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A loving healthy relationship...do we really want one?
A loving healthy relationship...do we really want one? This post is only viewable by Heated Affairs members. Join Heated Affairs now! If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!! |
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Nothing is forever...BUT...when we allow others to dictate to us how we should think, feel, react we have little chance of any lasting fun!!! Even in a "playful" friendship you have something lasting if the two of you respect each other and treat each other as equals!!! If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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1/29/2011 7:33 am |
Very nice philosophy. I judge from your name that it has been developed over time. While that was happening, perhaps some ties and restrictions naturally faded away leaving you freer. Or, was there a sudden break. A day when you said - freedom and damn the consequences? I am interested because I am hovering on that line now.
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1/31/2011 12:25 pm |
I forgot to mention - I love doggy position. You conjure up many good images.
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Very nice philosophy. I judge from your name that it has been developed over time. While that was happening, perhaps some ties and restrictions naturally faded away leaving you freer. Or, was there a sudden break. A day when you said - freedom and damn the consequences? I am interested because I am hovering on that line now. My husband was every bit the gentleman and never pushed any physical contact until he thought I was comfortable...geez I thought he'd never kiss me!!! He has a great sense of humor and it is a bit randy without being lewd so all the innuendo was making me horny! We did a bit of passionate kissing/petting and I couldn't hold back any longer and hauled him off to the bedroom. That night I found out how a romantic sensitive lover can make all the difference!!! I came several times that night and he later began discussing the lifestyle. I'm so thankful he did, we have the most incredibly secure, trusting, respectful relationship anyone could have and the lifestyle has only deepened our love/commitment to each other!!! If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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I forgot to mention - I love doggy position. You conjure up many good images. If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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2/1/2011 8:32 am |
Ah... wish you lived closer. I enjoy our conversation. That kind of communication makes for other good thing. Happy 4 u that u met such a good person. enjoy.
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Ah... wish you lived closer. I enjoy our conversation. That kind of communication makes for other good thing. Happy 4 u that u met such a good person. enjoy. If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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2/2/2011 7:24 am |
Thanks 4 your good wishes. Unfulfilled lust can hurt. I would love to visit 'little round top'. I could camp there for a long time. Not immediately in the cards. If I ever do, I prefer private 1-on-1 - I want the closest communication. Wud that be okay with u?
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2/2/2011 7:27 am |
Ah yes and an open mind. But your pic keeps drawing me off. I love it. Beautiful bum , skin , back , hair, legs, tone....just to mention a few... thanks for posting.
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Thanks 4 your good wishes. Unfulfilled lust can hurt. I would love to visit 'little round top'. I could camp there for a long time. Not immediately in the cards. If I ever do, I prefer private 1-on-1 - I want the closest communication. Wud that be okay with u? If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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2/2/2011 11:45 am |
Can understand your safety concerns. It would be a new experience for me. What was it like to have more folks involved the first time? Pardon me if that's too personal. I just have always been 1-on-1 - again can understand safety issue. And, 4 now, talking fantasy on my part. PS I do like your pictures. Makes me eager for some backyard fun.
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Can understand your safety concerns. It would be a new experience for me. What was it like to have more folks involved the first time? Pardon me if that's too personal. I just have always been 1-on-1 - again can understand safety issue. And, 4 now, talking fantasy on my part. PS I do like your pictures. Makes me eager for some backyard fun. Short of sharing dirty stories which isn't the intent of this blog I would have to say that for me it was a very freeing/liberating experience after a VERY conservative "previous life" with both family and my ex!!! We have the total support of each other so there was never any fear or anxiety, just a delicious nervous anticipation!!! If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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2/5/2011 8:12 am |
Thanks. You have something very special.
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Thanks. You have something very special. If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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2/27/2011 9:01 am |
Very good blog. We feel the exact same way as you do. We were in the lifestyle several years ago and took a break for quite some time to be with our kids as they grew up. We are now back in the lifestyle and looking for fun and nsa. We enjoy our time with others but don't make it our life. We have very busy schedules with work and our own time together. Playing with others is just a source of fun for us. We don't plan on making best friends out of who we play with. But at the same time, we don't play with other's once and forget about them. If we click, then we are always up for more fun with them.
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Very good blog. We feel the exact same way as you do. We were in the lifestyle several years ago and took a break for quite some time to be with our kids as they grew up. We are now back in the lifestyle and looking for fun and nsa. We enjoy our time with others but don't make it our life. We have very busy schedules with work and our own time together. Playing with others is just a source of fun for us. We don't plan on making best friends out of who we play with. But at the same time, we don't play with other's once and forget about them. If we click, then we are always up for more fun with them. If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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as another late bloomer, I can relate. would love to meet!
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6/2/2011 4:59 pm |
Couldn't agree more "Rules tend to be inflexible, controlling, come loaded with expectations and thereby are doomed to failure!". It's just sex for goodness sake. The FWB thing should be something we alll aspire to.
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Couldn't agree more "Rules tend to be inflexible, controlling, come loaded with expectations and thereby are doomed to failure!". It's just sex for goodness sake. The FWB thing should be something we alll aspire to. If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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Well said!
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Well said! If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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We have a complete meeting of the minds here. Mikey
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We have a complete meeting of the minds here. Mikey If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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1/28/2012 3:50 am |
I agree that relationships evolve over time, even if it is one that started as NSA, it requires commitment from both individuals to make it work, hence it is not true "NSA". I have always believed that you have to give a little to receive a little,, some case give a litttle and receive alot, but I know I love to give more than receive, especially when it cums to giving orall to a woman you is in need! Your photos are fantastic, you are hot!
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I agree that relationships evolve over time, even if it is one that started as NSA, it requires commitment from both individuals to make it work, hence it is not true "NSA". I have always believed that you have to give a little to receive a little,, some case give a litttle and receive alot, but I know I love to give more than receive, especially when it cums to giving orall to a woman you is in need! Your photos are fantastic, you are hot! You might be missing my point. I was addressing all interpersonal relationships not just those that start as NSA. As I was trying to explain very few people accept their partner just as they are, we give more respect and listen more closely to friends than we do our SO/spouses. More than half of all marriages have a partner that is controlling or feels a need to change how their partner thinks/feels, that is codependent at best and at the worst emotional abuse. Few people understand what being equal partners is, most think in a loving relationship that you put your partner first. That is backwards, you alone are responsible for your own happiness and you have to come first. Without you maintaining your own emotional health you are unable to participate in a healthy relationship! If it's fun, exciting or pleasurable...it's either illegal, bad for you or fattening!!!
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