling rather shell shocked. I am torn between wanting to be licentious and indulge every fantasy, and wondering if my white picket fence dream of a family with ren is still possible. Ah, the white picket fence dream .... I love ren. I wonder if fulfilling such a dream is still possible at my age. It would mean finding a woman younger than me - someone with a mother's love, a God honouring heart, a hedonist's sense of adventure and the patience of a saint. All that and not be a ! Does someone like that exist? Is this but the wildest of my fantasies? Such dreams are elusive. But that only makes me treasure friendships more. And that's what I am looking for here. I may be a hedonist but I like to treat people with respect. If we are not looking for love we can at least offer civility. So my fetishes include acting like a gentleman and reminding women that they are beautiful! I try to treat my lover with respect outside the bedroom so that she can trust me when I take charge in the bedroom and try to make her feel honoured and treasured! I like to do other fun things too. I like to take pictures and short videos, in a way that reveals my lover as beautiful but hides her identity. It’s great fun and it involves wigs, masks, boas, and an executioner’s hood. It is a silly, wonderful, and long story best told over coffee or during a dinner date. :-D There are other more provocative adventures that fascinate me, some that I have enjoyed (and want to enjoy again), and others that I wish to enjoy. They are the sort of thing that a gentleman doesn’t discuss, but age boys fantasize about them and poets sing about them! The one thing I know about such adventures is that they are best enjoyed by two rather than one. So what am I seeking? The white picket fence dream, I suppose. But what do I hope to find? Friends; cuddle buddies (‘friends with benefits’ and ‘f-ck buddies ‘are crass, inadequate descriptions for my taste). Ladies I can trust in friendship; couples who are unpretentious. All who are willing to let me be both a gentleman and a lover. What can I offer? I must honestly say I can’t offer the commitment required for a long term relationship. I am just too shell shocked right now. But I can offer respect; civility; recreational worship! Hours of kissing (I love to kiss!); hugs; a distain for tobacco, alcohol, and drugs. (Please! Be a non-smoker – I have allergies.) I can offer conversation where I listen more than I talk. I can offer the longest of hugs (and hopefully a minimum of snoring) as we fall asleep together, exhausted and overwhelmed by joy! What happens after that? Well .... that’s just part of the adventure, isn’t it?

Tell one of your favorite sexual fantasies. Don't hold back!:
Whatever the scenario I just like to be intensely in the
moment. My ultimate fantasy is to be with a lover I can trust
completely as we explore new things and have new adventures.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Threesomes, Mutual Masturbation, Making Home "Movies", Participating in Erotic Photography, Kissing/ Cuddling

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Willingness to freely discuss and try anything, Maturity and a sense of adventure

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
Hey - I AM a celebrity. :-)

Have you ever had cybersex?:
No way. I only want skin on skin.

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Information
  • 60 / male
  • Calgary, Alberta, Canada
Sexual Orientation:
Bi-sexual
Looking For:  Men, Women or Couples (man/woman)
Birthdate: June 20, 1963
Relocate?: Maybe/Yes
Marital Status: Separated
Height: 182-185 cm
Body Type: A little extra padding
Smoking: I'm a non-smoker
Drinking: I don't drink at all
Drugs: I don't use drugs
Education: Master's degree
Race: Caucasian
Religion: Agnostic
Have Children: No
Want Children: Maybe
Male Endowment: Long/Thick
Circumcised: Yes
Speaks: English
Hair Color: Brown
Hair Length: Short
Eye Color: Blue
Glasses or Contacts: Glasses
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