The Sunday Morning Post  

secret_lade 48F  
14627 posts
1/23/2022 8:21 am
The Sunday Morning Post


It's been a peaceful weekend....

I sit on my couch, watching the new season of Ozark, and look around at my little house. It's a feeling....

Comfort.

You just can't put a price on comfort.

I dropped my phone on the cement floor of my office last week.

Of course it broke because I didn't have it in a case nor did I have a screen protector on it....

But, it didn't really bother me because I think I may have paid $100 tops for it. I NEVER buy myself anything expensive....

I'm a single mom.

There are SO many other things I need to worry about, having something fancy is not one of them.

If given a choice between food in the fridge and a phone to show off, I choose food in the fridge.

So, I found myself online looking for a replacement phone when I realized....

You know? It wouldn't really kill me to get a decent phone.

As much as I love and miss the Mighty Marine, there was a significant amount of financial responsibility lifted from my shoulders when he left.

It was at that point that I felt relief and guilt all rolled up into one.

Relief at the thought that.... money that once went to pay his phone bill and put extra groceries in my fridge was now just sitting in my account. After having lived for years on a shoestring budget, I've gotten so good at it that it's just a way of life for me now.

Guilt at the thought that.... This relief comes from losing my Mighty Marine.

I found myself texting the Mighty Marine and telling him my plan.

A plan that he was excited to hear about.

"You deserve that Ma. You do everything for us."

So, I did.

I found myself buying an iPhone, not the latest and greatest, but current enough that it was expensive as shit.

I'm surprised my heart palpitations didn't kill me as I was taking it out of the box.....

Fortunately for me, I lived. Also fortunately for me, I was able to take the sim chip out of my old, broken phone and put it into the new, shiny model and I was once again, back in business.

This time, however.....

This time I will be using a phone case and a screen protector.

I've longed for the day when I would feel comfort once again. It's been a really long time....

This morning, though.... This morning I wish, from the depths of my heart, that I wasn't doing it all alone. I miss having someone by my side.

WyoCowboy7751 68M  
2537 posts
1/24/2022 6:16 am

How many times a day do you still catch yourself trying to Flip the phone Open to answer it or make a call ?? I still occasionally catch myself doing that with my phone 😖🤠


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/24/2022 1:53 am

    Quoting MrWrong4RghtNow:
    Im glad you upgraded finally. I also don't need the latest model but like having a phone that can update the newest IOS. Simple things. Lol
    Oh and keep it on vibrate.
LOL I will definitely keep it on vibrate.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/24/2022 1:51 am

    Quoting MrRareity:
    I am happy for you that you decided to spurge on yourself. I can understand the feeling of comfort. I don't know if this will make any sense to you but I feel the comfort in my home but I don't. I think I know why and I'm working on it. I also understand missing having someone by your side. I think your such a wonderful woman that you will find that special person.
It does make sense to me... There were times when I lived in the apartment that I felt that way, myself. There would be times when everything was relaxed and comfortable, hanging out at home was enjoyable, but my terrible neighbors would always manage to add an underlying element of disruption. You couldn't really, truly be comfortable when you could hear them yelling or smell their cigarette smoke all the time.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/24/2022 1:34 am

    Quoting  :

There have been times in my life when I may have treated myself a lil too much too... I think we all go through it. You can easily justify a new car with the need for reliable transportation too and from work... But, do you 'really' need a new car? When the old one is still only a few years old? Probably not...


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/24/2022 1:21 am

    Quoting NewOrleansDaddy4:
    I'm glad you can accept the good things that happen. It's always a good feeling.
It's not always easy accepting the good things... In the back of your mind you're always thinking, it just seems *too* good, what's about to happen??


MrWrong4RghtNow 55M  
2439 posts
1/24/2022 12:37 am

Im glad you upgraded finally. I also don't need the latest model but like having a phone that can update the newest IOS. Simple things. Lol
Oh and keep it on vibrate.

My name is MrWrong and I approved this comment


MrRareity 62M  
4589 posts
1/23/2022 9:19 pm

I am happy for you that you decided to spurge on yourself. I can understand the feeling of comfort. I don't know if this will make any sense to you but I feel the comfort in my home but I don't. I think I know why and I'm working on it. I also understand missing having someone by your side. I think your such a wonderful woman that you will find that special person.

We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious


NewOrleansDaddy4 47M
14 posts
1/23/2022 5:21 pm

I'm glad you can accept the good things that happen. It's always a good feeling.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 4:48 pm

    Quoting citizen4722:
    I do have a decent phone but not an i-Phone. I'd never use it enough to warrant buying one.
    You have no reason to feel guilty at all.
Not going to lie.... the main reason I got an iPhone was so I could FaceTime with my kids, especially my son. Being really far away is easier on me when I can see his face from time to time.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 4:45 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    I've been planning to upgrade my phone but kept putting it off. The phone I wanted was a very nice Samsung phone, just not one of the high dollar ones. Then we hit the end of the year....and 5G phones are now out. The $200 phone I was planning to get is no longer available because it's 4G. Now the cheapest phone they have is $700. That's a hell of a difference! But I may have to do it because they will be phasing out 4G phones over the next few years. I about had a heart attack when I saw the price of one of the phones my carrier sells....$1800! For a freakin phone!!! Prices are just insane for that kind of stuff...
    I hope you enjoy your new phone and have fun learning it!
Both the Spawn and Mighty Marine are teaching me the things I cannot figure out.... Which is a lot, at the moment. LOL I did manage to link it up with my car, all on my own, and get it set up with Honda Link and navigation.... So I am pretty impressed with myself at the moment. I was also able to link it up with my Fitbit as well so I now get text notifications and phone call alerts there too.


pagancountrygirl 64F  
6466 posts
1/23/2022 2:46 pm

I've been planning to upgrade my phone but kept putting it off. The phone I wanted was a very nice Samsung phone, just not one of the high dollar ones. Then we hit the end of the year....and 5G phones are now out. The $200 phone I was planning to get is no longer available because it's 4G. Now the cheapest phone they have is $700. That's a hell of a difference! But I may have to do it because they will be phasing out 4G phones over the next few years. I about had a heart attack when I saw the price of one of the phones my carrier sells....$1800! For a freakin phone!!! Prices are just insane for that kind of stuff...
I hope you enjoy your new phone and have fun learning it!

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
1/23/2022 1:19 pm

I do have a decent phone but not an i-Phone. I'd never use it enough to warrant buying one.
You have no reason to feel guilty at all.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 11:49 am

    Quoting boobwhisperer69:
    Glad you are realizing your worth!!!! It's time!!! Hugs
Well, thank you.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 11:48 am

    Quoting spunkycumfun:
    It's good you are treating yourself with the money now going spare.
I had to psych myself up to do it, to be honest. LOL It may not be the latest version, but it was still VERY expensive. Egads....


spunkycumfun 61M/67F  
41166 posts
1/23/2022 11:37 am

It's good you are treating yourself with the money now going spare.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 11:29 am

    Quoting 69ereatwetpussy:
    I to never spend money on thing I know will brake or lose
    I had bought a new charger cord and with out my glasses on I push it in my phone it wou charger so the iPad sitting next to it and didn't charge. Then I got my glass on and it was the right charger I wound up crushing the pins in the phone and iPad now neither one I could charge. So off to the Verizon store 2 hour later walked out with the basic flip phoneand iPad.
    Yet the guy next to me was getting a 500.00 phone in blue the hot color this year. The next person want one phone that was not in shock and be 3 mouth before it come in.
    Some people have to have the late and best funnier every on the self is out dated wait5 for you to uy so after they bring out the next model. Sucker born every day and two to take.
Note to self... Start wearing your glasses! I used to be one of those that always wanted to be cutting edge. This was back when I was still married and money wasn't really an issue.... It's funny how your perspective changes over the years.


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 11:22 am

    Quoting EnigmaInitiative:
    You do deserve it!

    I finally gave in and spent real money on a iPhone. Like you, it's not the latest and greatest, but it definitely set me back a pretty penny. It was hard, I felt guilty, but in the end....I'm glad I did it.

    After my phone screen shattering incident, I now have a screen protector on.

    Enjoy your purchase, it sure made a difference for me.
I'm going from android to iPhone so it's been interesting! Ugh.... But, I'd had my phone for about 3 hours when my Marine FaceTimed me to talk about my new phone. Giving me pointers and tips.... He, on the other hand, does have the latest and greatest version. Stinker!


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 11:12 am

    Quoting lickeyzsplit:
    Cool ! Enjoy your new purchase you more than deserve to spoil yourself a bit ! Being a parent is the most under rated job in the world and being a single parent is 10X tougher ! Any man that could win your heart would be so incredibly lucky !! Hope Love and Kindness will find you ! You Deserve it !
It is the most under rated job in the world.... Nobody ever says, thanks Mom! I really enjoyed having electricity today.... It was fantastic being warm and dry in the middle of winter.... I really appreciate the fact that I was able to come home and eat snacks until you got home from work and made dinner....


boobwhisperer69 59M  
8324 posts
1/23/2022 10:45 am

Glad you are realizing your worth!!!! It's time!!! Hugs


69ereatwetpussy 59M  
6784 posts
1/23/2022 10:27 am

I to never spend money on thing I know will brake or lose
I had bought a new charger cord and with out my glasses on I push it in my phone it wou charger so the iPad sitting next to it and didn't charge. Then I got my glass on and it was the right charger I wound up crushing the pins in the phone and iPad now neither one I could charge. So off to the Verizon store 2 hour later walked out with the basic flip phoneand iPad.
Yet the guy next to me was getting a 500.00 phone in blue the hot color this year. The next person want one phone that was not in shock and be 3 mouth before it come in.
Some people have to have the late and best funnier every on the self is out dated wait5 for you to uy so after they bring out the next model. Sucker born every day and two to take.


The_guy38 39M
39 posts
1/23/2022 9:51 am

self care is important! Making sure you have nice things counts <3


EnigmaInitiative 53F  
6054 posts
1/23/2022 9:40 am

You do deserve it!

I finally gave in and spent real money on a iPhone. Like you, it's not the latest and greatest, but it definitely set me back a pretty penny. It was hard, I felt guilty, but in the end....I'm glad I did it.

After my phone screen shattering incident, I now have a screen protector on.

Enjoy your purchase, it sure made a difference for me.

This week's HNW: Pink/Hearts (Or Chocolate) is available on the other side.


lickeyzsplit 59M  
1516 posts
1/23/2022 9:18 am

Cool ! Enjoy your new purchase you more than deserve to spoil yourself a bit ! Being a parent is the most under rated job in the world and being a single parent is 10X tougher ! Any man that could win your heart would be so incredibly lucky !! Hope Love and Kindness will find you ! You Deserve it !


secret_lade 48F  
9227 posts
1/23/2022 8:22 am

It's been a peaceful weekend....

I sit on my couch, watching the new season of Ozark, and look around at my little house. It's a feeling....

Comfort.

You just can't put a price on comfort.

I dropped my phone on the cement floor of my office last week.

Of course it broke because I didn't have it in a case nor did I have a screen protector on it....

But, it didn't really bother me because I think I may have paid $100 tops for it. I NEVER buy myself anything expensive....

I'm a single mom.

There are SO many other things I need to worry about, having something fancy is not one of them.

If given a choice between food in the fridge and a phone to show off, I choose food in the fridge.

So, I found myself online looking for a replacement phone when I realized....

You know? It wouldn't really kill me to get a decent phone.

As much as I love and miss the Mighty Marine, there was a significant amount of financial responsibility lifted from my shoulders when he left.

It was at that point that I felt relief and guilt all rolled up into one.

Relief at the thought that.... money that once went to pay his phone bill and put extra groceries in my fridge was now just sitting in my account. After having lived for years on a shoestring budget, I've gotten so good at it that it's just a way of life for me now.

Guilt at the thought that.... This relief comes from losing my Mighty Marine.

I found myself texting the Mighty Marine and telling him my plan.

A plan that he was excited to hear about.

"You deserve that Ma. You do everything for us."

So, I did.

I found myself buying an iPhone, not the latest and greatest, but current enough that it was expensive as shit.

I'm surprised my heart palpitations didn't kill me as I was taking it out of the box.....

Fortunately for me, I lived. Also fortunately for me, I was able to take the sim chip out of my old, broken phone and put it into the new, shiny model and I was once again, back in business.

This time, however.....

This time I will be using a phone case and a screen protector.

I've longed for the day when I would feel comfort once again. It's been a really long time....

This morning, though.... This morning I wish, from the depths of my heart, that I wasn't doing it all alone. I miss having someone by my side.


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