I am a 48 year old male from the Lehigh Valley area. I have been part of this lifestyle for over 25 years. I have had several subs over the years, but have been in a 19 year dedicated relationship that has come to an end. I am a gentle Dominant looking for a new sub. I expect any new relationship to develop over time. Open and honest communication is key. Peral safety of a sub is a priority. I do have hard limits as to what I will do to someone, but as an open minded per, I am willing to openly discuss any fantasies or desires you may have. I travel frequently to the Philadelphia and Reading areas for day trips. Occasionally to the Pocono area. D.

My Ideal Person My Ideal Person: 1. You need to be in relatively good shape. I am so you should be too.

2. You need to have a very dirty mind and very clean body - clean and either shaved or well groomed.

3. I am not a sadist but I don't believe spanking, bondage, and other things qualify as sadistic because they are not done for sadistic reasons or with the intent of merely inflicting pain.

3. You do not need to be local to my area but within a reasonable distance.

4. If you have large breasts that look like they need bound then you should expect that to happen at times. You should expect your nipples to be clamped at times regardless of the size.

5. Some more extreme situations do sound interesting at times - women that want to be kept as a pet in a kennel, etc.. but realistically if that were to be full time then I would have to find another to fulfill my needs beyond having a sex toy pet - and I am not interested in making things that complicated.

6. I will repeat the being fit and clean requirements because I need a woman that can keep up with my needs and be ready for her anal training when I determine it is time for that.

7. Be able to speak intelligently. I don't care what part of the country you are from or what part of the city - you still need to be able to talk. I need to be able to present you in public and expect you to be able to interact. Even if you are made to wear your butt plug under your dress.

8. Spanking means many things and depending on you it may mean play or punishment or on how hard I deliver it.. That will be adjusted based on the desired reaction. Spanking a maso sub isn't punishment after all so other means would be necessary and then spanking or flogging would be to give you what you wanted.

9. Expected to dress for the occasion but always with a hint of the sexuality I expect from you.

10. A real collar and a real leash - not all the time but at times and always have something to remind you of your role in my life - belly ring, the a fore mentioned anal plug, nipple ring, etc.

11. You need to like cum. Not always all over your face but some subs seem to have an aversion to it. That is not acceptable.

12. I don't have a dungeon and have no interest in one but you need to like the props - cuffs, toys, rope, paddles, clips, clamps.

13. Prepared to be dressed not like a hooker but like an overtly sexual woman when taken someplace where that is appropriate - not into the club scene but a high-end nightclub with bottle service where I can put you in very high heels, the proper tiny panties, and a little dress that leaves just enough to the imagination to be legal.

14. Just as comfortable having a glass of wine chatting as you are naked on your knees sucking my cock while I watch the game or when instructed to get some toys and put on a little inviting show to demonstrate how wanton you are for me.

15. Understand that my job is to make sure your needs are met but that may not match with what you want at the moment - like that impending orgasm that you have just been denied because I want you naked humping your pussy against my bare leg or when stimulation has you shaking and the forced repeated orgasms are more than what you think you can handle.

After all that - if you are still reading this then you may be thinking that I am a cold unloving type. That could not be farther from the truth. I am looking for a woman that has compatible needs so that all of the things I mentioned are part of what she wants/needs as my submissive. She is more than just a pet. She is my submissive life partner. In public she would be dressed more provocatively than most and obviously devoted but what goes on behind closed doors between us is private and not for the world.

I like to snuggle on the couch and watch a movie - I just like to have you naked or in something sexy when we do it. Yes I am highly sexual.

I like fine dinners where we can dress up and have a night on the town. Traveling is very important to me. I visit South America 4 or 5 times a year on business among other places and I would like a woman to partake in that with me.

I do like to spoil my woman - giving her all of the niceties I can. I like to kiss whether it is a soft kiss after dinner or a long hot kiss while she is bound in a rather stimulating position.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Fetishes, Light Bondage, Candle Wax, Spanking, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Ability to be discreet, Willingness to freely discuss and try anything

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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