I Just Wanna Stop... and Tell You What I feel...  

Paulxx001 65M  
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4/16/2019 8:11 am

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I Just Wanna Stop... and Tell You What I feel...

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Everyone has had, someone they've loved, or perhaps... someone they thought - they loved. I had.

It was '1979'... my band was just starting out. We were young, arrogant, confident.... and fucking talented. We thought we were on top of the world. When we'd p.lay a.t dances and events, they'd always have a table reserved, for the band and our 'guests' - our girlfriends. Privileged young ladies in their prime. They were dressed to the nines and proudly strutted, into a hall... as if they owned it. They walked with as much sass, ass and style... as you could possibly imagine. Everyone knew them as... the "band widows".

Nobody... in the hall would ever, approach them. To talk to them, would be a "no - no". They sat there, stoically. Soaking in the vibe and stroking our egos, when we'd take a break. Always reminding us, how great, we were playing. Regardless of any fuck ups on stage. They were our Queens... and we were their Kings.

At the time, there was a song playing on the charts, written by a Montrealer, named Gino Vannelli. He wrote this song called, "I Just Wanna Stop" . I only danced this song with her, once. It was in a huge hall and the DJ working with us, played it for me. We held each other, as if we were afraid to let go.... as if we were going to be together, forever.

Of course... t.hat never happened. Things moved on. Coincidentally, today I watched the morning news and they had Gino on, promoting his set of concerts here - in Montreal this week. More coincidence. Last night, I got a t.ext from a friend, about t.hat g.irl... the one I danced with. I thought about her and this song. Maybe you have a special song t.hat reminds you of someone. I hope you do. It's one of the best feelings in the world. No matter how long, or how short, t.hat feeling might have lasted.

Yep... I hope you do!

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Here are the lyrics... and the U Tube link... is a.t the bottom of the page. Check it out and perhaps, you might feel the vibe I felt with her... so many y.ears ago...
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Gino Vannelli
"I Just Wanna Stop"


For your love
When I think about those nights in Montreal
I get the sweetest thoughts' of you and m.e
Memories of love above the city lights
Ooh, I tried so hard to take it
But oh Lord my heart won't make it

I just wanna stop
And tell you what I feel about you babe
I just wanna stop
I never wanna live without you babe
I just gotta stop
For your love

When I think about the way the world must turn
I get the saddest thoughts for you and me
Memories of life and times go on and on
Ooh, I've tried s.o hard to forget it
But oh Lord my mind won't let it

I just wanna stop
And tell you what I feel about you babe
I just wanna stop
The world ain't right without you babe
I just wanna stop
For your love

Ooo, I've tried so hard to take it
But oh Lord my heart won't make it

I just wanna stop
And tell you what I feel about you babe
I just wanna stop
The world ain't right without you babe
I just wanna stop
For your love


https://youtu.be/PbF4-Zla3UY
or search... Gino Vannelli I Just Wanna Stop

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Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 8:11 am

We learned to play this song and played it once or twice. But with all due respect... we didn't have the three female backup singers to ever make it sound as worthy, so we took it off our playlist. Great song. Maybe you have one, that reminds you of someone special? What is it?


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 8:12 am

Here's the link to the song again... in case A F F butchered it up...

https://youtu.be/PbF4-Zla3UY


author51 59F  
130010 posts
4/16/2019 8:19 am

Oh my fellow musician and band mate... I can honestly say I understand everything but I had men band widows, instead.. Love Gino and that song..

Whatever the news was my friend, you are in my thoughts..

Mine was Sentimental Lady by Bob Welch which I have blogged about. The night I lost my virginity to a guy I dated for three years back in the day.. He became, when I moved back here MY LTR for 8 years as well I have blogged about before too..For me Sentimental Lady has a special place tucked away in my heart... xoxo


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 8:23 am

Oh and by the way.... That title picture on my main blog page? That's the drum kit I played with all those years. I still play from time to time That kit... totally KICKED ASS! Love the "blue baby" . 😘❤️


author51 59F  
130010 posts
4/16/2019 8:29 am

    Quoting author51:
    Oh my fellow musician and band mate... I can honestly say I understand everything but I had men band widows, instead.. Love Gino and that song..

    Whatever the news was my friend, you are in my thoughts..

    Mine was Sentimental Lady by Bob Welch which I have blogged about. The night I lost my virginity to a guy I dated for three years back in the day.. He became, when I moved back here MY LTR for 8 years as well I have blogged about before too..For me Sentimental Lady has a special place tucked away in my heart... xoxo
I will say he was proud of me when I was singing and give any man the evil eye when at a bar during our breaks who would either want to buy me a drink or come over and compliment me.. I kind of miss that...


redmustang91 62M
9760 posts
4/16/2019 8:40 am

Music, like aromas, touches the memory in ways that few things do.


Tmptrzz 59F  
107033 posts
4/16/2019 10:45 am

Happy Tuesday to you, and sounds like you have some wonderful memories of days gone by. That's a great song thanks for sharing it with us. I hope your day is a good one..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


SolarPowered0 116M
8346 posts
4/16/2019 11:48 am



Mighty fine post, Paul...

I can feel the vibe, Bud!! Well... at least I can imagine the vibe.

As a side-note: Ya know... I didn't think they let Italians into Montreal. I know when I was there ( 1991 ), they couldn't WAIT for me to drag my ass back to the states! In fact, they offered to do it for me. Now, you take a gander at that photo of me--do you really think I was gonna argue with a bunch of bob-sleddin' French lumberjacks wearin' hockey masks?

I completely understand how you can look back and feel nostalgic about them band-babes...

I used to do road-work for a number of groups back in the late 60's. ( I won't divulge them--I ain't gonna be seen around here as a "name-dropper." Suffice to say... they were well known. )

I can look back and think about them hot little critters, too... with such tunes as "Piece of my Heart"... and "Back Door Man"--they bring to remembrance all those days and nights of nasty little buzzards waitin' in the wings.

I doubt there was much in the way of "love" involved, though. And I never even thought twice about bein' stuck with the leftovers. Sexy little skanks ( even the rejects ) are still sexy little skanks! Especially when ya got yer choice... and a microwave for re-heatin'. Am I right--or what?!

Here's a tune from my early days of critter snaggin'... from them days of "drug-infused" love-dream memories--

https://youtu.be/vGsq1K7f_yc

Yep--Sexy little skanks--ya just gotta "LOVE" 'em all!

Solar...



Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 12:13 pm

    Quoting author51:
    Oh my fellow musician and band mate... I can honestly say I understand everything but I had men band widows, instead.. Love Gino and that song..

    Whatever the news was my friend, you are in my thoughts..

    Mine was Sentimental Lady by Bob Welch which I have blogged about. The night I lost my virginity to a guy I dated for three years back in the day.. He became, when I moved back here MY LTR for 8 years as well I have blogged about before too..For me Sentimental Lady has a special place tucked away in my heart... xoxo
Great songs, for sure! Funny how music trips our memory. 😊


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 12:16 pm

    Quoting author51:
    I will say he was proud of me when I was singing and give any man the evil eye when at a bar during our breaks who would either want to buy me a drink or come over and compliment me.. I kind of miss that...
Yep... That is so true. We gave the same evil eye to anyone trying to hit on our women. They never gave that other guy the time of day. It's quite the trip. Those were the days... lol 😘 Only a fellow musician might be able to relate... 😁


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 12:17 pm

    Quoting redmustang91:
    Music, like aromas, touches the memory in ways that few things do.
True on both counts! 😊
Thanks for popping in. Drop by any time! 👍


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 12:30 pm

    Quoting  :

Oooo... All of them.. Great songs! 👍 Annie's Day! ❤️
For me, each one of those songs, brings up a different memory... Interesting stuff!
Thanks for sharing... Yep... Memories.. Strange little fellas! 😊
Ever hear that song I was talking about?


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 12:33 pm

    Quoting Tmptrzz:
    Happy Tuesday to you, and sounds like you have some wonderful memories of days gone by. That's a great song thanks for sharing it with us. I hope your day is a good one..
Thanks for popping in and glad to hear that you liked that song. I liked it. Take care and have a great rest of the day! 😊


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 12:54 pm

    Quoting SolarPowered0:


    Mighty fine post, Paul...

    I can feel the vibe, Bud!! Well... at least I can imagine the vibe.

    As a side-note: Ya know... I didn't think they let Italians into Montreal. I know when I was there ( 1991 ), they couldn't WAIT for me to drag my ass back to the states! In fact, they offered to do it for me. Now, you take a gander at that photo of me--do you really think I was gonna argue with a bunch of bob-sleddin' French lumberjacks wearin' hockey masks?

    I completely understand how you can look back and feel nostalgic about them band-babes...

    I used to do road-work for a number of groups back in the late 60's. ( I won't divulge them--I ain't gonna be seen around here as a "name-dropper." Suffice to say... they were well known. )

    I can look back and think about them hot little critters, too... with such tunes as "Piece of my Heart"... and "Back Door Man"--they bring to remembrance all those days and nights of nasty little buzzards waitin' in the wings.

    I doubt there was much in the way of "love" involved, though. And I never even thought twice about bein' stuck with the leftovers. Sexy little skanks ( even the rejects ) are still sexy little skanks! Especially when ya got yer choice... and a microwave for re-heatin'. Am I right--or what?!

    Here's a tune from my early days of critter snaggin'... from them days of "drug-infused" love-dream memories--

    https://youtu.be/vGsq1K7f_yc

    Yep--Sexy little skanks--ya just gotta "LOVE" 'em all!

    Solar...



Yep... That vibe was real... lol 👍
Ya know... there's like 250,000 fricken Italians in this city. For sure they'd let you in... unless you did something. No questions being asked. lol
Well.. That Howlin guy was quite the character, for sure. Yeah... You know what that whole scene was all about. We all lived for today... Never a thought about tomorrow. Quite the illusion. And so easy to sustain when you're up on stage and doing what you love.
I'm sure you have some great stories to share. I can only imagine! 😁😱
Nothing beats the thrill of walking into a venue with a hot babe on your arms and have a hundred pairs of eyes on you, as you went through a sound check . And those girls knew how to take care of themselves. I'm just thinking about some of them now... lol
I was young. WTF did I know? Did it for many, many years. Of course... we never got as hi as the big boys. But we had our moments. Didn't we all though?
Youth is wasted on the young! Sometimes...
Hey.. Thanks for sharing. I will only imagine what went down! 👍


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
4/16/2019 3:34 pm

I can certainly understand why that song would have special meaning to you.
Music has the ability to transport me back to special moments and memories.
The movie "The Wizard of Oz" terrified me as a kid. However, what always stood out was the song, "Somewhere Over the Rainbow'". I have heard many versions but Judy Garland's version does it for me each and every time. I can't listen to it without crying. Years later when my son was hospitalized in isolation, I spent countless hours rewinding and playing it on his Fisher-Price radio. I still have it too.
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SeaGirlFL 58F
9220 posts
4/16/2019 3:36 pm

*sigh*

Oh yes...Journey, Separate Ways. My first love...he was in a band...played keyboards and sang. They played this song, and had made a recording of it. I had a cassette copy of the recording that I wore out. Bitter sweet memories...the love was one-sided. We never "dated", though we did things together and were FWBs...constant mixed messages from that guy.

We had a conversation, he and I, when my daughter was still pretty small. His marriage was falling apart...and he realized he'd blown it with me. It was probably a good thing we never dated or got married. He was pretty selfish...I would have been miserable.

Wow. Haven't thought about all of that mess in years, lol.

There are other songs that bring back all sorts of memories...unfortunately, it seems most of them are sad.

"Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax." – Mark Black


sexyldy1000 65F  
9606 posts
4/16/2019 4:07 pm

I can certainly understand why that song would have special meaning to you.
Music has the ability to transport me back to special moments and memories.
The movie "The Wizard of Oz" terrified me as a kid. However, what always stood out was the song, "Somewhere Over the Rainbow'". I have heard many versions but Judy Garland's version does it for me each and every time. I can't listen to it without crying. Years later when my son was hospitalized in isolation, I spent countless hours rewinding and playing it on his Fisher-Price radio. I still have it too.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 4:20 pm

    Quoting SeaGirlFL:
    *sigh*

    Oh yes...Journey, Separate Ways. My first love...he was in a band...played keyboards and sang. They played this song, and had made a recording of it. I had a cassette copy of the recording that I wore out. Bitter sweet memories...the love was one-sided. We never "dated", though we did things together and were FWBs...constant mixed messages from that guy.

    We had a conversation, he and I, when my daughter was still pretty small. His marriage was falling apart...and he realized he'd blown it with me. It was probably a good thing we never dated or got married. He was pretty selfish...I would have been miserable.

    Wow. Haven't thought about all of that mess in years, lol.

    There are other songs that bring back all sorts of memories...unfortunately, it seems most of them are sad.
Loved Journey... I can only imagine you as a groupie... You must have been a cute one.. lol... 😊
A lot of guys in bands were selfish. I used to know every one of them around here. You might not have liked me then. Lol We were an arrogant bunch.
But damm we had some great times.
Sad times? No... Teenage angst... Those youthful electrons would play mind games with everyone. Us guys as well .
Sounds like a classic memory... in spite of the sadness.
Yep Journey... omg! That was a great band!
They don't make em like that anymore! 😊
I would have said hello.... and let you sit behind my kit! 😘
Thanks for sharing. Gino Vannelli was playing that song live, on my station... this morning and that's what prompted this whole thought.


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 7:49 pm

    Quoting  :

That's a really great set of thoughts and songs...
Really great set of songs,.
I wish you could have seen us live.... It would have been a thrill. Of course.... you would have had to introduce yourself to me. We could have handled that...
Great comment.... Tell me more..... That's an eclectic mix... for sure. 😘


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 7:53 pm

    Quoting sexyldy1000:
    I can certainly understand why that song would have special meaning to you.
    Music has the ability to transport me back to special moments and memories.
    The movie "The Wizard of Oz" terrified me as a kid. However, what always stood out was the song, "Somewhere Over the Rainbow'". I have heard many versions but Judy Garland's version does it for me each and every time. I can't listen to it without crying. Years later when my son was hospitalized in isolation, I spent countless hours rewinding and playing it on his Fisher-Price radio. I still have it too.
Great... Great song titles... All of them worthy! I wish we could somehow play all or any of them whenever we wanted to.... Oh yes... we can.
If. only I could figure out my phone. 😂📱😘


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/16/2019 10:02 pm

    Quoting  :

Oooo... That's a good one. It's going to take me a while to sift through all the songs listed here and then listen to them...
I wanna Know What Love Is! That's a really good one! 😘👍
Remeber when....? lol 😊 A lot of great songs listed here.... Yep. I would have let you play ⚽with my sticks... back in the day... omg ▶️😁


pollly_anna 58F  
697 posts
4/17/2019 5:44 am

Just walk away


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/17/2019 6:44 am

Nice song! The version by Céline?
Anything older... from when you were a young girl? 😘
Thanks for sharing song! 👍


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/17/2019 6:46 am

    Quoting  :

Oooo... that's a good one! Yeah! So many people here have come up with so many good songs! Thanks for sharing yours! 👍
Do they still make songs like they did back in the day? lol 😊🤔


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/17/2019 8:33 am

    Quoting  :

I know you loved him... a long time ago... Even now in my arms, you still want him I know..
Don't close your eyes.... let it be me...❤️
Great song... That's a real tear jerker! yep... 😖😘

When we played live... we'd do a full set of slow love songs. We had 4 vocalists... we could Kill any song with harmonies that would slay and hypnotize. Our goal would be to make the whole fucking dance floor swoon and vibrate. When we'd see couples kissing and crying in each other's arms we knew, we had hit the right notes. 💞
We'd see couples old and young actually stop dancing... walk up to the front of our stage and just stand there, holding each other, tears in their eyes, hugging each other... just ... listening to us sing.. Go figure. It got to me a few times.... lol I had to stop watching them... 😢
Then we'd follow that up with "YMCA" 😱😂 and we'd fuck up the vibe completely.... lol It was a lot of fun to watch 500 people making out on the dance floor...

Music.... go figure... Songs can trip you out if you pay you pay too close attention to the lyrics. Thanks for sharing. Your song choice got to me... lol 😘❤️


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/17/2019 9:05 am

    Quoting  :

I'm a huge movie buff so please let me watch movies? lol But yeah.... I absolutely need my music as well. My preferences are all over the place, including world music - songs from other nations and languages.. It's always fun to meet a fellow music aficionado.
I've still got your Foreigner song in my brain! lol 😍
I used to listen to that one at full blast in my car. I hope some day that you find it and you find him! 😘
All you can do is, keep on looking, right?


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/17/2019 12:12 pm

    Quoting  :

Old? At 52? I'd show you... if I thought you'd see things in my light. I'd speak to you... if I thought you'd listen. I'd write the reasons down... if I thought you'd read them...
Anyone can change their opinion about anything... if they want to... and there's a reason to change. You haven't been given enough reasons to drop that 'bitterness' cloak.
That's enough from me... right? No worries. I'll shut up! 😂 😊
Just figure this.... that cloak, may still be with you for another 50 years.... It's gonna be pretty tattered by then. 😶
Need a hug? 😊😘


Paulxx001 65M  
22616 posts
4/17/2019 1:59 pm

    Quoting  :

lol.... True! 😘
Hey... listen. I understand.... We've all been bitter at some point or another. As one who's been there many times... I know it's not a fun place to be.
But you're right... only you, have the ability to make the decision to change the way you think.
Why don't you try it? One day at a time? Just one day at a time....... 😊😘
So... whatcha doing? 🤗


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