Posting as therapy  

NoTell101 60M
17 posts
1/17/2022 4:52 am
Posting as therapy


I must admit, since I have been able to open my vault of dark secrets to all of you, I feel like a weight has been lifted. All of you who read and comment or PM me on my blog are like my therapists. Thank you for that. This is a non-judgmental place where I feel comfortable sharing my history. Carrying my burden of infidelity can sometimes cause so much self doubt and self deprecation it can cause me to become an introvert. These blogs are my release, similar to confession in the Catholic religion. I'm not for absolution, just to bare my soul to be understood.

There are two women that I will not write about. One of them I met here on Heated Affairs. She has been a bit of a unicorn for me. She is a stunning beauty that has an amazing grasp on her sexuality and has given me guidance in my times of need. She always has been able to give me sage insight when my judgement has been clouded. Thank you for all you have given and continue to give me. I will forever be in your debt.

The other is the love of my life that got away. Our love a casualty of circumstance. It born out of a mutual need for understanding and rocketed out of control. I married and she single. I got to the verge of abandoning my life, my family to be with her. We both came to the tragic conclusion that the ruin of the life around us would be too much for everyone around us, so we parted. It the most painful time of my life. A pain that I will always<b> bear.

</font></b>This outlet for me will hopefully help you all understand what goes on in the mind of a person like me. Maybe some of you can identify with me, some will be turned off by my unabashed rejection of the norm of monogamy. Whatever it is for you, I hope it helps.

author51 59F  
130009 posts
1/17/2022 6:41 am

Most of the members on this site and especially Blog Land are very open minded as a lot of us can relate in some form of fashion to the issues and topics at hand.
I myself am only a one man lover and come from two long term relationships.When I first came onto the site and started blogging, I did not agree with anyone that cheated on a spouse as that is what ended my last relationship. My mind opened up along with my thoughts and yes judgements on those here that did.No one can judge anyone as we are not them, not in their shoes and are not above judgement ourselves..Blogging, talking to people, meeting new friends on this site we click with is incredibly theraputic and a huge reason why I share what I have on this site..
Kudos to you for letting everything out and wearing your Heart and dare I say Hard Ons" on your sleeve....xoxo


NoTell101 replies on 1/17/2022 7:42 am:
I appreciate your open mindedness. This blog has helped me to express what I have kept locked up all of these years. Not everyone in the world is cut for monogamy, but I try to keep my worlds separate and my outside relationships....outside. I never try to fool anyone or give illusions that we will run off together. That almost happened to me and the pain of it all prevents me from travelling that road again. Mutual satisfaction of a need not being met with total respect for my paramour and her space.

BiSussi 61F
1405 posts
1/17/2022 9:58 am

How could you abandon your love of your life?
You should have talked to your wife, you should have at least attempted to save your marriage and be with you love of your life forever as well

Cheating always has a risk, mostly for the cheater, but also the other/s involved. If you fool your wife, you mostly fool yourself. Be open, talk about your needs, if you wife loves you, she will understand. Some women who are bisexual have similar desires and needs, their husbands cannot fulfill, talking about will bring mostly bliss. There are exception, but nothing is 100%, except when you make a fool out of your wife and yourself

I strongly believe God did not make us to be monogamous, it is society which puts us into a monogamy box.

You found the love of your life and what do you do? You dump love and go back to SEX, no wonder you feel incomplete

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Oh yes, when you have found love you don’t go back to SEX. All I can think about isMaking Babies when I am in love How about you?OVER 30 YEARS of making love without condoms and not once ended up with an STD risk management & being selective, believing in LOVE & not >>! every nice looking and good sounding man does pay off
If you love me and I love you, I shall any time, even at sunrise and yes, after it has been filled up at least once

I love pussies and adore nice dicks


NoTell101 replies on 1/17/2022 1:31 pm:
I am a flawed individual, I know that. Too many people around me besides my wife and family would have been hurt and our relationships with friends would have been destroyed as well as my girlfriend's family and friends. We came to the conclusion that we could no longer do what we were doing or the devastation would have been irreparable. Our sacrifice was and is our pain to this very day.

jajo696 67F  
4286 posts
1/17/2022 1:35 pm

im glad this is your therapy, we all need an ear at times . Lots of us use it as a safe space to vent. For the most part, people in blogville are real and supportive. So use us as you must. I understand your thoughts/scenario much more than you know. Kudos for finding an outlet~


NoTell101 replies on 1/18/2022 5:58 am:
Thank you for your understanding. I appreciate you sharing my journey with me.

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