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Follow your heart (But don't let it drag you around)  

CasualNakedCudls 40M
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7/17/2021 8:53 pm
Follow your heart (But don't let it drag you around)

Hello!

I love write and I love put things where no one I know will find it. So this is great. I just have some loving words, advice, and maybe a limerick or two? At any rate, I figured I would just dump some emotions here.

I digress.

I think the most important thing understand about life today, is that it's all diametric. A dichotomy almost, in a way. Like, the same thing but different. Maybe that's not the best word for it. Counter-intuitive may be a better expression. It just feels like we have the capability for so much more. But we are stuck, here, with no light at the end of the tunnel. What am I talking about? Part of the reason I am here.

Today anyone could not disagree that the world is hyper-connected. You could have a conversation with almost anyone in the whole world and not even worry about language barrier. Someone on the other side of the world, can instantaneously see your face and talk to you. It's wild!

But yet, we stay more disconnected than ever. We hide behind these glowing screens because, lets face it, it SUCKS out there. It's better in here in a lot of ways. But just don't forget, there is another human being at the end of the line. Don't loose your humanity and compassion in the cold dissonance of this world. Keep being kind, keep shining your light, and keep doing what's right even when no one is looking (most of the time, anyway .

So this hyper-connectivity has led to some great advantages, despite the disconnect. It has opened the door to the possibility of meeting so many people! But, like most things, there is a dark side. This level of connection has lead so many to give up on relationships because it was so easy to find someone else and move on. This could be a good thing, or a bad thing. Depending on the relationship and the mental health / emotional intelligence of the couple.

We can get through so much more than we realize, and we run to find something new instead of pushing a little harder. Going a little further. But this doesn't mean you should tolerate abuse of any form. If you feel guilty about anything when you are with someone, you should probably get out. Even if you really did do something wrong, can you live with the secret? If you did tell would they leave? It's a personal path to walk , for sure. So many factors.

I say to my friends all the time, follow your heart, but don't let it<b> drag </font></b>you around. That's a hard caveat to remember in the heat of the passionate moment when hormones are the only thing in control and you haven't had sex in 8 months. So, to combat this, put a mental "surge protector" on your heart. It can be incorporated into emotional intelligence. Try to become aware of what gets your heart going. Recognize that feeling and shut it down, or at check it when you feel it.

Have you ever experienced this; you meet a person online, it's magical, perfect, amazing. Feels like a super deep connection. You vibrate at a level with them you've never felt before. Things get a little intense. Sexual tension. Talking non stop. You talk about finally meeting this person. They agree, to meet soon. Then, all of a sudden...

Nothing.

Ghosted.

They just vanish.

I call these people 'shooting stars'. They are bright and beautiful and amazing, but come and go too fast, leaving nothing more than a memory and a wish. Shooting stars hurt. Because we start to feel like we are getting somewhere with someone on the same page as us. Someone looking for the same thing. Then the rug gets ripped out from underneath you.

Time and time again, I was subjected to this. So I got to thinking. Maybe it's me? I think I am such a hopeless romantic, that I am truly HOPELESS. So I just try to protect my heart and remember what a dude told me one night in Savannah when I had had a bad night and he just sat next to me in an alley and rolled up a blunt.

He asked me how I was, I told him how the night had gone (A story for another time). He told me something I will never forget. I explained a little about some trouble. He said, "Man, you just gotta feed them with a long spoon." this day, I want a long spoon tattooed on my forearm, just to remind me of this.

That translates outside of just romantic relationships. Any relationship should be managed this way. Keep your distance and slowly work your way in. There is a reason people make less friends the older they get. For starters we are just busy af. What's more, we start to realize that EVERYONE ELSE IS AN ASSHOLE! Most of us are just trying to do the right thing, and assholes are everywhere. Breeding. ruining it for the nice people and making everyone else salty as hell.

I look at it like a line of credit. Trust IS credit. I give a little at first. You work with me to build that credit score. It takes time. But, just like credit, it only takes a moment to ruin and it may never recover without serious effort.

I guess I just want to remind anyone who takes the time to read this, to remember to guard your heart. Live and love, but don't give your whole world away. Be mysterious. You are all you need. You are worth while and if you keep believing that, the right kind of people will come along. Just watch for those red flags, and never justify abuse of any sort.

Much love and peace to you all.

Still need a cutie to cum sit naked on my bed while I play guitar.

Spiral Out all you Cudlrs

Love, Don happym;


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