Reset Password
Reset Link Sent
Blogs > kcclaire0923 > My Blog |
I Saw The Light - Finally
I Saw The Light - Finally I met someone from this site about 5 months ago around Thanksgiving time. We had been chatting for about a month before deciding to meet. He is married but of course said that they both do their own thing but don't "throw it in each other's faces" and "stay out of each others way". Like sort of roommates with no sex involved (yeah, right). They are upside down in their mortgage, have two in college etc etc etc. He was a deputy sheriff in my county for about two years; was terminated (didn't say why) and I never asked. He now is a private investigator for insurance fraud and works on "stake outs" involving auto body shops. He travels a lot with his job and works under cover. We only had a sexual relationship during the day; he would bring lunch over and we would spend about 2 hours together. I am not sure why I allowed this to go on for the time that it did and just this week I let him know it was done and over. I really looked at the factors and saw that I was simply a good "fuck" for him once a week or so. The signs are all there and as I really thought it through I realized how foolish I have been. Here is the list of what I allowed: 1) He showed me his license to carry a loaded weapon and flashed it quickly so I couldn't see his last name. This was on our first meet months ago. 2) He would e-mail me occasionally the day before our scheduled "meets" to cancel and ask if we could re-schedule for another time. No reason given. 3) When he would call me on my cell, the display always said "no caller ID" and if I missed the call he would never leave a message. So I never had access to his phone number number. Gee, I wonder if wifey examined the phone bills? 4) We were discussing drivers licenses one day and I said I hated my picture. He asked to see it and I showed him. When I asked to see his, he took it out of his wallet but covered his address with his thumb. He thought I didn't notice. He told me he lives about 10 miles from me but his profile here on Heated Affairs says he lives in my same city. He explained that on our first meet. Using the "privacy" risk as his excuse for saying he lives in my city. Said there are too many crazy freaks on this site and he needed to protect his ..... Anyway, the sex was always good but I have had better. He always said that I was perfect for him and I suppose it was because I always dressed in different lingerie outfits when we had plans during the day. I either answered the door that way or he came in the unlocked front door and found me waiting for him in the bedroom, candles lit, music softly playing and dressed ready for him. So I let him know we will not be seeing each other again. I told him I wanted a man that is single, can be seen with me in public, can show me his license and NOT cover up the address and most of all can stay the night with me so we can eat breakfast together and spend quality time more than just 2 hours. And I hoped he would be happy for me that I want what I deserve in a man. His TIME. Hopefully I can find such a man..i am on another "vanilla" site and have been chatting with a couple of real nice guys that just might give me what I deserve. Only time will tell on that one. I can get sex here anytime with a simple phone call or text message..but I want also to be treated like a human being. Like my BFF always tells me to remember "no one can take advantage of you without your permission." And she is 100% correct - I allowed this and blame no one but myself. I guess I just needed sexual attention but in all the wrong ways....I am so glad I never developed feelings for this man. Just pure lust. {=} {=} KCClaire0923 |
||||
|
we all only see what we open our eyes to see
| |||
5/7/2016 11:56 am |
So sorry to hear all the best
| |||
|
Not sure what the significance is about being able to get laid with just a phone call.All women are entitled to that.I was intrigued by your story and think you did the right thing.Then I read that and became less intrigued. Sometimes things are better left unsaid. Using more than all the road!
| |||
|
Claire, we let ourselves see what we want to some times. glad you finally saw the light. I hope you find this mythical being that you seek. He is out there, patience, and look a bit closer next time, on the first meet. It is always good to have a FWB that understands to get you through the dry spells, Have a good day and good luck Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
| |||
|
hope you find what you are looking for
| |||
|
hope u everybody on here has a safe and happy Mother's Day
| |||
|
OUCH! No ego here ! I was trying to say that when people offer information that wasn't needed to be said.It tends to do more harm than good when it comes to attracting a person who would be delighted to give you his undivided time.With you stating that yours isn't undivided they're more apt to move on! Just an observation not hate mail! Using more than all the road!
| |||
|
To quote from: kcclaire0923 replies on 5/7/2016 3:41 pm: " We women are sitting on a goldmine and we know it." I have heard this before, but I think to make it more meaningful, It should be stated " Women control more than half of all the wealth in the world, and sit on all else worth anything" I do believe this. many men don't, just their loss.. And Claire, good luck on your new venture...look at the Drivers License a bit closer next time... xoxoxo lonly Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
| |||
|
You would be fun to have as a lunch time thing. Ted
|
Become a member to create a blog