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Tips On Over-cumming’ Performance Anxiety in the Lifestyle
Posted:May 24, 2022 10:08 am
Last Updated:May 24, 2022 10:10 am
It’s not unnatural for people to have anxiety about certain aspects of sex, their own body, or even their partner from time to time. However, feeling a bit nervous about initial encounters can be prevalent in the swinger's lifestyle.

Performance anxiety can prevent our bodies from responding in the way we hope when it comes down to playtime sessions and staying aroused—or getting there—may become challenging.

Singles and couples should consider the following to fully overcome lifestyle insecurities and boost confidence at lifestyle parties or with new partners in private settings.

Bypass Sexual Insecurities
One or two not-so-great experiences may be signs of sexual fears and barriers that impede having the best time possible. However, these methods and practices can boost esteem and make you a standout at lifestyle clubs and other personal interactions when swinging.

Do a Little Research

Are you dry, suffering from erectile dysfunction, or having trouble peaking in bed? A little online research can help you dive into the causes of these issues, as can consulting with a medical provider who can help discover if there’s a physical source of the problem.

Build Confidence

Grow self-esteem through self-talk and don’t hesitate to reach out to your primary partner about these concerns. Their understanding can be very reassuring. Consider including more physical exercise in daily activities which can boost libido, and body confidence and increase longevity.


Try Soft Swapping During Swingers Playtime

Sometimes the pressure of feeling the need for a full swap can result in anxiety, especially for newer exchanges. Sometimes, easing into the scene with a soft swap with one new partner at a time can be comforting, as these don’t necessarily require an erection or a performance. It can involve touching, kissing, caressing, and massaging rather than full-on sex.

Employ a Few Toys

Toys are commonplace at many lifestyle parties, as they can help everyone get into the mood. Why not bring them into your everyday life or swing partnerships for a bit of a morale booster? Should you not be in the mood, a good selection of toys can save the experience, ensuring a good time is had by all.

Take Care of Yourself First

If getting going is a struggle, you can head to the bathroom to get a rev in your step with a bit of masturbation, deep breathing, or visual work. Some enjoy masturbating in front of partners, but others might find privacy more reassuring. If staying hard longer is a concern, get yourself off first to increase stamina for the real deal.

Divide and Conquer

If performance anxiety is associated with performing in front of a current partner or strangers in lifestyle clubs, head to a separate room with the swinger's playmates. This means you aren’t being analyzed, nor is your lovemaking style, so dividing it up can benefit certain situations.

Remember, our bodies are often unpredictable and may not always do what we want when we want. Try these helpful tips for easing sexual performance anxiety and finding more pleasure ultimately in the swinger's lifestyle and in your everyday relationship.
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Posted:May 21, 2022 8:42 am
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5/13 Pubic clean up...
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4/27 About right
Posted:Apr 27, 2022 8:59 am
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4/26 Are You Swinging to Enhance or Fix Your Relationship?
Posted:Apr 26, 2022 9:13 am
Last Updated:Apr 26, 2022 9:20 am
The difference may seem nuanced, but swinging rarely fixes problems.

Our long-time podcast listeners have heard us say over and over again that we dont recommend getting into the swinger lifestyle as a means of fixing a relationship that is less than ideal. It can be problematic, even disastrous if one or both partner decides to partake of the lifestyle in order to fill in an important missing component in the relationship or tries to make a relationship work that currently is not working for one or both partners.
But the difference between fixing and enhancing a relationship can be nuanced.
Is it OK to get something from a play partner that is different than what you get from your primary partner? Does your relationship have to be 100% trouble-free for swinging to work for you as a couple? What counts as fixing and what counts as enhancing?
Lets tackle enhancing first.
If you’re in a respectful, mutually satisfying relationship and you both agree that youd like to expand the boundaries of your sexual activities to include other people, youre looking to enhance what you already have. Thats a great reason to try out the Lifestyle! Wed argue that its the ideal reason. Your relationship is not likely to be 100% problem-free (we havent met anyone in that situation, ever). But if your communication is consistently strong and your level of commitment to one another is off-the-charts, swinging can be a fun enhancement for both partners.
It may happen that one or the other (or both) of you find that you experience things with others in a play experience that are different than the things you experience with your partner thats part of the excitement of the Lifestyle! Thats, not the same as seeking out a fix to problems you may experience with your primary partner.
If you get something from other play partners that you dont get from your primary partner, it doesnt mean youre trying to fix a missing part of your relationship. It means youre enjoying a variety of human experiences. And, if youre doing it well, youre also talking about those experiences with your partner and encouraging one another to explore and enjoy them.
So, whats fixing?
Fixing is when one or both partners are less-than-satisfied with the intimacy of their primary relationship and hope that opening up to experiences with others will fulfill the missing component, often without discussing it fully (or at all) with one another. Fixing is using the Lifestyle in place of honest communication and maybe in place of counseling that would strengthen the relationship. Fixing occurs when a couple feels unhappy with each other, whether they discuss it or not, and look to the Lifestyle as a salve for that dissatisfaction.
It may be that the couple loves and admires one another a great deal, but experiences difficulties or incompatibilities in their sexual relationship. The Lifestyle isnt a great way to fix that. In fact, opening up a relationship with sexual tension to others may jeopardize the relationship. On top of that, it may cause drama that gets foisted on the play partners invited in. Nobody in the Lifestyle wants to become part of a schism between two primary partners.
How can you tell if youre fixing versus enhancing?
Take an honest inventory of where you are in your relationship. Ask important questions, such as Can/do we talk openly, candidly, and without reservation with each other about our sexual desires and fantasies?
Do we have a fulfilling intimate life right now, with each other?
Do we both have a desire to experiment with the Lifestyle, or is one of us trying to convince the other?
Is there anything we should address about our intimate life or relationship that one or both of us would rather avoid?
If you find one or both of you would rather not address all those questions honestly, thats the first sign that youre heading toward trying to fix. If you are able to be very honest in your responses to those questions and the answers are YES, YES, YES, and NO youre probably looking to enhance more than fixing your relationship.
Posted:Apr 24, 2022 9:59 am
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2022 10:02 am

Some adult profiles can seem inauthentic and determining which ones are real can prove a bit more challenging — particularly when it comes to adult personals in the swingers lifestyle.

However, with these easy tips, you can more easily spot if someone you’re considering for play is truly who they say they are with intentions that match up with your own.

Pay Attention to Swinger Profile Details
Take a close look at the sexual preferences, weight, height, and other pertinent details in all the swingers personals you review. Those that are incomplete or seem too good to be true should fall under careful scrutiny.

Be leery of profiles that only talk about hooking up and sex—unless that’s what you’re into. High-quality content in the profile such as hobbies, habits, family, and doing ‘together’ activities is likely to lead to discovering more stable couples and individuals in the swingers community versus those looking to cheat or have a quick fling.

Swingers Profile Images: Evaluating and a Few Warning Signs
Pretty much every swingers website has a place for members to post public and private images that can be viewed by other members of the site. Pay attention to the images being shared in your public profile. Be sure to crop or blur out identifying features if privacy is a top concern.

When you view photos, see how well they match up with the swingers personals description provided. Most swingers website has image protection enabled so other members cannot be added to a lookie loo’s personal collection.

While it’s smart to be cautious doling out pics, couples should be cautious of others not willing to share any pics of their own or who insist on going off-platform to an IM or email. If they refuse to talk or exchange emails and photos before meeting—just say “No, thanks!” and move on to more realistic matches. Those who don’t show themselves might simply have something to hide.

Use Swingers Websites Certification As A Guide
Not all sites have a certification process that helps verify a couple or single as being a ‘real’ swinger. Certs aren’t just indicators of proven sexcapades, but they are a good way to let other members know you’re serious about the lifestyle.

It’s a definite bonus if people you’re considering hooking up with have a few well-written letters from other swingers they’ve met or have connections with other lifestyle groups to add to their merit.

The most important thing in evaluating a swingers profile is to be sure they are a good match for you and your desires. Take time to make a connection through video chats, emails, and phone calls before meeting up in person. Try not to share too much information about yourself or your family until you know your play partner(s) a little better.

Wife Sharing and Why Women Love It
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Six reasons younger men like older women
Posted:Apr 17, 2022 10:03 am
Last Updated:Apr 17, 2022 10:14 am
The older woman/younger man relationship is desirable for a multitude of reasons. Once a man has dated or had sex with someone older, he tends to have a preference for that dynamic. These relationships can last a few days or years, but rarely are they remembered as anything but positive experiences. Heres why:
1. Confidence
The most appealing trait in anyone is self-confidence. Many older women have developed their own sense of style and after years of growth both mentally and physically theyre comfortable in their own skin. This is of utmost importance when attracting someone whether its in a personal or business relationship. An older woman has gone through different life passages and by now she knows who she is and what she wants. Frequently she is financially independent and streetwise. Younger men want to be with her because of the positive energy she emits. Her self-assurance will have a reciprocal effect on the man too. Hell gain maturity by being in the relationship. This will help build his character and make him feel good about himself.

2. Knowledge About Sex and Life
Older women have years of sexual experience with men of all ages. She had a lot of practice whether it was with multiple partners or one man. Being with a woman who can teach the younger guy a few new tricks is extremely alluring, especially to those who havent had many partners or experiences. The older woman knows her own body and what turns her on. She has the owners manual and shares it willingly with her partners. She is self-aware and knows what she wants in and out of the bedroom. An older woman may have discovered what her passions are, and will likely help guide the younger man to follow his gut. She teaches him to avoid listening to the naysayers. Older women are great teachers. The younger man will be comfortable discussing career and life goals with a woman whos eager to share her life wisdom.

3. No Game Playing
Older women are done playing games. They are straight shooters and will be honest about what they want in the relationship and what they wont accept. They™will answer phone calls and texts without waiting days to respond like their younger counterparts. They will demand respect from the younger man because they respect themselves. An older woman will tell the guy whats on her mind instead of making him try to guess what she is thinking. Typically the younger guy won’t need to worry about pregnancy prevention since the older woman will be equally concerned having already had her own . He will come to expect future women of any age to be more mature and responsible.

4. Communication
One of the most desirable aspects of having sex with an older woman is that she will express what she wants. A younger less experienced woman may worry that if she shares her desires, she may lose the man. She may be embarrassed to tell a guy what turns her on sexually. Older women communicate their desires without hesitation. An older woman wont expect the guy to have ESP and will express her needs rather than make him try to read her mind. She will ask him to openly share what he likes in bed and in the relationship. The older woman wont shy away from offering advice on personal hygiene. Shell encourages him to dress like a man “ , not a boy. This will spill over into other areas of his life, as he gets encouragement from people about his new look.

5. Freedom
The younger man can be free to be himself with an older woman. He wont need to impress her with a fake bravado the way he might think a younger woman would expect. Hes with the older woman for companionship and sex without worrying that she wants something more – like marriage. He feels nurtured and cared for by her, and doesnt feel the demands of taking care of the younger more needy girl. This works well for the guy whos concentrating on finding his passion and/or career. As previously stated, older women dont want to start new families and this takes the pressure off the younger guy. He can be with her when he wants and there arent any obligations other than to have fun. Once the relationship is over, the resulting friendship may continue to last throughout their lifetimes.

6. Game Changer
The younger guy may receive a great ego boost knowing that a hot older woman finds him desirable. The older woman will come to expect a certain amount of emotional maturity, which if achieved, will have a great effect on the younger mans confidence with all women. His friends may originally question the relationship but ultimately envy him. After gaining self-awareness and knowledge about what women want, in the future, the younger guy will be comfortable being in relationships with women of all ages. Some guys may end up finding their life partner in the older woman, whereas others may move on to be with women their own age or younger.

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