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Breaking the Family
Posted:Nov 4, 2021 8:52 pm
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2021 5:35 pm
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My wife and I, separately, had a long conversation with the . All of our are grown, married, have of their own and live outside our home. Our breaking up of our 30 year marriage is hard on them also. We have eight grandchildren, 4 boys, 4 girls. They are taking the breakup very hard also. They have never known a life without their grandparents being together. Beside that, one of the grandkids is married and we have 2 great grandkids, The little girl is three and has only known us together. The boy is just a baby. I understand that at least the girl grandkids are a little upset with me due to the breakup. I hope to talk to all the grandchildren and that someday they will understand. I had hoped that we could still experience Thanksgiving and the rest of the holidays together. It looks like that is not going to be the case. I will drop the wife off to be with part of the family and I will go be with the other half. It’s not that they hate me or her or blame either one for the breakup, although I am the one asking for it. They just said that they would be uncomfortable in hosting us together. I hope and pray that someday things may be different.

My reason for the divorce? I was once again, for the umpteenth time today, just reminded of that. We are getting ready to get the carpets cleaned. They are coming tomorrow. My wife is an extreme germaphobe. Now I have leaned to live with that and I see no problem with being clean and sanitary. However, my wife takes it to the ultimate extreme. I have even pretty much adjusted to that also. But when she does not like ANYTHING I do….when she wants to tell me what to do, how to specifically do it, when to do it and is STILL never satisfied….then “Houston, we have a problem.” Then there is the disrespect. When you start comparing your husband of 30 years to your two former ex-husbands who were abusers (yes, I am her third marriage and she had 2 from a former marriage that I now treat as my own). When you call your husband horrible names and sing silly disrespectful songs about him and on and on, then I do not deserve that treatment. When she won’t change and every little thing you try to discuss with her turns into an argument, a man will never tolerate that from any woman. I have done my best trying to save this marriage, but it takes two people to compromise and make it work. I finally realized that it was always going to be her way or the highway. I am getting in my car.

My future? Right now to get divorced and get her moved out. Then pick up the pieces. This website has helped me a lot. There are a lot of great people that I have talked to about many things. I want a woman in my life. A real woman who will accept me as me. Respect me as me. Choose me as me and not for my money or what I can do for her. In return she will receive my love, respect, tenderness, kindness, support, protection and a friend for life. I will also strive to make her proud of me. That’s why I am back in the gym to get back to the machine I once was. She will never even want to look elsewhere. It will take time. I am on track with the gym and loosing weight. I also have a lot to think about. It does not mean that I won’t date. I don’t know if I will ever want to get married again, after this experience. But the future is always in flux and things always change, so who knows?
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Getting married ought to be harder than getting divorced
Posted:Nov 2, 2021 11:52 pm
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2021 5:35 pm
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OK. So if you read my profile you already know I am getting divorced. I went to the attorney (see previous post) and have talked to the wife. She is very resistant to breaking up after 30 years. I had to think long and hard on that also before I decided that I could not stay in this marriage any longer. She is also not willing/able to do much around the home so I have had to take on most of the house chores. She is not making it easy. She did finally agree to the disillusionment, reluctantly and to giving the attorney the $2,000 needed for the process. Hopefully that is going to be the total cost. I still hope we can get the divorce finalized in February, 2022. Her moving out? Well she says she may need more time than that. So, think twice before you marry once.
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Divorce Attorney Visit
Posted:Oct 26, 2021 11:53 pm
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2021 5:35 pm
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Ok. Went to the divorce attorneys today. Had a long discussion with them. If my wife will agree to a dissolution which means agreeing to everything, then I could be divorced within three months. And I would retain most all my income and come out pretty well overall. If she fights it, that will be another story and it could take eighteen months and a lot of court hearings and be a whole lot more expensive. Next step is talking to her tomorrow. Wish me luck.
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My weight loss goals
Posted:Oct 17, 2021 7:46 pm
Last Updated:Dec 8, 2021 5:35 pm
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I thought it was time to bring you up to speed with my weight loss goals. I am targeting a weight loss of 10 lbs/mo or 2.5 lbs/wk. So far we have been able to stay on point with that. I need to be more consistent with my gym visits. I started out with a weak 3 visits per week. We need to stabilize that and begin uping it to 4 times per week. Weight continues to drop on a somewhat irregular basis. I get weighed in the morning sans clothing on a new digital scale and note it on my monthly calendar.

Ultimate goal is 225-235 which would still be heavy for a normal guy but I am 6 ft and have a huge, heavy frame. I once got down to 187 and I looked like a skeleton.

Current weight 362.
Highest weight 418.
Goal in 340 by end of year.
Goal is 310 by end of 1st quarter 2022.
Goal is 280 by end of 2nd quarter 2022.

This is important as my 50th class reunion is next summer.
All the while I am building muscle, stamina and flexibility.

Do I want a daddy 6 pack in the future? Please comment below for me on if you think I should strive for that or not. I will listen to your opinions. For a current pic of what I look like from the front look at my pics (don't worry, I do not do dick pics).
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I keep a running blog of my thoughts, activities, etc. on a companion website
Posted:Oct 14, 2021 12:18 am
Last Updated:Oct 14, 2021 2:47 am
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I keep a running blog of my thoughts, activities, etc. on the companion website that starts with an A. Has the word friend. Then the word f i n d e r. You may read them there. I also wrote an erotic short story titled "I don't know how it started..." that I posted on there. I plan on writing more. I hope you go over there and enjoy reading them.

I had to edit this post as the website robot wants to change every mention of the other site to 99 Flavors.
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