Reset Password
If you've forgotten your password, you can enter your email address below. An email will then be sent with a link to set up a new password.
Cancel
Reset Link Sent
If the email is registered with our site, you will receive an email with instructions to reset your password. Password reset link sent to:
Check your email and enter the confirmation code:
Don't see the email?
  • Resend Confirmation Link
  • Start Over
Close
If you have any questions, please contact Customer Service

Ways *not* to start a conversation on AFF  

fatgrrl 43F
7 posts
3/4/2019 9:10 pm
Ways *not* to start a conversation on AFF

This post is only viewable by Heated Affairs members.
Join Heated Affairs now!

porterpiper1 57F
3755 posts
3/4/2019 10:38 pm

No matter how many time we women try to tell those idiots they never get it, then they want to get mad when you turn them down. STOP THINKING WITH YOUR DICK HEAD AND THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN


dogslife2live01 71M

3/4/2019 11:28 pm

yup that is what i hear but not what i see...
but thanks for the heads up

there is a world of difference between insanity and stupidity


DOMINATE6UNLOAD 32M

3/5/2019 12:50 am

Would be curious to know how you think the right way to start a convo is on here.


fatgrrl replies on 3/5/2019 6:08 pm:
I was planning a follow-up post on that very topic!

FresnoWoman 53F
883 posts
3/5/2019 1:29 am

I think "hi" or "hello" is fine as the first thing to say. However, once a man hears back from a woman, then he needs to put in 50% of the conversational work.

Start off in a mannerly way, for sure. If the woman wants sexy chat, I'm sure she'll say so.


Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
3/5/2019 4:15 am

The objective is to start a conversation. Isn't that right? A conversation aimed at attaining goals for contacting the person?

Of course it is.

So "Hello"... is a good start, but you have to respond to his or her "Hello"... and then the conversation could start.... once all players are known to be somewhat cognizant.

"Nice rack".... is indeed a conversation starter, but complimenting a woman about herself on something that males have been commenting on since she was 13, is not a good idea. You may as well just say, "Hey, do you wanna fuck, come meet me"........ AND that , would also be a good conversation starter, regardless of what a few prudes say.

" Are you looking for some naughty fun?" ...... That's a milk-toasty starter for a male to use, not recommended , makes him seem shy or gay..She's not going to hang intently on your words so far...noway.. but if a woman said that, then the question is hot.

You mentioned if he say, "Nice rack" , he's immediately a shallow prick. Look sister..nobody joins a hookup site to be a "Deep"thinker. He likes boobs, get over it....if you like his profile page, aim the conversation or ask him what he likes about your rack. Don't need to automatically think a man is shallow, all the time, because he's commenting on your rack.

When men get sexually aroused they lose higher thinking capability....women know this and have been taking advantage of it for thousands of years.

If this same affect happened to women [it doesn't, but if it did] and men took advantage of women, women would have a law made , making interacting with a sexually aroused woman, illegal.

There's a conversation started.


fatgrrl replies on 3/5/2019 6:18 pm:
Yes hello is fine but you gotta follow it up with something! It's like they're putting in the least amount of effort humanly possible.

Nice rack is perfectly fine to say - later on in the conversation once you've gauged the person's interest in such sentiments. First thing? Not so much. Though I'll give it to you - it certainly reveals enough about a person's character to help us ladies make a quick decision. I don't expect deep thinkers here but I do *hope* for men who don't act like twats.

But we're all entitled to our own opinions of course! That's what makes being human great - the fact that we're all different. What doesn't work for guys when starting a conversation with me, might work when starting a conversation with another woman. Ya never know.

Heathen_G 65M
7974 posts
3/5/2019 4:22 am

    Quoting porterpiper1:
    No matter how many time we women try to tell those idiots they never get it, then they want to get mad when you turn them down. STOP THINKING WITH YOUR DICK HEAD AND THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN
"STOP THINKING WITH YOUR DICK HEAD AND THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN".... Yells the picture of a nipple.

Yeah, that'll make guys change their approach for sure......not.

You need to understand how silly you seem yelling that.

You know very well what men are attracted to, since your primary picture is a wide areola nipple pic, and not your elbow.

A picture of an elbow would be cause to activate the Brain. HA..the nipple? Not so much, and worse... you know that to be true.


1bighammer1000 58M
4304 posts
3/8/2019 7:44 am

It is good to see some bloggers in the general area, looking forward to reading more.

Anything worth doing is worth doing right


Become a member to create a blog