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Being Vulnerable Is NOT A Weakness
Posted:Sep 5, 2021 9:49 am
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2021 1:23 pm

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable can be scary. But, it’s also a powerful and authentic way to live. It takes strength and bravery.

Being vulnerable means being honest about how you feel. It’s about opening yourself up to someone, letting that person into your world

Being vulnerable involves uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure.

Vulnerability is often seen as a weakness. Deciding to put yourself 'out there' is the opposite of being weak.

I am sharing this as a reminder to everyone that every time you allow yourself to be vulnerable, you actually empower yourself.
Brain Game Challenge
Posted:Sep 4, 2021 1:31 pm
Last Updated:Sep 8, 2021 6:07 pm

We are often reminded to exercise our bodies but neglect exercising our brains. Studies have shown that keeping the brain active is associated with a reduced risk for Alzheimer's.

Here are some 'brain teasers' for you to try.
No cheating.
No calculators!

1. House Numbers
My twin lives at the reverse of my house number. The difference between our house numbers ends in two. What are the lowest possible numbers of our house?

2. Egg Equation
If a hen and a half lay an egg and a half in a day and a half, how many eggs will half a dozen hens lay in half a dozen days?

3. Two By Two
You know 2 + 2 comes to the same as 2 x 2. Now find a set of three different whole numbers whose sum is equal to their total when multiplied.

4. Apple Harvest
Mrs. Jones was very proud of her apple tree. One autumn, after harvesting her apples, she called her three sons together. “Here are 150 apples,” she said. “I want you to take them to the market tomorrow and sell them for me.” She gave Paul 15 apples, Nick 50, and Ben 85. “Your job,” added Mrs. Jones, “is to sell the apples in such a way that each of you brings home the same amount of money.” How do they do it?

5. Inheritance
Granny Adams left half her money to her granddaughter and half that amount to her grandson. She left a sixth to her brother, and the remainder, $1,000, to the dogs’ home. How much did she leave altogether?

6. Rain Man
A man was walking in the rain. He was in the middle of nowhere. He had nothing and nowhere to hide. He came home all wet, but not a single hair on his head was wet. How is that possible?

7. Classroom Math
14 of the in the class are girls. 8 of the wear blue shirts. 2 of the are neither girls or wear a blue shirt. If 5 of the are girls who wear blue shirts how many are in the class?

8. The Man and His Car
A man pushes his car to a hotel and tells its owner that he is bankrupt. Why?

9. The Photograph
A man is looking at a photograph of someone. His friend asks who it is. The man replies, “Brothers and sisters, I have none. But that man’s father is my father’s .” Who was in the photograph?

How do you think you did?

Scroll down to the comment section for the Answers
Setting and Keeping Goals
Posted:Sep 3, 2021 1:37 pm
Last Updated:Sep 5, 2021 3:37 pm

Why are some goals so hard to keep? And why do we keep setting the same goals - again and again - even after we fail?

According to psychologist Dr. Janet Polivy, several new studies show that the human brain is “hard-wired” to be optimistic- which drives us to challenge ourselves, and believe that we can achieve new things. But, Dr. Polivy says there are times when our optimism can get the best of us, and sabotage our chances of success because we tend to set unrealistically high expectations for ourselves.

Do you set personal goals or make "Daily To-Do Lists"? How well do achieve or keep them?
While I Can Still
Posted:Sep 2, 2021 1:46 pm
Last Updated:Sep 5, 2021 3:33 pm

This poem was written by a friend of mine who is legally blind and her remaining eyesight continues to deteriorate. She is a respected advocate in the blind and partially-sighted community. I have been proud to support her through a number of volunteer activities.
I have shared this before. However, her words seem particularly poignant during the past few days and helped me put things into perspective.

While I can still…
See and hear,
Walk and talk,
Smell and taste,
Feel and touch,
Laugh and smile.
I will keep on going.

While I can still…
Dream and hope,
Forgive and let go,
Believe and trust,
Love and care,
I will keep on going.

While I can still...
Give thanks and appreciate,
Find peace and joy,
Keep the faith,
I will keep on going.

While I can still…
Breathe the gift of life,
I will keep on going,
Till my journey ends.
Posted:Sep 1, 2021 1:28 pm
Last Updated:Sep 5, 2021 3:30 pm

Thank you for being here.

Thank you for your support, kind words and encouragement.

Thank you for sharing in my stories, thoughts and feelings and for sharing yours.

There’s not enough words to express my gratitude 🙏

Every Day You Have A Choice
Posted:Aug 31, 2021 12:55 pm
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2021 9:56 am

Every day we have a choice about how we are going to face life and all that it throws at us.

The last couple of days, I could have curled up into a ball and cried until there were no more tears to shed.

However, that's not who I am. And I know that's not how my wants me to live. He wants me to be strong and for his sister and I to continue to look out for each other.

Here's what I am choosing to do.

Challenge Yourself To Control How You Respond
Posted:Aug 30, 2021 1:24 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2021 1:08 am

How you react and recover from challenges and difficulties is a choice.

Yesterday, I received shocking, unexpected news that no parent ever wants to hear.

After gut-wrenching soul searching, trying to make sense of what happened, a good cry and a sleepless night, I got up this morning accepting I am not responsible for my 's choices. I always told them, once they step outside the front door, they decide what path they will take. My fervent wish was they would align with my beliefs.

I also acknowledge there is nothing I could have done to change the news. Nor can I change the future. I can only find a way to deal with it. I have to.
I Would Rather Die of Passion Than of Boredom
Posted:Aug 29, 2021 4:01 pm
Last Updated:Sep 2, 2021 6:08 pm

When you mention the word passion, people automatically think you are going to talk about passion in a sexual context It generally implies a deeper or more encompassing emotion than that implied by the term lust.

Passion is a feeling of intense enthusiasm towards or compelling desire for someone or something.

Passion is an emotion to be embraced. It is what motivates us and keeps us moving forward.

Passion for art, literature, sport, for doing good by someone or something, for love, for your faith. Passion lights a fire deep within us. It gives us the energy to reach our goals.

Building your passion for someone takes you to the next level and is beyond a sexual attraction.

I think real passion for another human being is about knowing that person and all that they are, all that they need and all that they are capable of becoming. Look inside, see who they really are. What makes them breathe? What matters to them?

**In 1883 Mile Zola released “Au Bonheur des Dames” that contained an instance of this saying in French. In October 1884, Vincent van Gogh wrote a letter to his brother Theo that included the quotation as part of a larger excerpt from Zola’s novel. Thus, both well-known figures employed the saying, but Zola was the originator.**
Sex Talk Myths vs Reality
Posted:Aug 28, 2021 11:26 am
Last Updated:Aug 31, 2021 8:46 am

Thanks to porn, sex hook-up sites and 'urban myths', sexual misinformation can abound. Here's some factual information that may surprise you.

Women Get Erections Too
Women actually get erections in their genitals. Even though they’re smaller than the male counterpart, they are just as important, says Sadie Allison, DHS, a sexologist, founder of Tickle Kitty and author of Tickle His Pickle–Your Hands-On Guide to Penis Pleasing. “The clitoris is made up of the same spongy erectile tissue as the penis, which expands and engorges with blood when aroused,” she explains. “You can observe this—just look at your clitoris or touch it when you’re aroused and it will be bigger.”

A Headache Doesn't Lessen Everyone's Mood
Contrary to the popular cliché, “Not tonight, I have a headache,” one study found that not all headache sufferers avoid sexual activity. In fact, migraine sufferers reported higher levels of sexual desire according to the research done by the Wake Forest University School of Medicine and colleagues. Why? “Our study suggests that sexual desire and migraine headaches may be influenced by the same brain chemical,” said Timothy Houle, Ph.D., lead author and research assistant professor of anesthesiology

The Clitoris Is Way Bigger Than You Think It Is
In addition to the part of the clitoris you can see, there’s a much larger part, called the clitoral urethral vaginal complex that is nderneath the skin that also engorges with arousal, says Stella Harris, certified intimacy educator and sex coach and author of Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships. When a woman is aroused, the vaginal canal also lengthens as the uterus is pulled further upward into the body, the angle often changing as well. “Not only is this fascinating, but it’s one of the reasons that waiting for full arousal means having more pleasurable sex; sex is best when your body is ready,” she says.

The G spot Exists. Except It Doesn’t
“G spot" is a misnomer, as what we consider the ‘spot’ isn’t a discrete anatomical entity. Instead, it’s an area of the urethral sponge that is highly sensitive for many people. But bodies and arousal are complex, and there’s no sure-fire technique, or even erogenous zone, that works for everyone. So basically you may have a spot you identify as the G spot but it isn’t a spot and it won’t work the same for every woman

A Big Penis Won’t “stretch out” A Vagina
A weirdly popular myth is that having too much sex or having sex with a large partner or toy can stretch out a woman’s vagina and/or labia. The vaginal canal is a muscle and does not permanently stretch from having accommodated a large penis or toy. The vagina is incredibly resilient and bounces back quickly. Also, the shape and size of the labia are unique to each woman and are not indicative of her sexual status or history.

Penis Girth Is More Important Than Length
Many men like to compare the length of their penises but the only people who really care about that number are… other men. The vagina mainly is covered in stretch mechanoreceptors, which means that girth (or width) is a more important aspect of the penis for women, on average,” according to Nicole Prause, PhD, a sexual physiology researcher at the University of California, Los Angeles, and licensed psychologist.

More Thrusting Does Not Equal More Fun
Forget what you see in porn, “pounding”, or fast, hard thrusting, doesn’t turn most women on and it can actually cause pain and injury. The most common place women experience pain during sex is in the vulvar vestibule, just under the opening to the vagina, where a thin skin stretches underneath the opening that is very vulnerable to abrasion and tearing. This is why generally women do not benefit from (or want) prolonged ‘pounding,’ which just drags the penis repeatedly across this area, creating painful friction fairly quickly.

Masturbation Is Bad For You
Some masturbation myths are that it can make a man go blind; that it can lead to erectile dysfunction; and that it can cause sexual dysfunction in women.
In fact, specialists argue that there’s no such thing as masturbating too often and that it actually brings a plethora of health benefits, including released tension, eased menstrual cramps, and, no less importantly, a “roadmap for [the] body,”

A Cucumber Is Not A Sex Toy
Silicone, steel, Pyrex, glass, or specially laminated wood are the only materials that are actually safe for use inside your body. Toys made with vinyl, latex or a combination of these with other plastics (for example, a silicone-jelly mix) are not considered to be safe for skin contact and should only be used with a condom.
The Long Awaited Kiss
Posted:Aug 27, 2021 1:43 pm
Last Updated:Aug 28, 2021 5:26 pm

He moved towards her, closing his hand around her shoulder. Deliberately, he turned her around to face him.

“Whatever, you do, do not say you are sorry,” he said, “I am doing this for my reasons.”

She managed a smile. “I know. You are doing it because you can’t stop yourself. You are a guardian angel by nature.”

“No, I am doing it at least in part, because I have a few questions. But I must make something very clear.”

“And what would that be? ” she asked a little puzzled.

“Mostly, I am doing this because of you.”

She was not sure how she should respond but it didn’t matter because he kissed her then and she was stunned into speechlessness.

The kiss was not a ’s fantasy come true. It was much more, because she was a woman now and she knew enough about kissing to be able to judge his kiss.
It was not the kiss of her girlish dreams. There was nothing sweet or romantic or gently, seductive about it. This was all about primal, masculine desire and fiercely controlled passion. This was the kind of a kiss a man gave a woman when he sets out to make it clear, he wants her.

She knew intuitively there were different possible responses to such a kiss. She could return it with fervent interest or she could break free and walk back towards her car. There was no middle ground. There never would be with him.

For the first time in her life, she realized there was no middle ground for her either. She went all in, wrapping her arms around him and kissing him back with a sensual hunger she had never before experienced. Excitement sent adrenaline racing throughout her body.

He freed her lips and moved his mouth toward her ear, she was hot and cold, breathless and a little shaky. She clutched him, savouring his musky scent and the hard feel of his unyielding body. When she kissed the skin of his throat he exhaled deeply. She wasn’t sure if it was a sign of pleasure or surprise.

He used one finger to raise her chin. His mouth came back down on hers in another intense kiss. She could feel the heat of the fire smouldering just beneath the surface.

He shuddered, took a deep breath and held her slightly away from him. In the moonlight, his eyes were darkly brilliant.

Fascinated, she touched the side of this jaw. He turned his mouth into her hand and kissed her palm.

“Don’t tell me, you didn’t see this coming,” he said, his voice rough and edgy. “Because I sure didn’t.”

“I saw it coming,” she admitted. “But, it still caught me by surprise.”

“I didn’t think I could still get surprised like this.”

She smiled. “Years ago, I had a huge crush on you. But you barely knew I existed.”

He pushed her hair back from her face with his fingers. “You were just very young then.”

”Yes, I know, but I’m definitely not anymore.”

“So I noticed.” He brushed his mouth lightly across hers. “I would give a lot to take you to bed tonight but it’s probably too soon and there’s no bed.” It wasn’t a statement, she realized. It was a question.

“I’m sure the problem of a bed could be easily fixed,” she said. “But you are right, it’s too soon.” She slipped out of his embrace and headed back toward her car.

“Hey! You could have at least argued with me about the timing.”

She laughed and he did too. He caught up with her and kissed the tip of her nose and opened her car door.

She smiled confidently. “How will we know when the time is right?” she asked.

“Don’t worry, we will both know,”

Alphabet Soup
Posted:Aug 26, 2021 1:33 pm
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2021 7:07 pm

Many consider English to be one of the most complicated languages to learn.

This week I have been on a word so thought I would share these interesting facts:

Quick! Try naming five words that start with the letter L:

The list goes on and on. What "L" words did you immediately think of?

Now, try naming five words that start with the letter X:

Not so easy, right? What "X" words did you think of?

The Oxford English Dictionary only contains 400 words that begin with the letter X.

In Noah Webster’s Compendious Dictionary , published in 1806, there was only one word listed under the letter X: xebec, which meant, “a small three-masted vessel in the Mediterranean.” In 1828, when he put together his American Dictionary, that had only risen to . The list of words starting with the letter X continued to rise until it reached the 400 that we have today.

Now, can you guess the most common letter in the English language? Those hours of watching Wheel of Fortune might just off.

The most common letter in the English language is the letter E.

E is everywhere. In an analysis of all 240,000 entries in the Concise Oxford English Dictionary, the letter E appears in approximately % of all words which is about 6,000 more words than the runner-up letter, A. Did you know, E is the most commonly struck letter on your keyboard and the second most popular key after the space bar?

And for my American friends, there’s only one letter that’s not in any U.S. State Name. Can You Guess It? Hmmm, 50 states, only 25 letters. Which one's missing?

The answer is…Q. That’s right. 50 different names, and not one of them contains the letter Q. And, every very other letter shows up at least once.

If you guessed J or Z, though, you were close, and probably don’t live in New Jersey or Arizona, since those are the only states that contain J and Z respectively. There are a couple of other rare letters, too, that only show up twice. No states but Alabama and Nebraska have a B in their name, and California and Florida are the only state names that contain F. If X was your guess, you were also close but it is in New Mexico and Texas.

The only other letter with fewer than five appearances might surprise you: P! It’s only in Pennsylvania, New Hampshire, and Mississippi (the latter’s double-P bumps it up to four appearances, even though it’s only in three state names).
Losing Myself In A Book
Posted:Aug 25, 2021 1:45 pm
Last Updated:Aug 30, 2021 8:36 am

For as long as I can remember, reading and books have been important to me.
My favourite genres are crime-based fiction, mysteries and biographies

I continue to be a voracious reader. Every twenty-one days (the lending period at our public libraries), I load up my bookbag and head off to return the ten to twelve books that are due back. I also take a binder, with an alphabetized list of authors and their books that I have already read. it helps avert the disappointment o getting home, sitting down to read and after a few pages realizing, ah geez, I have already read this one. I

have passed the love of reading onto my too. She will complete a book in one sitting as she hates to face an unfinished book the next day. War and Peace was a rare exception!

I have tried adapting to an electronic reader but it just isn't the same. I love the feel of a book in my hands and turning the pages, wondering what twists and turns the story may take.
Word Power: Obscure Crossword Puzzle Words
Posted:Aug 24, 2021 1:28 pm
Last Updated:Aug 29, 2021 11:37 am

I have always prided myself on being a good speller and having a strong grasp of the English language. These attributes were developed at a young age through my love of reading and crossword puzzles.

Certain obscure words show up repeatedly in crossword puzzles because they’re short, full of vowels or both.

Here are some interesting ones. Test yourself to see how many you know.

A: Bacteria capable of causing sickness
B: Large bones in the upper half of the pelvis
C: Ear-shaped seashell

A: Tiny fish used to exfoliate feet
B: Craving to eat substances that aren’t foods
C: Hot pepper

A: Person with an intense interest in a topic
B: Narcotics officer
C: Aromatic Himalayan plant

A: Guard who remains immobile so long as there’s no threat
B: Covered walkway supported by evenly spaced columns
C: Unit of 100 soldiers

A: Accusation of betrayal
B: Musical composition for improving finger dexterity
C: Small ornamental case

A: Tall vase on a pedestal
B: Sea eagle
C: White fur made from ermine

Answer: B—Large bones in the upper half of the pelvis
As in, “Sylvia fractured both her ilia by falling off her motorcycle.”

Answer: B—Craving to eat substances that aren’t foods
As in, “Young aren’t usually diagnosed with pica because it’s normal for them to chew on everything.”

Answer: C—Aromatic Himalayan plant
As in, “Nard is mentioned in the Bible as an erotic scent.”

Answer: B—Covered walkway supported by evenly spaced columns
As in, “The Stoa Poikile (“painted stoa”) of ancient Athens featured illustrations of battles.”

Answer: C—Small ornamental case
As in, “Grandma kept sewing needles and a thimble in an antique silk etui.”

Answer: B—Sea eagle
As in, “An erne snatched a fish from just under the water’s surface.”

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