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leefury7 73M

12/7/2021 1:59 pm

"Strangers When We Meet." It's on YT if you should wish to watch it. I remember the first time I saw it. I've often pondered the ability of permanence in an extra marital affair. On the face of it it is illogical in that if you are unable to have one with your spouse, why would you entertain that you could establish one in secretive affair? There are so many limitations. The limitation of time. To be the second man/woman means moments together are necessarily stolen. How many stolen moments can you maintain before being discovered? There is then some necessary requirements that evolve because of this. The requirement of Trust. To trust someone who is secretly stealing moments to be with you is somewhat paradoxical. Normally you trust people who don't lie, cheat or steal. And yet to have meaningful, on going affair, it is essential. You must trust on several levels. One, you have to trust that what they state is their reason for seeking an outside affair is actual. i.e. is their spouse as bad as they say they are?

Acceptance and understand required by the very nature of such an arrangement. A stolen moment together is arranged and then there is a no show. Stolen moments can suddenly become unavailable. There is also the no small matter of one party falling, or not falling in love with the other. Both present different issues that will probably cause a bumpy road if the relation is to continue.

I guess in an affair, there must be a maturity about it, accepting that there is a very high probability that it is going to be short lived. Hope for the best but be willing to accept the worst. I think this why it is not very wise to have an affair with someone much younger than yourself. The maturity level just isn't there to consider and accept all the emotional entanglements. And it is the emotional entanglements that are the most dangerous aspect of having an affair. Having merely a physical affair only requires, opportunity, health and permission. But there is something psychologically wrong with an individual who feast on only the physical.

And yet, each affair hopes for meaningful longevity. Or am I betraying my romantic mysticism?


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