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Stepping up, voyeuristic or damaged goods  

afl0ribama 54M
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9/28/2021 11:12 am
Stepping up, voyeuristic or damaged goods


I see a lot of people join the site, but are their expectations real? A lot of folks,(myself included), start by joining and looking around. We want be seen just enough not be seen. Not knowing, understanding the full extent of what is free and what is not. We don't fully fill out our profile with an introduction, answer key relevant questions or give oblique, vanilla, vague non-committal answers nor do we make a lot of friends right off the bat,(with the exception of the women, lol). We live vicariously through the more active members. This is most everyone's voyeuristic phase. Some do not make beyond this phase either becoming disenfranchised or dropping out completely.

Then you have people that take a step up for various reasons. Some think its enough post pictures of their anatomy as a way to draw people to them. 's all they have offer and have the intellect or personality of a piece of paper. Then you have the one's that will add a blurb about themselves, a slight mention of their intentions, predilections or preferences and a generic or titillating photo. This phase is Stepping Up.

Other's you may find post everything they do or say - including how their past or current relationship sucks so bad. But never actually tell you anything about their habits, interests or otherwise. They'll friend you to feel more important to themselves, but nothing else to move forward. Some say ask me, but tell you nothing. Are these people damaged goods?

are the few that are the genuine article - real people. They are not a bot, not a scam artist, but the REAL McCoy. They fill out their profile, specify what they are looking for and why. They post candid, alluring, sexy, or honest photos. They are honest, earnest, loyal, fun, exciting and humorous people are comfortable with they are, wherever they are. They may have several friends or not, but their candor is genuine...this is me.

However, then are some from each category I've mentioned above that are easily offended if, for goodness sake, you have an allergy smoke, a particular diet, you're married or in a relationship, got the vaccine, didn't get because of health, political stance, favorite sport or team etc, but it doesn't mean that you have view them with bigotries or racist light- can't we all still be friends. What is the world coming where honest, conversation or good natured humor cannot be had in a chat room, online, over a cup of coffee, drink or meal? Lighten up, laugh and live.

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