Confidence vs Cockiness  

sexyldy1000 61F  
10453 posts
1/7/2021 1:30 pm
Confidence vs Cockiness




People often confuse confidence with cockiness, but the couldn’t be more different.

Confidence is quiet and a natural expression of ability, expertise, and self-regard.

Cocky and conceited people tend t.o take a position and totally disregard differing opinions or of view. They know they're right--and they want (actually, they need ) you know it, too.

Confident people don't mind being proved wrong. They feel finding out what is right is a lot more important than being right. And when they're wrong, they're secure enough to back down graciously.

Confident people don't need the glory; they know what they've achieved.

Confident people don't need approval from others because their validation comes from within.

Confident people aren't afraid t.o ask for help.

Confident people aren't afraid t.o sometimes look silly and being in situations where they aren't at their best.

People envy confidence but often despise cockiness.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/7/2021 1:38 pm

Sometimes my confidence is 'situational'.
How do you define confidence?


pocogato12 69F  
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1/7/2021 1:43 pm

Confidence allows one to grow!!!

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Tmptrzz 59F  
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1/7/2021 1:46 pm

This is just brilliant, thank you so much for reminding us about the difference between Confidence and Cockiness. And this one kind of befitting of the site too my friend.. I hope your enjoying your Thursday..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


justaguyinalaska 55M
879 posts
1/7/2021 2:03 pm

An elegant and perfect contrasting of an important distinction. I would only add that in addition to acknowledgement, confident people are not reticent to (when appropriate) apologize for their mistakes.

The power of a sincere apology to reduce anxiety and stress often appears to be a closely-guarded secret.


powercaps716 65M
79560 posts
1/7/2021 3:31 pm

may i add something else, Confident people will admit when wrong or do wrong , where Cocky people are too  proud to say, i'm sorry.


Paulxx001 64M  
22494 posts
1/7/2021 3:58 pm

I crossed the river once, with confidence. I was optimistic that the ice was thick enough.
It was... until it wasn't - no biggy - I still managed to get across.
I only sunk up to my knees.

Confidence is knowing how deep the river is.


p1947q 75M  
139 posts
1/7/2021 5:27 pm

A really fine line between the two - I think I probably had a tendency when I was younger to be cockier but as I have aged and am hopefully wiser I exude more confidence. But then again, confidence, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder


bozz962 63M
22 posts
1/7/2021 7:46 pm

this is so true, and yet we do not think about it until someone shows us good job thanks


Macro8inc 51M

1/7/2021 8:15 pm

yes open to ones interpretation


redduracell 50M
892 posts
1/7/2021 10:54 pm

Well said !!


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:28 pm

    Quoting pocogato12:
    Confidence allows one to grow!!!
Yes in many ways.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:29 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    This is just brilliant, thank you so much for reminding us about the difference between Confidence and Cockiness. And this one kind of befitting of the site too my friend.. I hope your enjoying your Thursday..
This place is one of many that I thought of when I decided to post the word.
Hope you have a safe and peaceful weekend.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:31 pm

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    An elegant and perfect contrasting of an important distinction. I would only add that in addition to acknowledgement, confident people are not reticent to (when appropriate) apologize for their mistakes.

    The power of a sincere apology to reduce anxiety and stress often appears to be a closely-guarded secret.
I agree with your observation which expanded on "Confident people don't mind being proved wrong. " Thank you for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:33 pm

    Quoting  :

Thank you for stopping by and offering your perspective. One of the differences between intelligence and knowledge is also in how they are applied /demonstrated.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:34 pm

    Quoting powercaps716:
    may i add something else, Confident people will admit when wrong or do wrong , where Cocky people are too  proud to say, i'm sorry.
Definitely agree with your observation!


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:35 pm

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    I crossed the river once, with confidence. I was optimistic that the ice was thick enough.
    It was... until it wasn't - no biggy - I still managed to get across.
    I only sunk up to my knees.

    Confidence is knowing how deep the river is.
Hmm, you sure you didn't confuse something with intelligence and knowledge which enabled you to save yourself. Bet it didn't stop you from trying it again


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:37 pm

    Quoting p1947q:
    A really fine line between the two - I think I probably had a tendency when I was younger to be cockier but as I have aged and am hopefully wiser I exude more confidence. But then again, confidence, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder
Life experience and maturity often temper a person's displays of cockiness. Although there are always exceptions. Thanks for stopping by.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:38 pm

    Quoting bozz962:
    this is so true, and yet we do not think about it until someone shows us good job thanks
Thanks for stopping by and commenting.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/8/2021 1:39 pm

    Quoting Macro8inc:
    yes open to ones interpretation
And of those around the occurrence.


resant78 43M  
3324 posts
1/8/2021 11:26 pm

Confidence is something that I struggle with on occasion.
I am mostly thinking of the times when I do photography for people. Art is subjective and that can be tough on ones confidence (or maybe ego?)

But that being said, I agree with your post!
It's being ready to accept when you are wrong.


sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/9/2021 2:03 am

    Quoting resant78:
    Confidence is something that I struggle with on occasion.
    I am mostly thinking of the times when I do photography for people. Art is subjective and that can be tough on ones confidence (or maybe ego?)

    But that being said, I agree with your post!
    It's being ready to accept when you are wrong.
Sounds like elements of “situational confidence” which is defined as: Situational confidence is the ability to become confident within oneself, but only based on external circumstances.”. I have experienced it in new or unfamiliar situations. It always amazes me how some people are defiant about admitting when they are wrong.


trixietrixster 54F  
3114 posts
1/18/2021 2:10 pm

Confidence is knowing your capabilities, limits, being able to recognized your mistakes, as well as apologize for them, if the situation calls for it. Happy Monday!

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sexyldy1000 61F  
9574 posts
1/18/2021 3:09 pm

    Quoting trixietrixster:
    Confidence is knowing your capabilities, limits, being able to recognized your mistakes, as well as apologize for them, if the situation calls for it. Happy Monday!
That is a great 👍 summary! Thank you 🙏 for stopping by and sharing it.


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