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Our (ALMOST) 3sum  

JayNJennieSmith 31M/39F
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9/29/2019 11:49 am
Our (ALMOST) 3sum

So, jay and i had been looking for MoNTHS for the perfect girl to have a 3some with. I filled out countless profiles on endless websites and apps. This is actually how we ended up here on this site (different profile) months ago.

We met a few girls online, even ordered one girl her first ever vibrator. That was on a we started specifically to find that perfect girl. She lives hours away though, in North Florida. I spent hours talking to another girl on whatsapp that was really not what we were looking for but we were ready to just FIND A GIRL!!! You will find us on every single dating and 3some site out there, no lie!!!

We had agreed that she would have to be someone that we were not too close to and would not have to see on a daily basis. Someone who would be in our bed one night and out of our lives, for the most part, the next.

Then sometime last week or so i (ts all blur now) we bumped into my ex. The same guy I was seeing back when Jay and I first met, who to this day thinks Jay stole me from him. Whether he did or not is up for debate. He and I were never dating seriously so I wasn't stolen. I simply walked away and forgot to let him know that I was taking Jay home with me.

Anyway, he is with this girl. She is just an adorable tiny thing. Beautiful,, great personality, funny.....so much like me in so many ways it scared me. I gave her my and told her I wanted to hang out. The next day she called and 10am is at our house. Of course, Jay and I were both thinking the same thing. THIS CHICK IS PERFECT!!! I asked her and she was in. We had found our perfect girl!!!! We were SO excited.

We didn't rush it because we didn't want to scare her away. We spent every spare moment of our time with this girl. She was in the process of moving and I think she was slowly trying to move into our place because she kept bringing all of her shit over to our house. Giving us and just being the sweetest thing ever. EVEN I WAS FALLING FOR HER!!!! But i could totally sense that she was not into having sex with women, So we didn't push it.

One night she is standing in my kitchen and she makes this comment that 'Jay is the only man that could touch her'. I thought that was a little strange, but i let it go because I was captivated her. And I wanted her, honestly. I wanted Jay to have his fantasy and she was just perfect. But our #1 rule was already broken. Not only were we getting too close, she was slowly moving INTO our place!!! Making comments about being mine and Jays girlfriend.

I started getting an uneasy feeling about the entire situation,. If I was completely smitten with this girl, what would make me think that Jay wasn't going to fall for her as well?? I could feel suddenly the threat to our relationship and I started to panic. I didn't know how to deal with these new feelings I was having. I was never the jealous type and insecurity is not something I struggle with. I decided to talk to Jay and tell him how I was feeling. Of course he told me I was crazy. This poor guy had been waiting patiently forever for his 3some and here it was.....now I was destroying his dream telling him it was a bad idea. But something just was NOT sitting right with me. I am not about crushing dreams. As a matter of fact, this whole thing had been MY idea to being with. It wasn't like he came to ME and told me he wanted to have sex with another woman. Until now.

It didn't my doubts at all that Jay told this girl how I was feeling without telling me that he was going to talk to her, Needless to say, I was pissed. He had no ill intentions. I know Jay adores me. I knew it the whole time. But those insecurities are a killer. How could he go behind my back and tell her things that I had told him?!? Thank goodness he did though, because what happened next blew my mind.

She had gone home that morning and called to talk to me. She tells me that she is not gay and was nervous about the 3some because she would JUST be having sex with Jay. She also tells me that she was afraid to 'catch any more feelings for him'. HIM being MY FIANCE!!! This girl was catching feelings for my man!!! My head was a mess. She even told me that she wished every man was as perfect at Jay!!! WTF....she barely KNOWS him!!! How did she think any of this was okay?!?! I told Jay the whole thing was OFF. I didn't tell him immediately that she had told me about catching feelings for him because I actually thought he was going to suddenly realize he had feelings for her too and they were going to run off together and live happily ever after. It was a horrible feeling that had me acting like a complete<b> psycho.

</font></b>I did end up talking to Jay about it and we decided she had to go.. We were going to call the whole thing off and get rid of her. Only that night when she showed up she was a wasted mess and had someone with her. It was gonna have to wait. Or so I thought. We were sitting out on my front step (me, her and her drunken friend) when Jay comes out to tell me he was getting in the shower. He kissed me and goes in. This bitch proceeds to tell me she is running in and for ME to wait outside with her friend!!! SHE WAS FOLLOWING MY MAN IN THE HOUSE!!! I couldn't believe the balls she had!!! I said HELL NO.....and got rid of her. For good. I mean, it wasn't that easy. Jay had to let his asshole side show and she is still calling and leaving messages but she isn't sleeping in our bed anymore!!!

So, our 3some never happened and we decided it was better left a fantasy than reality. We have an amazing sex life. We don't need anyone else involved in our relationship and sometimes things just aren't meant to be. I feel really bad that i doubted him and that he came so close to getting his 3some just to have his dream ripped away but our relationship is just not worth it. The fact that he stole two girls off of my ex should be enough to keep him going for a little bit since they cant stand each other. Lesson learned. We will keep it a fantasy for now, unless the (REA right girl comes along and doesn't end up falling for my man!!!


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