What a slut is and why I'm leaving AFF  

DaraTampa 23F
266 posts
1/10/2022 4:04 pm
What a slut is and why I'm leaving AFF


Guys getting something completely wrong about sluts. Sluts are not people who sleep with everyone, they're people that sleep with everyone THEY WANT. That agency at the end there is a big deal.

My girlfriend was just kicked off the site because she refused a 60yo that made<b> multiple </font></b>accounts and harassed her, but she was the one booted. That kind of entitlement is what kind of keeps me away from older white guys, and I think a lot of women here know exactly what talking about. Now, NOT saying every white guy is like that, please ... I fuck white guys. But, that anger and privilege they expose whenever a woman controls her own destiny is pretty unique to them.

I've met some really cool older white guys on here - some I've hooked up with, some I've just chatted with. But, right at this moment, I have 6000 messages ... most are gross and entitled.

So, to end, sticking with my girlfriend, I mean, that's the right thing to do. But, leaving my up for the week so that those I promised the gangbang blog get to read it, and because of my video - i finally got the courage to post it, so let's let a few more guys get off to it haha and yes, that's ok! Saying I have to fuck you or i'm a bitch is not. It's really each to figure the line.

nicktampa 25M
19 posts
1/10/2022 5:06 pm

aw naw, don't leave! just have her set up another account, when i first joined something like that happened to me.


STampa1971 51M
45 posts
1/10/2022 5:14 pm

Yeah, I have to agree. Don't let the jerks win, just start a new account and if they ban it again, put it up again. No biggie. They probably didn't even research it, it's too much of a hassle


RebootInMCO 50M  
2 posts
1/11/2022 12:08 am

Kudos to you for sticking up for yourself! Free will and human agency are principals of any consensual relationship. I am so sorry you had this experience here. Having been around this site for awhile, I've seen the kind of behavior you describe. It sickens me.
I am raising two young men in the hopes they one day become responsible adults. I teach them every day to respect those around them and to treat people with dignity. I don't understand why men want to be respected and treated well but don't extend the same courtesy to EVERY woman they encounter, not just the ones they hope to sleep with.
I wish you much success in your journey! But standing up for yourself and your own choices and individual agency is a great starting place. I wish all young women were as assertive as you and that EVERY woman treated with the dignity and respect they deserve.


nsnguystill 70M
433 posts
1/11/2022 2:18 am

"Guys getting something completely wrong about sluts. Sluts are people who sleep with everyone, they're people that sleep with everyone THEY WANT. That agency at the end there is a big deal."
you got it all wrong...
a slut is a woman that sleeps with everyone except for me!
why else would those spineless leg humpers attack a women for exercising her right to choose.
sorry to read you are going.

there is a world of difference between insane and stupid


Unzipmeslowly51x 52M
216 posts
1/11/2022 3:36 am

Not everyones a dick. Good luck for the futurešŸ˜Š


Brownie202 65F  
2680 posts
1/11/2022 3:56 am

SOME men think this is a sex site only. WRONG. Because they think that it is ok according to them to talk the way they do. Even if only a sex site it doesn't give them the right to

Humans are the most dangerous animals on earth.

If only animals had the ability to know when to keep away from us humans they would be better off.


jajo696 67F  
4287 posts
1/11/2022 6:11 am

People dont get booted for refusing someones advance, if that were the case, there would be no females on site~


Blueeyeguy13 49M  
3 posts
1/11/2022 7:12 am

Sorry to hear this, it sucks that some guys act this way and ruin it for everyone else.


HuckJ19 57M  
2 posts
1/11/2022 8:40 am

Please dont let the jerks drive you away. Dont let them win! We appreciate you being here and your GF as well!!


worknplayfl 18F

1/11/2022 8:45 am

i'm back, beautiful you don't have to go anywhere yet


j4theladies69 39M
37 posts
1/11/2022 4:20 pm

Sorry to hear you're leaving. Wish you the best of luck.


fun4couple7679 42M/34F  
1 post
1/11/2022 9:07 pm

I had the same thing happened on my female account. Probably the same guy his account said he was 60 too. I started a new one and he found my new one started harassing me all over again. My BF had me get my account verified. He couldn't get me banned any more because I'm verified he is not. I hope this helps you and your GF


Avonsenior 68M  
1461 posts
1/12/2022 3:56 am

Sorry that this has happened to your friend. But I am afraid that with the internet and with this site that too many people feel that the anonymity gives them the "right" to say anything they want and sometimes to do what they want. A friend I dated had an issue where she had consensual sex but when she was ready to leave he said no and at that point she and I considered it . She did not feel the police would do anything and let it go.
Not all guys are that way but it is hard to tell who is.
Sorry to see you go Good Luck


NoTell101 60M
53 posts
1/12/2022 5:17 am

Follow your principles youngster, they will lead you to the life you desire. But know that all roads are not smooth, some are bumpy and riddled with potholes. To travel those roads unscathed is what builds your character. Acquiescence to pressure by old white guys or anyone else diminishes you. Stand strong, be with whoever you want to be with, whenever you want to be with them. Life is for you to live, not for others to dictate the terms.


Boyd767 54M

1/12/2022 1:18 pm

Dara, As I thinkĀ¹ you know I think you are great very cool. I hope you dont leave the site. I'm swm54 n dont feel any entitlement to anyone to do anything for me just as I don't feel I have to do anything for anyone else. I live who you are how you live n wish you would stay but regardless wish u the best. Sincerely Chris Cutcliff


Akmel2021 50M

1/12/2022 4:17 pm

You are so correct. It is up to you who you decide to fuck and no one should feel entitled to you. You are a beautiful young woman with endless options for fucking. So you are in control and everyone should realize that. Youā€™re beautiful and obviously a strong young woman. Stay that way. And good luck to you.


RayleneRich 45T  
14 posts
1/13/2022 1:55 pm

Hey Girl- This sounds very strange. Based upon what you said, it makes no sense that your GF was kicked off Heated Affairs. I'd suggest she and/or you CALL Heated Affairs and speak o someone in customer relations (forget about the Live Chat "Help" here). Regarding your white guy comments--I'm takin' the 5th!!! LOL
Anyway, hope you get this straightened out, Dara -I'd miss you very much.
Your Bosom Buddy,
Raylene xxx


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