Iam42123 47M  
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9/4/2021 9:33 am

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12954 posts
9/4/2021 11:41 am

Sorry, no advice, but was wondering if a doctor's visit is warranted ?

BiggLala 49F  
30157 posts
9/4/2021 12:18 pm

i would like to last longer for my partners enjoyment
-Well, I would question if this is really for your partner's enjoyment or for yours. do you know your partner (wife? girlfriend? ) WANTS you to last longer? Have they stated such? How long do you typically last? I only ask because 1-not all women need/want a man to "last longer", because 2-the man lasting longer does not necessarily mean the woman enjoys it.

Of the women who actually enjoy sex and who can orgasm from penetration, I think most of them don't need the man to last longer so long as she orgasms before he does. Personally, when I'm sufficiently aroused, I don't need more than 7-10 minutes to reach orgasm. I've been with guys who think they need to "keep going" for 30+ minutes. IF I've orgasmed in under 10 minutes...that extra 20+ minutes is uncomfortable and can be downright painful. Of course, women who are multiorgasmic tend to enjoy longer lasting men, but most women are not multiorgasmic.

That said, have you tried cock rings? I hear those work for helping men last longer. Kegel muscle exercises also benefit men for maintaining erections. There is doing things for your partner to help them reach orgasm once you've climaxed, i.e. giving her oral (or you can give her oral prior to penetration). I'd suggest you discuss this with your partner for feedback, and you both find a solution(s) that fits BOTH your needs so you BOTH can be satisfied.

This is just my feedback since you asked.

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jajo696 67F
4158 posts
9/4/2021 1:59 pm

Yes.....communicate with your partner, what both your needs are and then speak to the doc about as premature ejac. They may not feel the same. Good Luck ~

superbjversion2 66F
24163 posts
9/4/2021 2:13 pm

Do you ever try a second round? Personally, I don't care if my partner comes quickly with the first round of penetration long as I know there will be a second round. With continued play during 'intermission' naturally.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!

thikhead 64M
3345 posts
9/4/2021 2:18 pm

i read this somewhere -

toss one off 5, 10 or 15 minutes before hand.

THEN what would be the second one for you will be what you give her

and it should last a lot longer and be able to be more vigorous

"well only get through this if we work together. if we dont, none of us will"

mark1002021 62M
23 posts
9/4/2021 3:29 pm

So after you come the first time, Pleasure your partner with your tongue, (its ok its your juice down there) and then try again for the second time, you should last longer, but i think you partner would be quite satisfied with what you already given her

Tmptrzz 59F  
106215 posts
9/4/2021 4:43 pm

Communicating with your partner, and of course sometimes edging can help to you should practice that and like thikhead said, that also works. And maybe a cock ring might help you too. I hope this helps..Have a great Holiday weekend..

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Iam42123 47M  
1 post
9/5/2021 1:24 am

Thanks for the advice and suggestions, obviously I understand communication to see what my partner wants/likes is key and i love eating pussy to help get them to climax, but lasting what is effectively less than 30 seconds seems broken. Maybe I do need a doctor's appointment.

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