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Would you? So...imagine you are having a HUGE craving for chocolate. On the table, there is a gigantic bowl of candies. It must have 300 colorful candies. There are no distinguishing markings aside from the rainbow of colors in front of you. You are told there are 145 chocolate M & Ms, 145 Skittles, and 10 filled with cyanide. Would you eat some? Would you eat even one? This is what it is like for women to date. 1 in 4 are sexually assaulted, with date r*p* being the most common Many are victims of domestic violence. Women are nearly always faulted for anything bad that happens to them when dating. Abusers know if they start out by being abusive that most women will leave, so they wait until it is difficult for them to do so. Even very intelligent women can get trapped in these scenarios. If men think dating is easier for women, they seriously need to wake up! Even saying no to a date to the wrong person can have grisly consequences. Women do NOT have it easier in the dating world. Even non-abusive men can tend to be unreliable, noncommittal, and unable to alter course to accommodate a woman's preferences or needs. If all y'all think you have it so bad, think again.   MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=} |
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Interesting analogy, thank you for a thought provoking and informative post.
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Would have to walk in your shoes...there are pitfalls on both sides of the fence, but women face the direst consequences
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Would you eat some? Would you eat even one? cyanide smells simar to almonds - crack em and sniff first. Women are nearly always faulted for anything bad that happens to them when dating. That is an old school of thought. If women report quickly then the perps would have more to fear. Not blaming women - the same theory applies to all crimes. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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women aren't weak,both man and women take risk when going on a date, it isn't one sided, I think everyone should be careful when meeting someone for the first time, or over time, you never know someone's thoughts, their past, or what they are capable of doing. but women are weak
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Good post. Rebar100 Just the right amount of wrong. Occasional participant in various ongoing blogging projects. Rather be naked. The Blog: [REBAR100]
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Interesting post and dating can be risky from the standpoint of the stranger angle. From a male perspective, ( and not generalizing) there would no doubt be guys who think that meeting up with a woman means sex, which may be a primal thing, mind you we don't all feel like that but its dating the guys with that frame of mind that is tricky. Unfortunately that's our society and we need to deal with it, by being careful.
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women aren't weak,both man and women take risk when going on a date, it isn't one sided, I think everyone should be careful when meeting someone for the first time, or over time, you never know someone's thoughts, their past, or what they are capable of doing. but women are weak First, efine weak. The average woman is, all else being equal, not as physically strong as a man which means that it will be easier for him or overpower here than vice versa. . If a woman has been drinking, taking drugs or drugged she's at an even greater disadvantage. (And drug and alcohol are involved with the majority of acquaintance sexual assaults). While it's not one sided, academic research and government studies show that women are *overwhelmingly* more likely to be faced with violence in dating situations and romantic relationships. 45% of women who are murdered are murdered by an intimate partner. Compare that to only 5% of murdered men being murdered by their partners. So yes, everyone should be careful when meeting people from online, however, women to carry the lion's share of the risk.
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Would you eat some? Would you eat even one? cyanide smells simar to almonds - crack em and sniff first. Women are nearly always faulted for anything bad that happens to them when dating. That is an old school of thought. If women report quickly then the perps would have more to fear. Not blaming women - the same theory applies to all crimes. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I'm thrilled it got you thinking. My ex (nonmonogamous) used to grouse about this stuff all the time and I found it incredibly tiresome (yes, it is a good thing he's my ex). To even get one person thinking is a thrill. Obviously, I managed to get even more thinking, and for that, I'm incredibly grateful.MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life . Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Interesting post and dating can be risky from the standpoint of the stranger angle. From a male perspective, ( and not generalizing) there would no doubt be guys who think that meeting up with a woman means sex, which may be a primal thing, mind you we don't all feel like that but its dating the guys with that frame of mind that is tricky. Unfortunately that's our society and we need to deal with it, by being careful. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I like you, but I've gotten no reply. nobody ever said women can pick well. I hate that the scenario feels that way. I think women can control things a bit better than that. I certainly don't date-r*pe 1 in 4 dates (none) so what is creating this imbalance? many women want commitment first, then often verbally and emotionally abuse the hell out of us, and will not stop. there is nothing we can do about that either, except divorce - goodbye everything of value. what about almost every divorce, a man loses half his worth? try doing that a few times without getting shy... (does not apply to me, fyi) men and women want and need different things, without compromise it is hard to make it work. to BiggLala: of course it is easier for women to get sex, but no you can't be a 3 and have standards of a 9, same for us (unless the wallet is thick)
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Wow...quick question...could you possibly sound like a bigger asshat? I have every right and responsibility to look for what I know works for me. You don't meet even the most basic criteria. This is my basic human right. It is also YOUR basic human right. I'm not going to fuck you just because YOU like me. And if you do, you have a really shitty way of showing it. I'd never date someone like you. You are an ass, sir. You not only lashed out at me, on MY blog, you lashed out at one of my other guests. If we were at a party, I'd make sure someone showed you to the door, don't let it hit you on the ass on the way out! I'm glad you don't meet my basic criteria--thankfully. You are not someone I'd even want as a friend, let alone a lover. So, you just proved my parameters are working. Lovely evening to you...go find a therapist--you need one. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Men are sometimes victims of abuse too, but it's true that women face quite a lot more risk than men.
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Wow. This is some serious stuff. Thanks for the information, Red Elf. It gives me a lot to think about.
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Wow. This is some serious stuff. Thanks for the information, Red Elf. It gives me a lot to think about.  MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I've realized in the past how much courage and trust it's taken for a woman just to meet me for a cup of coffee. Having three daughters, I'm very aware of the risks and dangers inherent in dating. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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It's rather crazy to me how many men think women's issues are "fixed" in this day and age. From the time I was graduated from high school I realized the adult world had very different rules for men and women than high school did. Simply stated, men suddenly started treating me like my primary value was in being a "piece of meat," to be preyed upon, rather than an equal to connect with. Until that is what we have across the board, the gender issues will not be resolved--including in dating. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Sorry for the delay, this post is over a year old so I had to reread it. The “old school of thought” is regarding the OPs quote of “Women are nearly always faulted for anything bad that happens to them when dating.” While some people (Neanderthal types) may believe that, more modern/enlightened people don’t automatically fault a woman. One place where women (and maybe men too) seem to come up short is when they wait for years, or others, to report a sexual assault. The unreported assault allows the perpetrator to carry on as usual. Think Cosby; while he has not been convicted (remember we are an innocent until PROVEN guilty society), had some of the earlier victims reported and provided evidence maybe he would have been stopped sooner. “If women report quickly then the perps would have more to fear.” I say this because physical evidence can be obtained if a r@p3 is reported immediately. If you don’t believe me look into the number of women who advocate reporting ASAP. I am not saying it will be easy. And yes the legal system is far from perfect and that too needs to be addressed by our society. But, is that a good excuse for not reporting crimes? When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Sorry for the delay, this post is over a year old so I had to reread it. The “old school of thought” is regarding the OPs quote of “Women are nearly always faulted for anything bad that happens to them when dating.” While some people (Neanderthal types) may believe that, more modern/enlightened people don’t automatically fault a woman. One place where women (and maybe men too) seem to come up short is when they wait for years, or others, to report a sexual assault. The unreported assault allows the perpetrator to carry on as usual. Think Cosby; while he has not been convicted (remember we are an innocent until PROVEN guilty society), had some of the earlier victims reported and provided evidence maybe he would have been stopped sooner. “If women report quickly then the perps would have more to fear.” I say this because physical evidence can be obtained if a r@p3 is reported immediately. If you don’t believe me look into the number of women who advocate reporting ASAP. I am not saying it will be easy. And yes the legal system is far from perfect and that too needs to be addressed by our society. But, is that a good excuse for not reporting crimes? I don't know anyone who, after breaking their arm, is ready to offer it up for further hammering immediately thereafter. Come on...have you never experienced any kind of trauma? Can you seriously not relate to this? MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Let's see here...you've just been traumatized dramatically by a person you trusted implicitly and you then have to decide whether or not it's worth it to be compelled to talk about something you haven't even made sense of yet, yourself, let alone had a chance to seek therapy and recover from? I don't know anyone who, after breaking their arm, is ready to offer it up for further hammering immediately thereafter. Come on...have you never experienced any kind of trauma? Can you seriously not relate to this? If the perps are allowed to get away with it - it will continue. If it isn't reported they get away with it. I didn't say it was going to be easy or necessarily fair. The choice of what to do is up to the women involved. Is not reporting and not advocating for r@p3 kits to be processed in a timely manor working? When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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"have you never experienced any kind of trauma?" Yes but not one like sexual assault - not one which inflicts the kind of emotional pain that does. That is why I have been addressing this from a practical/legal pov. If the perps are allowed to get away with it - it will continue. If it isn't reported they get away with it. I didn't say it was going to be easy or necessarily fair. The choice of what to do is up to the women involved. Is not reporting and not advocating for r@p3 kits to be processed in a timely manor working? Most women who have done what is "recommended" to result in prosecution wish they'd never reported. You are addressing it from what you view to be a practical viewpoint or a legal viewpoint. How much is the cost of prosecution versus the actual conviction rates, and how does that hold up against, oh, I don't know...white collar crime? Murder? Other serious crimes? Without even looking, I'm going to bet on "not very well." You are welcome to do the hard work of proving me wrong. And if someone has been horribly traumatized, that simply cannot be separated from the "practical" aspects of this. The practical aspect is she is unlikely to get any significant vindication for reporting and when you stack that up against the amount of further trauma she will be experiencing, what other victims are telling us is that it doesn't add up. I sincerely think that says an awful lot about how worthwhile reporting probably is for most women. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I never thought I'd read the whiney sjw/pc voice on a site like this! First, your analogy of a bowl of candy is already skewed, because you remove any pretense of responsibility to screen out and by doing so, label every single "candy" dangerous... Wait! I forgot; is my act of disagreeing with you and pointing out the flaws in your story some form of "violence"? Second, you are all over the map. In one of your blog posts, you're crowing quite proudly of being a "slut" and everything you've learned. But if you're a "slut" - remember, your words - that means you've dipped your hand into the candy bowl where you have already identified every candy as being dangerous. So which is it? Both of those cannot be true; either your analogy is flawed (in fact it is a tiny sliver of a percentage that turn out to be dangerous dates), or you're engaging in self-destructive behaviour and not even bothering trying to screen potential dates. Third, the law punishes males disproportionately to the facts when it comes to male-female interactions. In most jurisdictions, even if the male is the one being physically attacked, if the police show up, he's going to jail. So to claim that it's more dangerous for women to date than males just isn't borne by the reality. Fourth, punishments for males and females are not even remotely equal. Men get years, women get months. Hell, a slut in England stabbed a guy from Tinder and because she's going to be a doctor, she's not getting jail time even though she was found guilty! Fifth, women on this site have the power. The males have the money, and the site needs sluts (again, your word) like you to get them to spend it so that they can contact you. You complain and it gets listened to. We are a dime a dozen. More than that, look at the cucks agreeing with you. The amount of virtue signalling from the cucks here, even if they can't fuck you, they want to be seen as fuckable by other women on this site so they simply parrot and agree. Look at the cucks using terms like "mansplaining" and advocating that the site start screening people. Sixth, have you even bothered to look at the false accusation statistics? A male gets accused of and proven innocent, but by then he's probably lost his job, his family, friends, and is stigmatized and traumatized for the rest of his life - which is considerably shortened, btw. Females who make those false claims are almost never punished for destroying lives. Take some personal responsibility for once in your lives! Playing identity politics is despicable and intellectually bankrupt. Maybe you wouldn't be showing so much misandry if you stopped trying to label yourself as a "slut"? Trying to get victim points and virtue signalling is always intellectually and morally deficient.
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Just because Heated Affairs didn't like a word, and to further illustrate my point, do yourself a favour the next time you feel like saying "poor women" - and all the cucks doing their virtue signalling should pay close attention to this as well - hop on the Internet and look up "Catherine St Germaine". Or "Wanetta Gibson". Trying to get victim points and virtue signalling is always intellectually and morally deficient. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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Just because Heated Affairs didn't like a word, and to further illustrate my point, do yourself a favour the next time you feel like saying "poor women" - and all the cucks doing their virtue signalling should pay close attention to this as well - hop on the Internet and look up "Catherine St Germaine". Or "Wanetta Gibson". Trying to get victim points and virtue signalling is always intellectually and morally deficient. I NEVER said that I don't date. I said that dating poses considerable problems for women.[\B] This is a fine distinction, and yet, a valid, and easily understood one. I'm not sure why 1) you think you're doing yourself any favors with your comment, 2) you think you even know what whining is, because you are doing it, and 3) you are bringing crime and punishment to this topic. It's unrelated. Crying false r*p* statistics is a straw man fallacy. The vast majority of r*p*s are never reported BECAUSE women have to deal with that bullshit and it will just further traumatize them AND make them look bad. Your derogatory use of the word "cuck" is unoriginal, not clever, and demonstrates a significant level of willful ignorance on your part as it does nearly every time a willfully ignorant person throws it around. Do you really want to be viewed as willfully ignorant? If you hate identity politics, you probably better steer clear of my blog because they come up often and they are given a voice here every day of the week. I'm leaving your comment here rather than removing it, because you've made yourself a visible, and colorful example of precisely the kind of toxic males we women have to be careful to avoid. I'm going to make this crystal clear...this is my blog, and I will write about whatever the fuck I want to. I'm quite obviously a lot brighter than you, and you need to take your triggered head out of your own ass before your willful ignorance absolutely clobbers you. MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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I see you haven't met any Men yet. I don't need to "do myself any favours" by virtue signalling and cucking myself to the whims and vagaries of your vagina. I can formulate thoughts, and back them all up with logic and reason. You pretending that you know about "straw man fallacies" is cute. Go back to being a "slut" - again, your term for yourself - and leave the thinking to others better equipped for it. Cuter still is the "toxic masculinity" you throw around! You haven't had a real orgasm in your life, have you?
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I see you haven't met any Men yet. I don't need to "do myself any favours" by virtue signalling and cucking myself to the whims and vagaries of your vagina. I can formulate thoughts, and back them all up with logic and reason. You pretending that you know about "straw man fallacies" is cute. Go back to being a "slut" - again, your term for yourself - and leave the thinking to others better equipped for it. Cuter still is the "toxic masculinity" you throw around! You haven't had a real orgasm in your life, have you? But, yanno...I'll give you a "D" for effort... MOST of the time I'm well behaved...but if you weren't, and, enjoyed having your ass handed to you, visit my blog and become a subscriber. There you can read all about how I am actively authoring, and rewriting, my life .Trying to get a bigger audience? Here's my .02 Content What Content 8 Things To Consider Towards Better Content {=}
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