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Perfection  

redmustang91 64M
7764 posts
3/1/2017 5:59 am

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3/1/2017 5:07 pm

Perfection


I am having a lunch with an attractive 29 year old female who is single. As usual she wants to become a US citizen and I give her the standard advice to marry a US citizen.

She wants to marry the perfect guy. The problem is there is an acute shortage of perfect guys. Nobody is perfect. If the minimum standard is perfection, you will wait a very long time for your soulmate.

My advice to her is marry a guy with five to ten good qualities and try to improve the rest.

So what would be the key ten good qualities?

For me, sexual attraction would be pretty high on the list. I do not think sex is superficial. If there is no chemistry holding the pair together you have a hard time staying together. You need to stay together to have a successful marriage.

Similar moral and political values are important. If you have a liberal and a Trump supporter you have the kiss of death. Sort of like the gridlock in Congress.

Money management skills are key as well. If you have a careful saver and investor that person will not work well with a spendthrift.

Healthy life style is important too. A lazy smoker, who is overweight will not live long enough for a good marriage to last.

Similar<b> education </font></b>level and socio-economic status is also important. The uneducated support the Trumpster, but they do not make enough Money, and do not understand the modern world. Unless you enjoy being around a dumb bunny, you want someone who put in the effort to develop his or her mind. Ignorance is not attractive.

For me the size of the boobs or dick is not on the list. If I must explain why, then you would never be a potential soulmate.

I don't believe in soulmates. I estimate that I could happily live with about one out of any ten women who was age appropriate and healthy who liked me well enough to share my bed and life.

My point is if you want a serious long term relationship you need to focus on the important stuff and eliminate the superfluous criteria. Perfect is not obtainable. So what is important? Focus on that.

KItkat1415 61F  
20051 posts
3/1/2017 12:23 pm

I fell in love with someone who I did not expect to do so with.
In retrospect, in looking into why this man and not some other man, many of your reasons are what we have in common.
I guess that validates your opinion,
kk

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wickedeasy 74F
32404 posts
3/1/2017 2:45 pm

now that I am older, I doubt I would use the same criteria. in my youth, passion was ranked above most other things. while it is still high on the list, it's below compassion now.

and shared ideals is much higher up as is the ability to honestly discuss finances

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


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