Turning down sex...  

Daytimer09B 53M
519 posts
10/30/2020 10:20 am
Turning down sex...


Have any of you turned down sex because you did not want participate in what they wanted do? If so, what was ?

For me, I can think of twice in my lifetime where I turned down joining in on a sexcapade due what was being asked. In both cases the lady friend wanted me join in a MFM threesome. I know many are comfortable with it and even enjoy it. However, for me, as sexist as this may sound, I am confortable with a FMF but not the other. So in both cases I turned down the opportunity particiapte. Sorry if that sounds shallow but is my body, my mind and my perogrative.

Actually three times if you include not joining because I felt uncomfortable having her husband in the room watching. That was an request I received.

Daytimer09B 53M
889 posts
10/30/2020 10:21 am

Happy Halloween... boy how I would like to find a kinky female friend to celebrating with.


lust4life59 62F
2382 posts
10/30/2020 12:19 pm

I've turned down the same that involved another couple. well, FMF that is. I don't think it's sexist at all, we all have preferences and what we are comfy with. Do you regret turning it down now?


Daytimer09B replies on 10/30/2020 3:51 pm:
Glad to hear I'm not alone in my decision making. And no, I have absolutely no regrets.

Massass1963 58M

10/30/2020 12:36 pm

Absolutely! I had a chance to be part of an MFM... I can't do sex with another man present. It just turns me off due to the fact I always think "why would a man want ME present to fuck his girlfriend/wife?" My thinking is he is bi at the very least. It is always possible he has an agreement that allows him to play with other women on the side, but my cynicism prevents me from trusting the situation.
The only other occasion is when a women comes on too eager on this site. I feel that their lack of cautiousness is that something sinister is up. Can't be too careful.


Daytimer09B replies on 10/30/2020 3:53 pm:
Agree whole-heartedly. I am not interested in seeing another guys junk nor putting it somewhere his just was.

SweetMysterie 49F
3633 posts
10/30/2020 2:41 pm

Once I was going to meet someone for coffee. We each arrived separately in the parking lot and he wanted to chat in his vehicle before going inside. Turned out he just wanted to meet for sex or a bj in his truck while parked in the parking lot. Ummm, no thanks. I was much more cautious after that!



“As with the butterfly, adversity is necessary to build character in people.” ~ JB Wirthlin



Daytimer09B replies on 10/30/2020 3:56 pm:
Yeah, sounds like he was not being honest and that is a big red flag from the beginning. Sorry you had to deal with that. As a guy I am embarrassed and am just shaking my head. I don't think you should even get in a vehicle with someone you do not even know. No telling what they have in mind. Thanks for sharing.

positively4you 72F  
4515 posts
10/30/2020 5:14 pm

Not shallow at all. We like what we like. I will never go for fmf. Never done a 3 some, but if I do, it will not be with another woman. Just not in my dna.
It will be mfm. And the “ watcher” oh hell no. Go for what you want.


Daytimer09B replies on 10/31/2020 7:58 am:
You sound like the female version of myself. lol Thanks for sharing!

author51 58F  
126102 posts
10/31/2020 12:20 am

I turned down a couple I had met for a drink for a threesome as she was bi and wanted to play with me along with the hubby..I am 100% heterosexual and strictly a one man woman..Good post Hun..xoxo


Daytimer09B replies on 10/31/2020 8:00 am:
Nice to know I am in good company. It seems to many times in today's society you are not allowed to think for yourself without being labeled something bad. xo

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