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12FK2 48F  
602 posts
8/29/2020 12:27 pm

Definitely less attracted when they have a list of partners and they want to add me to it. Yes, it's greedy (but to each his own). It's also kind of a cheap and desperate way to name drop, or rather "pussy drop", in hopes that I'll be impressed by all the pussy they seem to be adjacent to. lol Who wants to be with someone who sees you as just one more object in the rotation? Also, I don't trust that all that pussy is being had safely. Not worth the risk.

No judgement on people that want to swing or have 2somes, 3somes or any other thing. But the multiple partners are built in to those activities and they choose to do specifically that. If you're looking for that it's cool, do you. But if someone wants only one partner and isn't out to just rack up numbers, those who seek a harem of partners need to stop barking up the wrong tree just to offer you the opportunity to be one of many.

Dwnrvrguy112 46M

8/29/2020 12:28 pm

Id say yes

shadowtoo69 67M  
1056 posts
8/29/2020 12:55 pm

Do not care how many FWB's someone has but I do not talk about mine and not interested in their FWB's or that they want more.

suitntieguy69 37M
91 posts
8/29/2020 1:02 pm

way less

RavenGB 61M  
1430 posts
8/29/2020 1:17 pm

I suppose it depends on what you think is OK. Whilst, as an avowed swinger, I would take advantage if an opportunity arose, I would never have two women that I am emotionally involved with at the same time. Sex and a "relationship" are two different beasts. I think it is OK to have other sexual partners, but not to get involved with a second person when you are already with another.

In the final analysis, what counts is being honest with people.

Tmptrzz 59F  
107033 posts
8/29/2020 1:24 pm

I am LESS attracted to a woman who already has a few current partners: For this one did you mean men instead of women for us ladies.. If so that's the one I would most definitely choose, especially in this day and age, as you just don't know who or what they have been doing with others..

I hope you have a wonderful weekend hun..

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Tmptrzz 59F  
107033 posts
8/29/2020 1:26 pm

You know I think I can understand why some feel it so hot when they want to add you to their line up of ladies, especially if you have great skills that they just can't get enough of as I know I have been in that situation before and was finally forced to choose..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..

japaneseass 54F  
50231 posts
8/29/2020 1:36 pm

two (including me, so me and other lady partner for him) is max for me...who the fuck that much really time rotating on the partners??? and just how many would you be satisfied??? are they really gonna take care of MY needs, along with theirs???? that would worry me a little...

and what you do with the other partner is your not tell me about the things you do with her...i don't care...and please do not tell her what we do between us,'s none of her

justaguyinalaska 55M
879 posts
8/29/2020 2:01 pm

We should give these sport-f**kers credit- both for awesome time management skills and for wearing their predilections on their sleeves. As 12FK2 commented, "no judgment".

That said, easily 90% of the profiles I read in this community provide crystal-clear advisories regarding attitudes and preferences. Hence the unwanted advances are annoying and should be judged.

New2Midlo 52M  
1075 posts
8/29/2020 2:57 pm

Definitely less. Sex is much better with a connection and anyone, male or female (aside from super swinger types) with that many partners simply can't offer that to any new potential partners. Sure, it's human contact and endorphins and shit, but pretty empty otherwise. Besides, how can you keep names straight, when you're in the heat of passion?

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redrockrascal 63M  
23580 posts
8/29/2020 3:03 pm

Lots of other sex partners with a prospective partner for me doesn't really interest me. The disease thing ya know. But . . .

Before you have multiple partners you have to have . . . one. THAT is a major accomplishment itself here on the ole A*F*F. Even thought it is allegedly a 'sex site'.

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pocogato12 69F  
37236 posts
8/29/2020 3:26 pm

I am not attracted at all to male or female that brags about multiple partners either present or past. I do not want to be in you exploits nor hear about them. I am sappiosexual and if my mind is engaged -well maybe we can start something of our own after the "vetting"

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smartasswoman 64F  
35813 posts
8/29/2020 3:41 pm

I'm going to be a little pedantic and say that "attracted" is the wrong word for me. Because I can be reeeeallly attracted to someone and yet realize that their situation isn't a good one for me.

If it's a FWB arrangement it seems a bit unreasonable to demand exclusivity but I wouldn't be comfortable with more than one other partner...two at most. There's the issue of STD's and now on top of that, you'd be pulling in one or two more people who might be indirectly exposing you to COVID.

citizen4722 64M  
74582 posts
8/29/2020 5:00 pm

I am LESS attracted to a woman who already has a few current partners.
The risks are just too high.

lonlyforlove2 79M  
32704 posts
8/29/2020 5:30 pm

If one lady is not enough , then she must not be the one... I AM A one lady man.!!!
i voted.. Have a nice day, be safe, I don't want to find you in the statistic list!!!

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powercaps716 65M  
83117 posts
8/29/2020 5:40 pm

* voted *

classicalrebel4 66M  
1755 posts
8/29/2020 6:29 pm

I'm less attracted to women who have other current partners for the same reason that I'm less attracted to women who have lots of friends on this site. With all the attention that they are getting from other people I wonder if they really are that interested in me.

Please don't let me be misunderstood.

PAWAPh 46M  
14861 posts
8/29/2020 8:18 pm



MyBaffies 52M  
4983 posts
8/30/2020 3:21 am

Depends. If it was just a potential FWB situation then I'd wonder where I was going to fit into their calendar if they were already seeing four others on a regular basis.

But if we already had quite a good connection conversation-wise and it seemed likely we'd get on pretty well, then I might overlook that to see how it goes.

As for them talking about other partners, I don't see that automatically as a bad thing, they just might like comparing what different people do. But if she was to start saying stuff like so-and-so lasts longer or x buys me gifts which are more expensive than what y buys me, then those are the types of comparisons I can do without.


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jajo696 67F  
4287 posts
8/30/2020 4:03 am

Im a serial monogamist. Not interested in dirty dics...past, present ( oh heck no....with Covid ) or future~~

CleavageFan4U 65M  
69374 posts
8/30/2020 7:14 am

I selected "I am LESS attracted to" based largely on the word "current" and considerations of time and availability.

When it comes to the overall bigger picture, I tend to prefer women that have HAD a larger number of sexual partners, as (in my mind anyway) this is indicative of her being sexually adventurous.

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seems6666 51F  
4838 posts
8/30/2020 10:57 am

Also... I'd be worried about STI's. If he's sleeping with 4 others, and they are in turn sleeping with numerous men or women... jeez.. that could be a whole lot of STI's ... Granny should work out the maths!

lindoboy100 59M  
23969 posts
8/31/2020 1:53 am

I went through a short-ish phase many years ago where I was seeing 3 or four girls at the same time.......and still looking for more. But nah, apart from it doing nothing for mine or their self respect, it was just too bloody complicated. One at a time please, where it actually means more than a booty call. Or nothing at all.

And that's two posts in a I get double snogs?

Superman4695 37M
168 posts
8/31/2020 4:25 am

It doesn't matter to me how many she has been with or is with currently as long as she has time for me (2 times a week would be ideal more if she's game) and remains disease free. If it ever comes a time where we like each other to make it just the two of us then that's great too.

EnigmaInitiative 53F  
6054 posts
8/31/2020 11:37 am

I have a top limit much the same as yours, 2 or 3. But, that has far more to do with my inability to juggle more than that.

In terms of their partners? I don't care how many he has as long as he has time for me, but I don't want to hear about them beyond knowing they exist.

To each their own.

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DoctorBooty 41M  
6426 posts
8/31/2020 11:40 am

It used to bother me that a woman I see would be seeing multiples, principally the STD reason.

It really doesnt bother me any longer. Do STDs cross my mind? yes, but to be my FWB you do have to have a brain and not make me think you'd hump a whole football team on a whim.

I have had multiple FWBs at any given time, usually 2, sometimes up to 4. I have that many because each situation is different and meetings can be sporadic, and I want some pussy 7 days a week if I can get it. Some weeks I might have to put out for all 4 and then go a month without seeing any one of them, thus always was taking new applications. I'm backing away now for a relationship though.

fullmontyjon 37M
13 posts
8/31/2020 4:09 pm

Penetration is the best

fancy_legs 50F  
190 posts
8/31/2020 8:10 pm

I am a one on one type of person. I don't share. I find it less attractive if the guy is a bed hopper with few or many. Even if there is a picture of him having sex with someone else on here. I ignore that person if he contacts me. I'm not interested in seeing that. Or if he is having sex with someone else without a condom. Way too many risks, no thank you.

I am less attracted to a guy with many partners.

Mitchums1601 55M
198 posts
9/1/2020 1:54 am

It isnt a question of attraction to me. I just am not one to vie for attention. The more people involved, the less attention either of us get from the other. I guess Im selfish that way.

Nxtphaze227 62F  
500 posts
9/1/2020 9:02 am

It is a NO for me. I am not attracted to men that are into it at all.

I am NOT good at sharing and do NOT share, guess I am just selfish that way.

I have absolutely NO interest in becoming a member of a harem waiting on my turn to get a call and summoned for my turn with him.

How many who he's already sharing with are also sharing with others who, in turn, are sharing with additional others as well, and so on, and so on...?

Not trying to contract any diseases and/or drama that go along with this dynamic. JMHO

Azbear1969 52M
85 posts
9/1/2020 12:19 pm

Personally, I am fine with a woman to have a few others. If they have a lot more , then I am not as attracted to them. I myself, have my wife, one female that I see on a regular basis, and a couple that are seen once in a great while. She is perfectly fine with that.

flowerkings2012 58M  
4312 posts
9/1/2020 2:56 pm

Like you, I would be looking for FWB relationship, in that it is a strong partnership and on going, including general together time and sex. I think even 3, in your case, is probably too many to manage and work around. Four or more sounds insane and too much hard work, not least because of sexual health matters probably already raised here elsewhere.

There are a few other obvious concerns which have again been highlighted no doubt. Thankfully, given my frame of mind, even one is at least one too many

dig76301 63M  
126 posts
9/1/2020 10:19 pm

I tend to lend towards the don't ask don't tell. If you and your FWB are hitting it off then why drag any questions of past hook-ups in to the light. My thought is there's probably not a lot of virgins ( the ultimate prize ) here on this site. If you( or I ) ask, then you ( or I ), should get the truth, other than that. Keep it as light and simple as possible.

LoveTooHike 34M

9/2/2020 11:30 am

experience is a good thing!!!!

letsplay71563 59M

9/2/2020 11:39 am

I like to find just a couple of regular women to play with. I enjoy getting to know them as people. It also lets each of you get to know what they like sexually at the same time. After all it's Friends with Benifits.

idblueswoman 63F  
830 posts
9/2/2020 1:58 pm

    Quoting  :

I couldn't agree more, I find those photos offensive and a major turn off. No discretion what so ever. I am not into capturing the moment.

flannel_light 59F  
4585 posts
9/2/2020 5:40 pm

I say for myself definitely Less. The past is in the past and it should stay there. Myself I am looking for just one Lover where it may delevolped into a long term committed relationship.

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Havinfun824300 51M

9/3/2020 7:43 am

I’m with you all the way.

dontcumtoofast 36M
144 posts
9/3/2020 12:48 pm

I don't like the idea of her being dicked down by that many guys.

CedarsPrince 42M  
1608 posts
9/4/2020 10:01 am

Instead of attracted, I would say "prefer" less current and also using protection with their partners and not just be protected with me and raw with others.

CleanDna2donate 41M
19 posts
9/4/2020 2:41 pm

I personally would only want 1 FWB because I figure, if I am going to trust someone to get into bed with them. I want to make it mean and feel something. You can’t really do that by as what one person said “ making them feel cheap “ I totally agree with that statement. I believe it is far more intense having a FWB that you both can have an emotional and physical connection with as it just increases the experience.

Waplover6969 32M

9/9/2020 10:48 am

It can be a turn off but not a deal breaker

donaldstill1973 48M
38 posts
9/17/2020 11:11 pm

If I was the male equivalent of a slut, I guess how many other partners she has would not matter. But, that is just not how I am wired. I need to get to know somebody first, then if all goes well, maybe there will be some sex. It would be difficult for me to have sex with somebody just to have sex. There needs to be something more, which would not be the case with a woman with multiple partners.

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