Who I am at heart is a guy who likes seeing his friends happy. Beyond that, it all depends on the situation. I'm not quite split personalities, but my life is so compartmentalized that people in one circle rarely imagine the other circles I spend time in.

Mijn Ideale Persoon: I don't have an ideal person, but hear me out: I'm open to a lot of situations, and what I look for depends on the particular situation.

I'm looking for someone who enjoys at least some of the same things I do. Nerdy shit like D&D or shelves full of books, the local music scene, shared kinks, some connection we can build off of. That takes care of mutual intellectual attraction. We also need some physical attraction, but I'm not acting like I'm a model or something and that's not what I'm looking for...just physical traits that make me want to have sex. Finally, if we're talking IDEAL (mind you, none of these are requirements, just elements of my dream situation, consider them pluses), we would be able to just spend time together, sometimes focusing on one person's interests, sometimes the other person's interests, sometimes shared interests, sometimes just spending time in the same space doing our own things. But being TOGETHER at those times...that's what I want.