The Wall

9/25/2021 - I changing up the blog (now to be simply known as "The Wall"). It will be my place to throw some shit, and see if it sticks. The Wall of Shame was born out of frustration, and thrived on negativity (albeit hilarious). It got stale and ran its course. I'll tie up the loose ends and move forward. At this moment in history, I find inspiration from two of this nations leaders.

As the end of "The Wall of Shame" grows near, I recall these powerful words: "Mr. Gorbachev, tear down this wall" - Ronald Reagan.

And with my heart full of love, and altruistic optimism for the beginning of a bright, and prosperous new era, I reflect on this: "I would build a great wall, and nobody builds walls better than me, believe me, and I’ll build them very inexpensively. I will build a great great wall on our southern border and I’ll have Mexico pay for that wall." - Bernie Sanders

Sometime I get messages and IM's that are just amazingly, horribly, unbelievably, disgustingly SHAMEFUL!!! When this happens, my initial thought is "no one would believe me even if I told them". Whelp, I'm here to tell! Its all meant in fun and for a good laugh, but could help you stay off the WOS (Wall of Shame) when sending your next message to me or some other sexy little thing.

Don't be a WOSI (Wall of Shame Inductee)!!
Shame Shame!!

Oh, and for you sexy little receivers of WOS worthy messages, comment, or send them to me! I'll share them in future posts!

*disclaimer- I will never identify the WOSI's who land here on the WOS. Its a gift, a second chance! Get your shit together, and send a decent message for god sake!!

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Wall of Shame - The Shorties
Posted:Sep 8, 2021 3:17 pm
Last Updated:Sep 26, 2021 8:37 am
I'm going make this one a sticky. Shorties are the messages that consist of one, or a few words that either make a statement, or say hello in various forms. Our previous WOSI was guilty of sending the shortest of shorties. Check it out [post 44903]. What makes shorties so infuriating is that I literally bring it in my profile. is the actual text:

"- When you send a message or IM, say a little more than 'hey". Give me something respond . Let know you are trying!!"

The one thing I enjoy about the shorties is the authors creativity. There are so many variations its crazy! Check back often see the latest shorties I post them.

Have you received an awesome shortie?? comment and add it the list!

So is the first WOSS (Wall of Shame Shortie) -

" You so sexy"
There you go! Short, simple, and guaranteeing that I will never respond!!

Wall of Shame - Where is this coming from
Posted:Sep 10, 2021 9:51 pm
Last Updated:Sep 29, 2021 2:48 pm
Every once in a while I get a message that leaves me wondering where the hell it came from and what they are talking about. Like this one that popped up on IM today -

"love the reach around"

Now I'm all about a good reach around, but I have no idea what he is referring to... I don't have any pics where I am doing anything close to a reach around. Did I meet this guy and he graciously gave me a reach around?? Maybe we have different definitions for what a reach around actually is! If he only explained himself a bit more, maybe it would have made sense.

Is this what he's talking about??

I am definitely "reaching around", but this is not A "reach around".

According to the Urban Dictionary:
reach around
1. n: the performance of the act of masterbating a sexual partner, usually while the person performing this act is simultaneously performing doggy style, anal sex, or spooning on the same partner as the person on top.

We may never know... Just one example of messages I have gotten where I am left guessing what on god's earth they are talking about!!!

Ever get a message like this one?? Share in the comments!
Should I respond to the "Hall of Fame" message
Posted:Sep 8, 2021 10:40 pm
Last Updated:Sep 15, 2021 8:14 pm

****Poll is closed!!! Love wins! I sent a message along with a few exclusive pics. Will update with any new developments!! Thanks to those who voted, commented or just took the time to read!!****

In the prior post [post 44488] I switched it , and profiled a great message in the attempts educated the masses at Heated Affairs how seal the deal. At the end of the post I confess that, even though it was a well written, thoughtful and intriguing message, I hadn't responded it... So I'm leaving it you! Simple poll: Should I respond or not??

Update 9/10/2021 - No votes!!! Awe... Poor guy, the tie breaker is "move on". Just one vote for "respond" is enough at the moment. Voting will close 9//21.
Should I respond to this Hall of Fame message?
Should I just forget about it and continue on with my life?
2 Comments , 3 votes
Wall of Shame - Nope: Hall of Fame
Posted:Sep 8, 2021 10:28 pm
Last Updated:Sep 16, 2021 5:56 am
Now I know that I'm beating up on a lot of you guys, so I decided to highlight an exceptional message that was sent to me a few days ago. Lets take a look at this Hall of Fame DM:

"Hi again. Just sending you one last message and then I'll leave you alone. Give me a chance, I promise I won't disappoint. You're the only person that I am chasing on this site, and I meet all of the criteria listed in your profile. We're a perfect match! And you are one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen. Do you like kissing? If so, I'd love to come over and kiss you for hours, although it would be so hot we would need to put our mouths on other areas of our bodies (just turned myself on!). I have many other playtime ideas for us to enjoy as well. Hope to hear back from you."

OK, lets break this down in the hopes that some of you WOSI can learn a thing or two. Firstly, spelling, grammar and punctuation are on point! Trust me, this matters! Then there is the overall tone. Its polite, but he gets to the sex stuff down the road. Good strategy, start slow, then hit 'em with the dirty talk. A big point winner comes in towards the end. Its subtle, and only I could pick up this sly move. When he says "(just turned myself on)" he is directly quoting my profile. He used this same tactic in his prior message. He took the time (Like 30 seconds) to read my profile, and adapt his approach to get my attention based on that intel. This is one crafty MFer!

I wanted to praise this boy and his message to show the readers that I'm not just a cold hearted bitch that is hatin' on all the horny fellas here.

***** Now here is the twist, and you all get to decide the outcome. Although this is a great DM, I didn't respond to it. I've got no real good reason not too... So what I'm going to do is open another poll here on the WOS and let the people decide. Do I respond, or not. Its just that simple!!!
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Wall of Shame - it was all going so well AG-WOSI
Posted:Sep 8, 2021 6:00 pm
Last Updated:Sep 11, 2021 6:13 pm
Here is a message that stopped me cold in my tracks. This was on KIK and is our second AG-WOSI (Away Game - Wall of Shame Inductee). I recall that things were going great and we were getting ready to meet when the tossed a hand grenade into the chat room (I'm being dramatic). No I will admit that I am a fickle bitch. Say the wrong thing at the wrong time and I'm out. that's what happened here. Remember, we just about to set a date and time to meet, and then he drops this:

"You down for just a bj or do I need to fuck you

That was it, done... "need" to fuck me?!?! Excuse me? That my dear AG-WOSI is a MotherFin privilege. I know some will say that I being a bit full of myself (maybe a little), but I'm very clear with people about what I'm looking for. I'm a very submissive bottom who wants anal ( I thought that anal was the holy grail of meeting a CD). And the "need to fuck you"... I just couldn't get over that. That was August 25th. He still hits me up even though I never responded after "needgate".

Today he sent me this:

"Do you want your ass fucked today"

Yes, yes I do. But you'll never be the one to do it. Sorry, gotta run. I NEED to answer my messages from hot guys that WANT to fuck me....

Wall of Shame - When persistence doesn't pay
Posted:Sep 8, 2021 3:17 am
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2022 4:58 am

This edition of WOS isn't so much about what is said (there is plenty to cover there too), It's about knowing when to throw in the towel and give up. This string of messages goes on for a full year! Gotta give him credit for persistence! I think what turned me off originally was the short, rapid fire messages on the first day. Here is day one:

9/22/2020 10:54 am

Your extremely sexy
9/22/2020 10:54 am

Love your long legs and pretty face
9/22/2020 10:54 am

Are the casinos open yet?
9/22/2020 10:55 am

Do you enjoy being an oral girl all dressed up for a top man?
9/22/2020 10:55 am

I’m jon
9/22/2020 10:55 am

Great video by the way
9/22/2020 10:55 am"

I'm going to fast forward now and spare you months worth of the same. Here is June thru August:

Hi your beautiful
6/5/2021 6:43 am

Your body is amazing
6/5/2021 6:44 am

I’m jon hi
6/5/2021 6:44 am

You enjoy a top
6/5/2021 6:44 am

6/5/2021 6:44 am

Dam your so hot
8/18/2021 7:36 pm

I bet youLove to taste cum
8/18/2021 7:36 pm

Great body
8/18/2021 7:36 pm

I’m jon
8/18/2021 7:36 pm

8/18/2021 7:36 pm

Things to note: Not once, not ever, did I reply. He is not the only one! I get this pretty frequently. Constant messages from guys who must think that I'm just missing the first 100 messages they sent and the next one will be the one I respond to. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with what he is saying, other than the short messages sent within seconds of each other. Some guys get hostile when I don't respond! It’s as if I owe them a response just for being online. And this isn’t the “persistence” that pays in the end. This is unreasonable. Who would reply, let alone set up a meet with this person??

Here is a safe bet: If I don’t respond to your first three attempts, I’m not gonna.
The Wall of Shame - New category AG- WOSI
Posted:Sep 6, 2021 4:21 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2022 4:58 am

I've decided to open the WOS up to messages outside of Heated Affairs. I, like many of us, have multiple social media accounts where I receive messages. The new category for these messages is the AG-WOSI (Away Game - Wall of Shame Inductee).

So without further ado, here is the very first AG-WOSI!!! 👏👏👏

"Would love to fill your ass and have a good time with you."

I know you're asking yourself why I cut out the rest of the message. Nope... That's it, that's all there is. No pleasantries, no small talk, just that one sentence. I almost get it though. I'm kinda slutty, and love to post pics with my ass hanging out. To be honest, I'm totally down with the situation that he is describing, but come on! How do I even respond to that??? Even if he has the most amazing profile ever (I didn't look), how do I respond? What do I say?? All you gotta do is fluff up that one sentence with an intro, a quick compliment, or a little small talk and an a simple "lets chat sometime". I'm talking about a short paragraph here. Is that too much to ask for? Sorry buster, that "good time" is not in your future... Congratulations on the very first AG-WOSI!!
Question or Statement? I'm confused (punctiuation matters)
Posted:Sep 6, 2021 12:17 pm
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2021 5:14 pm

I'm just going to throw this out there, well, because why not! The WOS is brand new so I know not many people will see it.

In a previous post [post 44991] , The WOSI (Wall of Shame Inductee) followed up his award winning IM with this:

"I could be fucking you right now babe?"

Keep in mind, I never responded to the original message. It was just a follow up IM by our friendly WOS

So you be the judge, is he asking or telling me??
Asking if he could be fucking me right now
Telling me he could be fucking me right now
Both, because, you know, the quantum state of an electrons. (See comments)
4 Comments , 11 votes
Wall of Shame - Our first IM inductee
Posted:Sep 6, 2021 9:56 am
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2021 1:34 pm

"You really dont want me to fuck you??"


This little gem came over IM today. He's been hitting me up for a few days now, but the cammo trucker hat and scowl on this face spooked me a bit (I could teach a class on how to take a good profile pic!). With visions of duck tape and plastic shower curtains dancing in my head, I opted not to chat. Today he really turned up the charm with this one!

Oh, and by the way, "deep" goes without question 😉. But you my WOSW (Wall of Shame Winner), will never know.

!!This just in!!! Our first REAL TIME update! I'm so excited! At this very moment on IM, without a reply from me, This fine gentleman drops this WOS worthy nugget -

"I could be fucking you right now babe?"

Hmm, statement or question? Let me know what you think in the comments.
Remember fellas, spelling, grammar and PUNCTUATION are critical elements of a good message.
wall of shame
Posted:Sep 5, 2021 9:02 pm
Last Updated:Jul 3, 2022 4:58 am

I've decided use this space start a wall of shame. I'll be periodically posting messages that I get from guys that are just horrible in so many ways. Not quite sure how some people ever find someone that would be willing meet based on what I've seen! Check in often fellas! If any of these sound familiar it may explain why I haven responded.

To link to this blog (PattiBannon) use [blog PattiBannon] in your messages.

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