Older Women's Sexuality  

kcclaire0923 67F  
415 posts
8/12/2018 10:42 am
Older Women's Sexuality

I was just reading a blog about whether or not older women in their 50s, 60's and 70's are still "fuckable." I found it quite comical, a question such as that. I, of course responded as did a few others in our age group. I have been divorced for 11 years now and have never, ever enjoyed sex as much as I have at this time in my life. In fact, my libido went so high at first that I went to my doctor to be sure there wasn't anything medically wrong with me. I gave her my symptoms...

1) I want sex often and think about it every single day.
2) Literally, I go through so many towels each time I have sex that I have to wash them in order to take a shower the next day! I have never used a lubricant because I don't need to! It's like I need to keep a mop in my bedroom....lol
3) The sexual energy I have now is almost scary; I am told I am LOUD when I have an orgasm. One guy said we could never go to a hotel because security would be at the door immediately!
4) I will use my "devices" for long periods of time if for some reason I am not having sex for awhile.

My doctor explained that sometimes older women's sex drives increase after menopause for a number of reasons. Could be the hormone change, or even the fact that we can relax now and not be inhibited anymore if we have been in a relationship/marriage that wasn't a happy or satisfying one.

That explained me to a perfect "T." So she patted my shoulder, re-assured me that medically I was just fine and to go on and enjoy my sexuality...and she said she was jealous....lolol

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kcclaire0923 67F  
822 posts
8/12/2018 10:50 am

Of course it is never a good idea to be "promiscuous" with a high sex drive. To be safe, its better to get to know someone first and meet in a public place for the first time. Many times over the years I have left a first meet with one excuse or another and immediately blocked that person from further contact.

Could have been deception on his part or he was out of line in a very bad way. But the majority I have met have been nice enough to continue seeing for awhile and to enjoy the sexual part of the "friendship." Safer to practice monogamy and safe sex.

idblueswoman 63F  
830 posts
8/12/2018 10:57 am

I am certainly jealous. No HTR here, thining vaginal walls, painful intercourse, it sucks.

allgud69xxx 49M
502 posts
8/12/2018 2:25 pm

That's sums up this society, and women in it, pretty succinctly, doesn't it? Women are given so many conflicting messages, from the time they're growing up. They're supposed to the objects of desire (at least how society portrays it), but aren't supposed to want, and definitely not enjoy, sex (remember, good girls don't). There's the ridiculous way that knowledge about pleasure is shared, in general (up until the internet solved that problem starting about 10 years ago? lol!). Add in all the actual concerns around having kids, managing relationships, etc. - is it that much wonder that womens' sex drive somehow gets lost in the shuffle?

I do like the thinking that there's something wrong with you. Epic societal fail! As a consolation, you do get to enjoy the experience to an admirable degree now. That's what really matters out of it, right? Well, and knowing that there is actually nothing wrong with you. For guys who can't figure out not to treat you properly - their loss, especially if they hadn't yet found out just how much you enjoy such experiences. Bet they'd be kicking themselves if they knew.

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LakeRidgeBBWSeek 61M
3847 posts
8/12/2018 3:50 pm

I can say YES to that question, for sure ! Now I have yet to go to bed with any gal 70 & older, but I have been to bed with women who were older enuf from my age that they would be 70 or older now, and in my mind I still think of them as being sensous & se y AND desirable!
Now isnt to say I dont like younger women, but I am practical, and question highly why any women more than 20 years younger than me would want to got to bed with ME ! The only time I have been to bed with a woman more than 20 years younger was a special case, she wasnt really into me, she was giving the present of a FMF 3sum to a friend, whom I was dating. The youngest from me I ever bedded, was 18 yrs my junior, and she appeared much older than than she was, AND, as I leanred later, had always been attracted to men old enuf to be her father, as she thought men her age were imature. Sigh, she learned after me tho that older men could be just as imature as younger men.

Bpdubbs27 28M

8/12/2018 4:09 pm

As a 24 year old college student who is strictly attracted to women in their mid forties +, I have never had as great, fun amazing sex as I have with women in their 50s and 60s. We do usually go through several towels every time we have fun together, if there are any beautiful mature women in the upper peninsula of Michigan or the Tampa area of Florida who are interested in guys my age, please friend and message me.

hotmamainpet 57F

8/13/2018 4:02 am

I have noticed since menopause and coming out of a marriage that I am much "hotter" than ever...
The last man I was with told me to request a soundproof room (and order more towels)
It only gets better.

MissCinders 56F
1533 posts
8/13/2018 12:59 pm

A 58 yr old man asking the question. I agreed with the one comment that if he has to ask this there must be something wrong with him. He should worry about himself and make sure his almost 60 yr old ass can still get it up. FFS is right!!!

NJGUY08090 55M
4307 posts
7/13/2020 9:20 am

You sound perfect to me. Enjoy everything and do not think anything is wrong with you. Luckily you have so much right with you at this time of your life. Have fun and enjoy it all

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