My Primal ... Urges
This is a safe place for me to write what's in my head and heart. I'm on a quest to explore and expand my sexual path ... each day it evolves and fluctuates.

I think humor should be everyone's best friend. Sometimes I'm serious and sometimes I'm silly.

I find the most efficient way to get around blogland is on my tricycle. I kill three birds with one stone ... quickly visit more blogs, get some well needed exercise and at the right level to miss flying objects or the low hanging fruit.

I encourage everyone to speak their mind, respectfully. I can always learn from healthy debate. All opinions are accepted unless they're attacking, inflammatory, chauvinistic or misogynistic. If your agenda is something other than engaging in a meaningful discussion or to have fun, I will ask you to not visit my blog.

I hope everyone enjoys their journey throughout A*F*F. Everyone is welcome within the walls of my blog as long as they conduct themselves as an adult. No bullying, manipulative or trolling behavior will be tolerated.

Open Public secret about me, I'm a returning blogger formerly known as CHT.
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Reflections of past lovers ... The introduction
Posted:Sep 6, 2021 2:56 am
Last Updated:Dec 13, 2021 11:27 pm

I once had a conversation with a friend (and past blogger) where I off handedly said, 'someday I'll write about the men I've met in my life'. She gleefully retorted ... "C, that's something I would stay up late to read".

My heart was captured by one man when I was young and held for many years. He left not by his own powers and far too young, yet still has a hold on my heart.

Going back in time some 15+ years, I realized I have given pet names to some of the most memorable men in my life. There is Pooh Bear, the Silent One, the Fireman, the Principle, Mr. Herpes & Glitter Boy.

Pooh Bear and Glitter Boy are the pet names I used with them during our relationships. The others are the pet names I used with my friends when talking about them in conversations.

How did these men get their pet names you wonder ... I'll give you the cliff notes.

Pooh Bear is a very tall and portal man. He is one of the nicest men I've ever met. He is like Christopher Robin's best friend; nice, loyal, sweet & loveable.

The Silent One is an exceptionally sexy man. He likes to let his or our bodies do the talking.

The Fireman is not an actual fireman by trade and yet he knew actually how to turn the water works on, repeatedly.

The Principle is in fact a principle by trade.

Mr. Herpes didn't have a pet name for several years until he was infected with herpes, hence the pet name and the immediate end to our sexscapes.

Last but not least is Glitter Boy. He has been called many things during our friendship. He actually gave himself the pet name Glitter Boy because there is always glitter on most surfaces in my house that would end up on him, his clothes, his car... etc. So Glitter Boy it is.

Chapter One will be dedicated to The Silent One.
Will we ever grow as women ???
Posted:Sep 4, 2021 10:50 am
Last Updated:Sep 9, 2021 7:00 pm
I have silently watched blog wars go on for years in the blogs. While I have always disliked the list because it has caused so much competition and distention within the community, it is nothing new, it has existed from day one of the top bloggers list.

I am saddened to read all the bickering, bs and drama that is thrown back and forth between some of the female bloggers over a spot on a list of a sex site. The male bloggers do not seem to behave in this manner. That is not to say some men don not insert themselves in other ways or female bloggers do not insert them into the drama, bickering and bs.

Ladies collectively we need to do better by supporting and uplifting, not tearing each other down. We do not all need to be best friends but we need to coexist in better harmony that is not so childish or destructive.

Be the bigger woman and become accountable for your own behaviors and actions. Make positive not negative changes in the space around you.

Is drama over a spot on a list on a sex site really worth that much to you ??? I hope not but history seems to continue repeating in Heated Affairs blogland by female bloggers.

Will we ever grow as woman ???
Open Petition to Abolish both, Fake Troll Profiles & the Active Bloggers List
Posted:May 22, 2015 7:43 pm
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2021 3:10 am

As a collective group, we have the power to demand change within a site where many '', let's exercise that power.

This petition will be submitted to A*F*F administers to abolish both, the active bloggers list and fake troll profiles.

For many years the on-line community has witnessed numerous blog wars, bullying, attacking, shaming, manipulations, attacks and infighting over the most active bloggers list.

In an effort to eliminate the hostile competitive environment created from the active bloggers list, it should be abolished in it's present function and replaced with a different forum.

The discussed ideas are as below:

1) Abolish the active bloggers list all together and only have trending blog posts by all existing bloggers with no separation between gender.

2) Have trending blog posts by all existing bloggers and all newly created blogs with no separation between gender.

3) Rotate the trending blog posts by all existing bloggers and newly created blogs with no separation between gender.

The point is to give exposure to all blogs and have easier access to the existing bloggers, regardless of popularity and/or gender.

Fake troll profiles are not new within A*F*F and I believe we are dealing with far more fake troll profiles in the on-line community which are created for nefarious purposes.

The sole purpose of fake troll profiles is to be deceptive, manipulative, abusive and divisive in nature. They put into question the 'realness' of a on-line site and are wide reaching throughout the site, from people who choose to use the on-line meeting or on-line community side of the site.

This abuse of the system has created a hostile environment which does not allow all to freely enjoy the site the way we are entitled to as site members.

Many members have left the on-line community area, or closed their accounts, and more leave the site if the problem is not yet addressed and resolved.

This is a petition asking site administrators to abolish both, the active bloggers list and fake troll profiles. If you agree or disagree with any of the statements within this petition or have suggestions / ideas, please leave a comment below.This is a chance for all site members to voice their opinions, and have their concerns heard in an organized and collective manner.

I will present this petition and open a dialog with the site administrators to request a priority be placed with the petition.

Thank you for helping to make this a better experience for all members.
Your Worth ...
Posted:Aug 6, 2015 3:06 am
Last Updated:Aug 14, 2021 12:31 am
Today's reminder ...
When solace can be found nowhere, I can only offer you my body
Posted:Jun 28, 2015 3:05 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2019 4:05 am
Today we are both heart broken but for completely different reasons ... My heart breaks for you. I can not help you or take away your pain. It hasn't completely shank in yet for you and when it does, my heart will break for you all over again. Your anguish will be too much for you to bear. I can only hope you will not be inconsolable.

For now, I will hide my heart break and do everything I can to help make you whole again. It is time for me to cuddle and pet you into a safe place. I will lay my head were it belongs on you and hold on tight. Maybe just maybe, that will give you a tiny speck of solace.

I hope today was better than yesterday and tomorrow is better than today. When solace can be found nowhere, I can only offer you my body as a safe place to rest.
Beautiful Cathartic Intimacy
Posted:Jun 17, 2015 4:35 pm
Last Updated:Oct 6, 2021 1:11 pm

The two involved lovers share a deep, profound, vulnerable emotional connection where the man makes her feel safe, protected, and validated, the way a loving dominant male does, and her vulnerability, submissiveness, sexual surrender, and nurturing love and acceptance nourishes him within his life through power. This will cumulate in a beautiful, cathartic intimacy.

There should be nothing sexual between great lovers that is left undone. Both should be completely uninhibited and surrendered sexually.

In any type of power exchange relationship, all the beauty of it comes from the woman; the beauty of precious surrender is all in her hands, and she is the source of nourishment for the man. Yet the man is responsible for the emotional intimacy.... the man is the one who needs to guide and deepen it... needs to know how to dig in to the deep emotional vulnerabilities as the woman surrenders.

When this happens, hold on tightly and fully comprehend the nuances behind this type of relationship. The shared passion and intimacy is fragile while powerful at the same time.
This is how you make velvet look SEXY as FUCK !
Posted:Jun 5, 2015 11:04 am
Last Updated:Nov 19, 2016 11:09 pm
A fetish of mine is a well dressed man. I love everything about men's wear and more specifically, how it can be combined to be worn. It can be casual, trendy, sporty or traditional. But I think it's best when it's your own style.

I love the mixture of textures because I love to touch things. I work with fabrics and such all day long so I'm always touching. I'm very tactile and visual. Some people learn through written words, while I learn visually with my eyes and through touch and spoken words.

I like things that are soft and supple to the touch. I get the mass appeal of overtly sexy / sexual but I think it's banal. I prefer to discover your sexuality in other ways. It's kind of like a dance of seduction with all my senses. My eyes want to take everything in. Both my hands will start to slowly work in tandem. I'll need to touch your face and beard first, while my other hand is ever so slowly starting to run up your arm. The velvet is cool yet soft to the touch. You know I can't resist running my hands through your chest fur while I'm pulling on your bottom lip.

This dance we do at the end of our day is what gets me up in the morning. While I adore you when you're completely naked and ready to take me ... I'll need to savor the look and feel of velvet a little longer ... This is how you make velvet look SEXY as FUCK !

What style turns you on and gets your juices flowing ? Are you a visual or tactile person ?
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So YOU disagree with MY presense ... Here's my ONE warning shot over the bow of my blog !
Posted:Jun 4, 2015 8:05 am
Last Updated:Nov 24, 2018 4:50 pm

I discovered something new to me last night while reading 'Where I am Quoted' in the blogs.

Some knucklehead had taken time out of their busy life to go through every comment I've made in my blog upon my return so they could vote 'I disagree' on each blog comment I made with the polling option. Someone doesn't seem to like my presence, well TOO BAD.

I don't understand this passive aggressive behavior from a bully. Well to be more succinct, I don't understand any type of manipulative, childish, bullying behavior from anyone, especially an adult.

We all know there are numerous ways for a bully to accomplish this type of behavior. The most common is to hide behind a trolling profile and follow your comments. More than likely they are already blocked from your blog, so they need find one of your comments and follow the trail. They must open each and every comment you've made because there is no indicator if the blogger has elected the setting to poll comments. This seems like petty and cowardly behavior for an adult to perpetrate, but someone has done it to me. Can you image having that much spare time on your hands ?

It appears this vindictive behavior from the knucklehead started in the past 5 days. When I first discovered all the intentional, 'I disagree' votes, my decision was to stop commenting. The trail would be dead and this knucklehead would not be able to vote 'I disagree'. I quickly dismissed this idea because I enjoy reading and commenting on blogs and this idiot isn't going to stop me by 'disagreeing' with me.

Trolls will do trolling behavior. Bullies will try to bully. Idiots will do stupid shit. Knuckleheads will waste their time chasing their tails. Perpetrators will stalk. Cowards always hide in the shadows. Manipulators will deceive and deflect.

But childish, idiot trolling knuckleheads, who perpetrate petty manipulative behavior, are just simple minded cowards who like to stalk and bully from the shadows. Sad existence for an adult but we all know, A*F*F has no responsibility to screen for mentally and emotionally challenged members

But I can send knuckleheads on wild goose chases even after hunting season has been closed. I'm calling this my ONE warning shot over the bow of my blog.

P.S. ~ To the knucklehead ... while you're sitting behind your computer all alone, pathetically trying to 'disagree' with me virtually, I'm out in the real world having a blast in life.
HNW - The Erotic Allure of Fishnet
Posted:Jun 3, 2015 7:36 am
Last Updated:Sep 19, 2016 9:13 pm
This weeks Half Nekkid Wednesday theme of material spoke to me both, professionally and personally.

I work within an industry surrounded by fabrics all day long. I'm fortunate to have a career I love while feeding my curiosity and passion. I'm very good with my hands and enjoy all things crafty. There's not much I can't sew or make from an idea or image.

I think sexy and sexuality are like a mixture of textures. The more you layer or add the better it can be or the better it feels. I've never been an overtly sexy dresser. I prefer to layer things or showcase things in a discreet way. Because I'm comfortable and prefer being naked I don't own a lot of lingerie, but I adore fishnet and lace. The great thing about them is they can easily be ripped off and that turns me on.

Today my exhibitionist streak felt like being free ...
A more discreet collar & leash ~ would you wear it ???
Posted:May 30, 2015 12:00 pm
Last Updated:Jun 8, 2015 10:03 am
I think this is very discreet, classy & refined. If anyone noticed while out in public, I'm sure it would turn heads. But would it turn heads to the degree if she had it around her neck with a leash ?

There are some aspects of BDSM that speak to me but this isn't one of them. I've never understood the ownership concept at this level. This image has sparked my curiosity to read more about this form of ownership. I'm unclear why anyone would want this as the dynamic in their D/s relationship. I wonder if I educate myself, will I have a better understanding ?

If I choose to be in an owned or collared relationship, this would be my 'day collar' because I think it's sexy as fuck. I've always been turned on by the not so obvious sides of sexuality.

So blogland, are any of you in a D/s owned or collared relationship ? Would you wear this collar or are you more of a traditionalist with your gear ?
Is it Really Safe to be Vulnerable with You ?
Posted:May 25, 2015 8:16 am
Last Updated:Mar 21, 2018 1:17 am

I've been talking to you
... but ...
You're not listening
... or is it ...
You're not hearing
... or is it ...
You're not really caring

Something about you makes me
feel safe to be vulnerable ...
You told me I was safe ...
to be vulnerable with you

The way you look at me is special
The way you touch me is special
The way we whisper to each other is special

Our connection and chemistry is rare
It is powerful and undeniable
It's tangibility is in the air around us

My desire to please you is high
My desire to return your lust is high
You just bring out so many desires in me ... for you

Nothing is off limits to you
I will be as naughty or as
Nasty as you want me to be
But I only want to experience and explore this with you

I call you Daddy because we both know who's truly in charge

You say you appreciate me
You thank me for my patience
You say you want me
You say you 'like this' when we sleep and cuddle close

You ask if 'I feel this' connection
You ask if 'I feel this' chemistry
Of course 'I feel' it ... how could I not
Together we are powerful

We've done this many times
We get sooo close and then
Comes the silence

The silence hurts the worst
I feel disrespected
I feel discarded
I want you to fight to keep US

Maybe it's me you've been talking to
... but ...
I'm not listening
... or is it ...
Me not hearing you
... BUT ...
A Dom's Nursery Rhyme
Posted:May 24, 2015 6:35 am
Last Updated:Jun 29, 2015 2:28 pm

Hush, Little Angel, don’t say a word,
Daddy's gonna spank you for the whimper I heard.

And if that whimper turns into sighs,
Daddy will push his hands in between your thighs.

And if your thighs begin to spread,
Daddy will grab you firmly by the head.

And if that firm grasp starts to slip,
Daddy will thrust his dick in between your lips.

And if your sweet lips are too tight,
Daddy will make sure they’re exhausted tonight.

And if My Angel wakes up with a grin,
Daddy's is going to tie you up again.


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