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Basic Communication Expectations- Updated 2019
Posted:Dec 10, 2019 7:57 am
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2020 6:13 am
It seems every year brings a new technological twist the world of online dating. Since my 2011 post, numerous apps that have been created make it possible connect with more people (theĀ  powers be won't let name them here, but you can figure which ones are trending). As with any good thing, there are inevitably those learn how exploit the latest technology for nefarious purposes. Therefore, better reflect the new realities, here is what I generally expect when I enter into communication with a potential lover:

1. Get acquainted via several exchanges on this site. If you ask for an right away, is an automatic scammer alert and the conversation is over. Period.

2. Exchange cell and . If the comfort level isn't quite there, use an alternate platform.

3. At some point, it is prudent talk on the phone, or set up video chat. If you are not willing do this get know each other, then it likely is not going go anywhere. Not have a cell phone? Sorry, cell phones can be obtained for free by even the most destitute-- lie is no longer even remotely convincing. What happens if I give you a call, and discover it is a text only number? Goodbye--you are a scammer from another country, or a guy masquerading as a woman.

3. Finally, If all goes well, we set up a time and place meet AND if it goes REALLY well, then spend time getting "intimately" aquainted...

Sound a bit rigid and regimented? Maybe, but at the core of this is plain common sense and courtesy. I don't believe the "requirements" are harsh or unreasonable, as there there are many ways both parties can ensure a safe experience before meeting. So, now all of is of the way.. let's be real!
What 20+ years in Minnesota can do to you..
Posted:Sep 17, 2016 8:05 am
Last Updated:Jun 23, 2020 7:09 pm

I talked to a new friend from the east coast last night, and she told me I sound like I am from Minnesota. I guess that wouldn't be so bad, except that I grew up on the east coast and having been a professional speaker for a number of years I have tried to avoid the Fargo-like lingo. Ouch!
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The New Instant Messenger
Posted:Sep 12, 2016 2:25 pm
Last Updated:Sep 12, 2016 2:32 pm
I periodically attempt to use instant messenger here, but seldom do I carry on conversations. I have read the issues continue to abound with the new IM. What has been your experience (that is, if you are an IM user)?
State Fair Time
Posted:Aug 26, 2016 2:17 pm
Last Updated:Feb 19, 2020 6:26 am

It's is the "unofficial" end of summer, the Minnesota State Fair is on, which started yesterday and runs through Labor Day.

Do you attend? If so, do you go on a weekend or weekday? And what is your favorite part of the fair.. food, crowds, grandstand concerts, or....
One night stands
Posted:Aug 22, 2016 8:24 pm
Last Updated:Apr 14, 2020 10:56 am

I believe most everyone understands the stigma associated with one-night stands, most notably casual, detached sex. My profile clearly states that I seek and desire ongoing sexual intimacy, because the sex gets better when you are with another person repeatedly -- you get to know what turns each other on, your bodily rhythms, and to anticipate when you are most in need, and what you are in need of.

I had an encounter not too long ago with a woman that was, from outside appearances, out of my league. She is 20 years younger than me and very stunning and well dressed (I am far from perfect, and I don't seek a Barbie-type woman -- chemistry is what I look for first and foremost). During our initial meeting over drinks the woman said she was a total sapiosexual and loves older men. A few days later she invited me up to her apartment. After she let me in we began to kiss. After 10 seconds or so the kisses became French, and I could feel our bodies aching to become one. She walked to the other side of the room, kicked her flats off and promptly removed her dress. I followed suit with taking my clothes off. She then took my hand and led me to her bed where we engaged in several minutes of foreplay before she made it clear that she wanted me insider her. As I mounted her there was a bit of hesitation, as she, though tall, was thin and being a bigger guy, was afraid I would crush her. That wasn't a problem as she promptly wrapped her legs around me tightly, pulling me deeper inside. Her blue eyes met mine with a deliberate gaze and I felt as close as you can get with another human being. With every pump I felt her juices flow and heard the words and moans of pleasure as her eyes begged me to surrender my cum to her, which I did with total abandon. Afterwards, we enjoyed some laughter and witty conversation before we had to go our separate ways for the day. Later in the afternoon she texted to say thank you for making love to her, and that it was wonderful, and looked forward to seeing me again upon returning from a trip.

Fast forward to her return three weeks later.. the woman texted me to say that after careful contemplation she decided that she didn't want to see me anymore, and that she felt used by me. Now, I knew deep in my heart that I didn't use her -- our meeting was very much a mutual exchange. You know that saying "if it's too good to be true, it probably is?" Well, I can't say that I was surprised, hearkening back to my hesitation during our initial meeting. Apparently she was expecting some financial compensation for our encounter (and future ones), and I later found out she had several well-heeled "suitors" that enabled her to live an opulent lifestyle.

I never enter a sexual relationship with a woman with the intent on it being a one-time thing, but sometimes through no fault of your own, it happens... ]
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Encountered my sexual soulmate this evening..
Posted:Aug 18, 2016 8:22 pm
Last Updated:Feb 19, 2020 6:30 am

Problem is, she lives on the east coast. Isn't that the way it always turns out?
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Adult resort fantasy
Posted:Mar 9, 2011 7:37 am
Last Updated:Jun 22, 2021 4:47 pm

I was having a conversation recently with a friend that is very active in the lifestyle, and has been to numerous adult parties and resorts in Minnesota and Wisconsin. It brought to mind a long-standing fantasy I have....

I am at an adult campground, where clothing is optional. I go to the tiki bar, grab a drink, and begin socializing with people. I strike up a conversation with a woman (never mind that neither of us have clothes on). We sit down and have a wonderful conversation about our lives, interests and the lifestyle. Pretty soon, we begin to notice a few couples that have stepped away from the bar area, and gone to be intimate in the nearby grass leading to the lake -- off in the distance, yet still in full view of everyone. We both glance at one another, smile, and take one anothers hand as we go off to find our own place on the grass.

The summer sun is shining as we lay down and wrap our bodies around one another -- passionate kisses, our hands moving briskly over each other, glancing into one anothers eyes, and then we enter one another. Seeing other couples (without gawking) nearby enjoying themselves in complete freedom in the great outdoors is a real turn on for both of us, and we soon found ourselves becoming one with each other and nature. We both have earth-shattering orgasms (hmm perhaps the earth was shattering because of the other couples nearby, lol). After "afterglowing" in each others arms, we get up and return to the larger group at the bar area, our smiles evident to everyone there

Have any of you (men or women) ever fantasized about this or a similar scenario? Furthermore, have you actually lived this out? Would love to read your thoughts and experiences.
Wondering if...
Posted:Feb 25, 2011 6:56 am
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2019 9:17 am

the Goo-Goo Dolls and Lady Gaga hit the road together, would they call it the Goo-Goo/Gaga tour?
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Back to the "Icebox".....
Posted:Feb 24, 2011 8:47 am
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2019 9:18 am

Once again, we are back to below zero temps, at least during the morning -- depressing for sure. I was beginning to get a glimmer of hope that at the end of February we were passed that. Apparently not yet.

I have been finding myself dreaming of leaves on the trees, green grass.. a blanket.. and a woman that has no qualms about disrobing in the great outdoors and making love under the sun, or stars....
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For the guys.. and maybe the gals too!
Posted:Jan 25, 2010 8:13 am
Last Updated:Jan 25, 2010 8:15 am

Virtually all of us masturbate at one time or another. Some more than others. Having a strong sex drive, I do it just about everyday. Yet if I go two or more days without ejaculating, I find the pleasure that much more intense. If I know I am going to be getting together with a woman, I deliberately "hold back" as long as possible to maximize the pleasure not only for me, but also for my lover (if she desires to be filled with my load).

I find drinking plenty of water and eating healthy keeps the semen prodction up and flowing naturally.

What do you think? Does daily masturbation diminish your drive and pleasure? Do you prefer to hold back as long as you can? For the men, some say that daily ejaculation increses the semen production, so for some it is still a win-win scenario. Gals, if you masturbate frequently, does it also diminish you in the event that you have a real-time meeting set up?
A wonderful weekend....
Posted:Nov 17, 2009 6:13 pm
Last Updated:Jun 2, 2020 6:16 pm

I recently went to a private party at a hotel in Wisconsin. While I am not completely used to "swingers" lifestyles and parties, I met a number of wonderful people that share my views on sexuality, yet are genuinely nice people -- in-and-out of the bedroom. On top of that, I met a woman that I connected with on many different levels.. so much so my body and soul aches for her...

It is too bad people are not as open here in Minnesota's northwoods...
Sleeping With a Sex Partner
Posted:Dec 18, 2019 2:09 pm
Last Updated:Jun 4, 2020 11:16 am
Yes, I mean the literal sense of sleeping!

For some people, time constraints don't permit it. For others primarily want just fuck, sleeping together is just too intimate. Then, you have men (like myself) are multi-orgasmic when bonding with a woman.

is synopsis of a night I had with a lover all-too long ago:

I rang the doorbell, she greeted with a hug and kiss, then after locking the door, we loosed the clothes and headed the bathroom for an erotic shower (more on that in a future blog post). After drying another off (and both of us quite ready for each other) she took her bed and brought inside her. Both of us were quite horny at the outset, and the pure, raw release of cuming the first time happened within 10 minutes.

After we caught our breath and cooled down, I snuggled up with lover, savoring the sensation of cupping her breasts from behind as her body fit the contours of mine, placing her feet on the front legs, helping complete the full body spoon. We fell asleep, totally relaxed. We woke up slightly separated, then I snuggled up to her again, this time hands massaging her breasts. I grow hard and our bodies began to writhe in rhythmic desire. I turned lover on her back, and once again, we entered another, this time even more intense and passionate than the first. Afterwards, we fell asleep, this time a much deeper sleep.

Finally, with the light of day, we awoke and once again I was intensely desiring lover-- we need cum together more time before we go our separate ways for the day--so, after some intense foreplay (which involved deep kissing), I entered lover, she wrapped herself around and, for the 3rd time in 10 hours, we established our rhythm. After I knew she was satisfied, lover then proceeded draw the last of cum for her. final orgasm, and I was effectively and completely "milked dry" and satiated beyond comprehension.

This was the most wonderful, fulfilling night of I have enjoyed in recent memory. Yes, a evening date that includes (before of after-- or both) is still awesome, but if you are seeking a much deeper, significant fulfillment and satisfaction, an all-nighter is the way go.
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Tonight's the Night!
Posted:Dec 19, 2019 6:58 am
Last Updated:Dec 19, 2019 4:05 pm
After 42 years, the "Skywalker Saga" comes to the end. And I will be there for it.

I rarely scramble to get opening night tickets, but with a busy weekend planned, and the of spoilers abounding, I have to do it.... One more time!

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