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Blogs > Yin_4_My_Yang > General Thoughts and Ramblings

Vocabulary  

Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
69 posts
10/20/2019 10:55 am
Vocabulary
Thought I would make an addition of words and phrases and sayings and images that inspire thoughts, imagination and creativity[.t
Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/20/2019 10:57 am

 This is a word and condition that is at the epicenter of all things sexual and kinky for me.


1seeking1 58F
3767 posts
10/20/2019 11:16 am

 For ne as well and has been too long since I have been blindfolded.


Yin_4_My_Yang replies on 10/20/2019 11:58 am:
Do you have a favorite type of blindfold. I have a traditional one but find that I like to use one of my ties even more. I've also ripped up an undershirt to use as blindfold in the heat of the moment.

seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
10/20/2019 11:23 am

 I can't decide if I want to be blindfolded or not... My first experience was pretty crap.... "put the blindfold on and leave the door open".. .he said... " It will be fun." .. he said.
The bastard never showed up, so I'm led in bed like a complete douche with the blindfold on waiting for the door to shut!! ,,,,, half an hour past the allotted time, I gave up, felt like a right twat!
It was his loss because when he asked me to do it again I said not fucking likely


Yin_4_My_Yang replies on 10/20/2019 11:56 am:
I like how it adds another level and heightens one's "other" senses.

Livin_my_Life14 53F

10/20/2019 11:39 am

 There has to be trust even without a blindfold. Especially, in our situation, being attached. That is the first and biggest hurdle to get past when finding a lover. Can you trust this person to NOT throw you under a bus and hurt you and others? That is a deeper intimacy then just wearing a blindfold and being vulnerable.

I’m sure as we move forward- we will have deeper/Intimate discussions💕

I’m looking forward to getting to know you💋


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
10/20/2019 11:40 am

 from sub's view, it is totally necessary to trust Dom...to give your control to Dom, first you must trust the Dom...but in a way, it works both way....Dom must totally understand the needs of Sub...


Yin_4_My_Yang replies on 10/20/2019 11:55 am:
I agree wholeheartedly.

Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/20/2019 11:54 am

 That's the beauty of a true D/s relationship in my humble opinion. Learning and discovering the needs. For me it doesn't begin with sexual needs, but those unique needs that makes the sub a submissive. The needs include a number of aspects including but not limited to, emotional, intellectual and physical.

At the core , the submissive has power in giving her submission. That is something that has to be earnex.


Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/20/2019 12:38 pm

 Absolutely Trust is a two way street regardless of one's status.

Couldn't agree more.


japaneseass 56F  
50231 posts
10/20/2019 12:46 pm
    Quoting  :
yesss...and to trust, one must start to communicate!!! sooo true...girl...


Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/20/2019 2:57 pm

 You just have to be straight. Some do it in wroting. Others do it with speech. Some do it nonverbally instead of verbally. And some do it with actions.

It doesn't mean exposing your soul and peeling all the layers at once. Honesty is hard sometimes because it requires you to look at yourself and in some cases become vulnerable.


Livin_my_Life14 53F

10/20/2019 7:12 pm

 The submissive doesn’t have any power- if he doesn’t exist to the D. The D will entertain other’s- to replace what he/ she is missing. It can be a vicious cycle of control.

Which is why- Trust is so important.

Can I trust that you will not abuse your power to mentally destroy me? Being a submissive- mentally is just as important as physically.

Since, I am dominant in most aspects of my life. I can be submissive- behind closed doors.

However, I’m still learning and listening to your words.


Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/21/2019 7:48 am
    Quoting  :
IGood Morning Debbie.

I agree. The submissive holds the power with either a yes or no. A great deal of groundwork has to be done to get to that point.


Livin_my_Life14 53F

10/21/2019 8:47 am

 I guess I have never experienced the power of someone saying No. In all my sexual relationships- I have had the power of control. Even when he/she thinks they have control- I allow it. I never experienced a power struggle. I give, I receive and I am pleased.

I’m not sure I am even willing to learn. It’s just who I am. I enjoy your writing - it excites me! 💕💕


Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/21/2019 8:59 am
    Quoting Livin_my_Life14:
    I guess I have never experienced the power of someone saying No. In all my sexual relationships- I have had the power of control. Even when he/she thinks they have control- I allow it. I never experienced a power struggle. I give, I receive and I am pleased.

    I’m not sure I am even willing to learn. It’s just who I am. I enjoy your writing - it excites me! 💕💕
So you are typically Dominant in your sexual relations as well, which Carrie's over from your daily life where you need to be in control.

But you'd like to relinquish some of that control?

Maybe you just need to make a few baby steps in that direction. Sounds like you need a good mentor and Domto help with that process. 😉


Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/21/2019 11:27 am
    Quoting  :
That's great to read. I wish you the very very best in your journey.

Peace!


Livin_my_Life14 53F

10/21/2019 1:39 pm

 Yes, I would like to relinquish some control.

Baby steps, very true words💕


Yin_4_My_Yang 57M
57 posts
10/21/2019 1:42 pm
    Quoting Livin_my_Life14:
    Yes, I would like to relinquish some control.

    Baby steps, very true words💕
Slow and steady wins the race!. 🙂


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