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Is it Cheating? Or, is it . . . . .
Posted:Dec 26, 2021 8:48 pm
Last Updated:Dec 27, 2021 5:36 pm

Here's the question/comment.
This couple are happily married, compatible in every way. Except one detail, the bedroom.
1. A enjoys once or twice a wee B enjoys once every month.
2. A enjoys oral, both giving and receiving. B hates oral and refuses participate either as the giver or the receiver.
3. A does not like anal and wants nothing do with it. B likes anal and would like do monthly.

What should A do? What should B do?

If A found a friend that enjoyed and willing meet discreetly and enjoyed oral, would A be a cheater? What if the satisfaction A received made A a better partner at home?

If B found a friend that enjoyed anal and willing meet discreetly, would B be a cheater? What if the satisfaction B received made B a better partner at home. If A or B finds a compatible FWB, and their needs are fulfilled, is that okay?

What if these needs/desires were not topics A or B were comfortable discussing with each other?

Comments appreciated.
Will a real woman PLEASE stand up! (Page 2)
Posted:May 26, 2021 9:15 am
Last Updated:Oct 29, 2021 2:52 pm

Good morning,

I am pleased with the comments. I respect and appreciate them all.

It's tough as a understand a female as pertains this site. A is limited see what Heated Affairs wants males see. goes for a female, Heated Affairs limits what a female sees and she sees her side.

That is what I am getting at. When a woman agrees meet, 1. she should never be stood up, 2. the date should never be late, 3. the should ALWAYS pick up the tab (I'm old fashioned).

When I invite a lady out for coffee, lunch, or dinner, I am extending a generous and kind invitation meet and get know each other. Nothing more. 's a little like a blind date, or a friendly get together. I am not expecting (or prepared) to move the meeting up to intimacy.

Ladies, when a friend invited you our for lunch or dinner, do you always first think :am I wasting my time"? Of course not, we all enjoy having a little fun (not sex).

Here's the point ladies you do not see what men see or what they go through. Men do not see what women see or what they go through.

Personally, I am seeking a friendship based upon mutual respect, admiration, and attraction. I am not a bed jumper, not am I interested in one.

I can't tell you how many woman I have corresponded with and after 2 to 3 weeks find out they lied about being local and want me to for something for them (gas, gift card, care, help with rent, airfare, loan, etc.). I venture say women have similar issues.

We would think what is in the profile is honest and correct. Not so, and that makes difficult for all. I answer all messages. When a lady responds she is not interested, I reply thanking her for responding and wishing her the best in her search. I that polite. Please keep the comments coming, I like hearing from you.
Will a real woman PLEASE stand up!
Posted:May 21, 2021 3:48 pm
Last Updated:Jan 19, 2022 4:39 pm

I have been on and off Heated Affairs for nearly a year and totally frustrated.

I believe 70% of the women profiles are FAKE and just SCAMMERS.

I believe 25% of the women profiles, are women who are curious or get COLD FEET.

Let's clean this up. Heated Affairs get the SCAMMERS and FAKE profiles off.

Ladies, if you are not ready to meet, get off.

When a woman says they want to get to know you better first, THEY ARE A SCAMMER AND FAKE PROFILE.

There is no harm meeting for coffee at Starbucks or having lunch at a nice restaurant.

I'll get off my soapbox now.
What are your thoughts on an affair?
Posted:Jan 29, 2021 9:05 am
Last Updated:May 22, 2022 4:3 am

Haven't posted in some time and thought would be nice get your opinions and thoughts on an affair.

Is good or bad for a relationship? When is good? Can an affair strengthen a relationship?

What if your relationship is good, solid, don't want lose .
Except for in the bedroom!

You enjoy sex multiple times a week (or more), your partner is in the mood once or twice a month. Do you suffer without sex? Do you pressure your partner increase frequency? What if they do not want ?

You enjoy oral sex, your partner does not. Do you give up on something you desire/ Or, do you pressure your partner into ?

We can take this many areas of sexual satisfaction or lack of.

An affair can complete those needs and not place pressure on your partner.
An affair can increase your sexual experiences that you in turn may want incorporate with your partner. This could add satisfaction and intimacy with your partner.

Let's talk. Hearing from you will help us all.
Let's make Heated Affairs Successful for us
Posted:Aug 29, 2020 12:39 pm
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2021 3:34 pm

I've been pondering this for a while, HOW GET DATES ON Heated Affairs

The key is NOT chatting on and on. Two or three chats and move STEP # 2
That is make a date meet (very important). Many of us are on here because
WE LIKE SEX. Let's it, it's fun. Some of us are on here because we are lonely or want meet a someone.

Lately there are a lot of scammers, speaking as a man, and they waste a lot of our time.
-------Women, feel free tell your challenges with inbound messages-----

Scammers the guys up, get them excited, then put the bit on for small amounts of depending upon how far they think they have the hook in. It may be for , the sitter, rent movies watch together. Here's the way to tell,


So when you meet in person there is a very good chance it a real person interested in you.

Ladies, if the man wants to go dutch (or worse yet, you ), think twice about proceeding. Remember this is the best it's ever going to get.

So GUYS, invite the lady out to meet a public place so she will feel safe.
Ladies, accept the invitation to meet at a public place. If he is willing to drinks, your lunch, or your dinner, he's real and he's sincere.

Bottom line, to be successful on Heated Affairs, work with it, go the distance, answer all messages, be polite, accept invites (unless it to a dump), and move on the STEP # 3, begin having fun (take that any way you like)
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Just Ranting - Let's Work Together
Posted:Aug 25, 2020 3:19 pm
Last Updated:May 22, 2022 4:3 am

Tuesday, August 25, 2020

Heated Affairs is a web site for certain people to meet. They are:
1. People with a "HIGH SEX DRIVE" - That means the like sex!
2. They most likely, but not always, are in a relationship. Usually one they are happy with and do not want to end. For whatever reason bedroom time at home is not fully satisfying. Whatever reason is not important.

If you are looking for the love of your life, to perhaps marry, and spend the rest of your life with. ladies and gentlemen, THIS MAY NOT BE THE BEST SITE TO USE! ! !

Ladies, I keep hearing "NO DICK PICTURES", I can understand , as a guy (straight), don't want to see any either. Well ladies, we don't want to see your vulva (and for those that do not understand what I am talking about, PUSSY) either. I feel a full nude woman's body is beautiful, but even more so, a nicely dressed woman it stunning, captivating. So ladies and gentlemen too, present pictures of your full self for the viewer to see. Never be ashamed of your body shape. Remember, there is someone out there that loves it, just the way you are.

Now, let's talk about messaging and responding. Please, Please all (men and women) be respectful, kind, and polite in messaging and responding.
PLEASE (men and women) RESPOND TO ALL MESSAGES. If you do not like what they said (not polite, etc.) tell them. If not your type, try your best to tell them. If you don't they will not know or how to be better (and we want to, both men and women).

DON'T HIDE WHO YOU ARE. If the other party is not going to like you, it does not matter. If you do meet, trust me, they will see who you are. Put away those pictures of what you looked like 30 years ago.

If you read this blog, please leave a comment. that is how we all learn and improve. Plus it gives me ideas for future blogs.
July 23, 2020
Posted:Jul 23, 2020 7:18 pm
Last Updated:Aug 22, 2020 6:27 am

Good evening Ladies, and gentlemen if you find interest in my blog.

Miss messaging on Heated Affairs, but there were so few real honest women on the sight, if was a waste of time. I wish Heated Affairs could figure away get the bad profiles off. It would make the site more inviting.

If you want speak me, you may want try peter-five six three-too at-aol. Would be happy to chat on any subject.

What turns you on?
That sounds plain jane, but it isn't. Every lady is different, perhaps if we can gather a list of "tips" I can broadcast it to the gentlemen out there and, who knows, maybe we all could have a more interesting evening.

Wish I knew how to use this better.

On my nest blog I will ask opinions, likes and dislikes on various bedroom activities. Again this may help.

Til next time,
Take care,
Paul Krisp
Why I left Heated Affairs
Posted:Jul 17, 2020 7:15 am
Last Updated:Aug 22, 2020 6:31 am

First let me say I am not disappointed with Heated Affairs and their customer service is the best.

I left because of the women on it. Most are not good people and seem to be self centered and/or greedy.

Ladies, if you are not going to use Heated Affairs, disable it. I am looking for a FWB (something more than a one-night-stand)but nothing more than friendship and sex.

This can be a good safe relationship benefiting both parties. It allows attached individuals, such as myself, to complete their sexual desires beyond what their partner is willing and not destroy an otherwise great relationship.

We are not bed hoppers, but there for each other.

Here is the problem with Heated Affairs (I'm sure they would like to correct it). Biggest complaints

1. Women do not respond. Ladies respond, tell it like it is and give a yes, no, or maybe. Guys like to know what you're thinking. They want to please you.

2. Auto response. What an insult. Same as saying "You are not important"

3.Scammers. Ladies trying to get men to sign up and watch their videos. Trying to get free gift cards. Untruthful about their location.

4. Hookers/Whores. I have nothing against the profession, no disrespect for the lady, and I'm sure thee is a need for the service. Don't mislead men, be upfront with your business. Myself, I want more than a 30 minute fuck. I want friendship, passion, affection.

Ladies, Heated Affairs is not a dating site for finding Mr. Right. Don't come on board for that. It is a site to meet for great sex and even better great sex among friends.

Please help to make Heated Affairs Great Again.
June 26, 2020
Posted:Jun 26, 2020 4:40 am
Last Updated:Jun 11, 2021 3:35 pm

Good Morning, This is my second post (have no idea what I am going say, but here it goes)

Good sex takes an open mind, communication (speaking and listening), and variety (yes, variety).

Guys, want please your lady? Start by a good shower, clean yourself and get rid of body odor (No, women do not enjoy it).

Next fingernails, clip them short and FILE them until very smooth and not protruding.

Set the mood, soft music, candles, dimly lite room

I was once told, women are like a diesel engine, hard to start but once running very powerful. Men are like a a fire cracker, boom and it's over. So control yourself, hold your nut and allow your lady multiple orgasms.

The more orgasms, the more likely you will be invited for a second performance!

Men, Oral is always good provided your techniques are good. So don't get in there like a backhoe!

That's it for today. We'll see what comes tomorrow.
Love to ,
June 26, 2020
Posted:Jun 25, 2020 2:43 pm
Last Updated:Jun 25, 2020 2:52 pm

This is the first day of my blog, I will add often, if I can.

This is a great site to meet when sex is extremely important. I hear from ladies there are some rude guys out there. Well ladies, I have one thing to say, . . . .


Nice guys, such as myself, will threat you with respect, appreciate your beauty (and talent and show the courtesy of helping you have multiple orgasms before letting their nut explode.

Some of us have studied and practiced giving good oral (without hurting).
Some of us have studies and practiced giving good Yoni massages.

So what is it, a rough SLAM BAM THANK YOU MA'AM ,
Or a toe curling, leg quivering explosion?

Next Blog, I'll share some of my better and not so good experiences.


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