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I haven't been here all that long but I seem to have become more picky about the women that interest me. I would tell myself to avoid the woman I met just before I joined here. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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The biggest changes in my life probably have come from applying the concept of smarter-better-than-harder, to managing my health. Most everyone has heard the cliche to work smarter, not harder at their jobs. Also most people make it a point to save money for their retirement years. I tried to tick both of those boxes but I didn't do so well with nutrition and exercise. Oh sure, I knew in general terms that your body needs exercise and that some delicious foods are practically poisonous for your body with excessive oil or sugar. But knowing is different from doing. A business acquaintance - whose Mother faced an amputation due to undiagnosed diabetes - put me onto the books of Gary Taubes and I followed up by reading Nina Teicholz, Brian Wansink, Erica and Justin Sonnenburg, plus a few more. Any interested lurker here can send me an email or post to my (mostly dormant) blog and I will suggest book titles to you based on your interest. Perhaps my biggest change resulted from following the advice of the Younger Next Year authors. Their observation is that people do NOT get weak because they grow old. Rather they get weak because they lose muscle-mass due to the normal processes of aging - processes that can be reversed by lifting weights - even light weights - several times each week. We invest in building retirement accounts for our older-years but too many of us fail to invest in building muscle-mass for those same years. By adding muscle - most of which is invisible - in our core, our backs, our legs and so on - we can metabolically be younger next year than we are this year. Acting on that insight changed my life. It can change yours also - any of you reading this. It is never too late to begin rebuilding muscle-mass.
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Changed over the last ' '? (*the word is chopped *) Couple of years? I've become more open about some of my kinks. 😊 It's a cliché, but I'd tell him — 'Don't sweat the small stuff'. ❗ ❗ 😎 ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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Channeling your Mother: Reading back through your original post, Jules . . . I had missed the part about your Mother not having a filter. That made me think of this bit of timeless wisdom, in the context of the too-many vaccine-skeptic idiots running around without masking-up. Until they get their vaccine-jabs, they really need to be wearing masks full-time in public. Grrrr . . . I really should give credit to whoever's blog I pinched this GIF file from - only I can't recall. Not my original creation, though I give it my enthusiastic thumbs-up for insight: [image]
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It seems that life is a learning experience. Along with learning come a different view on life. If I had a dollar for every time I have realized something that seems so simple and I ask myself how did you not see this before. Ha ha really I have no idea what I would tell a young self. Anything worth doing is worth doing right
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I'd tell myself... Don't be so desperate for attention that you'll use sex to get it. Learn your worth NOW, not after decades of putting yourself on clearance. Sometimes I think I can tell exactly how old a blogger is by reading their blogs... There's such a change in the years between our mid 40s and mid 50s!
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I know I myself have not only evolved, but grown since I first joined this site over a decade and a half ago..... I am more prone to NOT fall for the first wink or contact and have now grown to identify those profiles who are 'real' and not Pros. I am also way more laid back, and particular (fussy) in which whom I choose to engage with. My tastes haven't really evolved much, although my patience has.... *grins* And 'IF' I could go back and tell my young self one thing.... I would say patience.... and don't sweat the small stuff of this site.... (okay that's two things....) *grins*
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Quite a bit over a decade. Most of my inhibitions on the site wrt couples are gone, I'll gladly pound her in front of her husband. I'm even more confident in my abilities in bed. Had I not passed up so many offers, I'd have probably met well over 100 more women here. But I'd have told myself 10 years ago to stay away from Liz. A lot of pain and heartache for not all that much joy, and hurt myself by putting my eggs in one basket for someone who didn't care about herself enough to care about anyone else. I wasted too much time, and could've been happier now had I not jumped in with both feet. Aut viam inveniam aut faciam Tips for Guys to Meet Women  Things i miss most about relationships
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Jules1590 replies on 6/9/2021 6:50 pm: I don't call it "picky" Red, I call it SELECTIVE. Nothing wrong with that! OK, but the consequences of being TOO SELECTIVE ain't fun either.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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...in the beginning... I was a curious kid..... had lots of fun... made stupid mistakes ... and learned a lot.... curiosity was my primary motivation.... about everything..... ...well then I grew up..... and learned that the world is a rough and tumble jungle.... but I kept my curiosity... so I learned to temper risks and rewards.... still made stupid mistakes.... and the learning never stopped... but I did learn to be a little slower to engage and mask my intentions a wee bit.... something playing poker will teach you.... ....well then I grew up more and tried to fit in.... ha! ... what a disaster... back to being curious.....at that point, I think folks gave me chances because they were hoping that I would blow up.... ah, but this wily gentlemen had good ideas and as they say let your winners run and cut your losses..... ....so now... as I enter the back nine.... which I believe will be long incredibly fun holes to play... I am right back to being that curious kid.... BUT... I have more fun because over the years I have learned how to kick back just a little and enjoy.... still a driver driver always on a mission, but where there are curious minds around I always try to invite them along for the next adventure... never know where those grannie panties will drop next.... ....I always enjoy your posts and humbly bow in respect for taking up so much of your space.... rambling on because this post struck a chord... ....carpe diem..... PS .... it is usually not the stories that you write about that are the moist interesting....it is the ones that are harbored deep in your memory banks that make you spontaneously giggle that are the most interesting.... the ones that select few ever hear.... usually over a cocktail whispered in hushed tomes..... deliciously drawn out to your most attentive and captivated audience....
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Don't delete the early writings. They are milestones charting your evolution as a person. KILL YOUR TELEVISION!!! 
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Keep on Blogging Sexy! I have enjoyed all of your posts over the years!
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Most Beautiful Jules, I was saddened to read that you are considering deleting/revising your early posts - Please don't !.! First, Your writing has always been top notch and has made for very compelling reading. It would be a shame to see the thoughts of the moment be replaced with the thoughts of the revisionist ... Which leads to my second point ... Deleting/Revising your early work is akin to sanitizing who we were. Blogs are like diaries in that they capture pieces of who we were, what we sought, what peeved us, etcetera at that moment. The fact that you read your early works and see differences shows how much you have grown closer to knowing your true self. Isn't that part of Why we write ? Why we share ? Why we ruminate ? I've come to learn that it's about knowing ourselves, our wants - and then having the strength to reach for those things ... ... Something I have always admired about you and the fact that you wrote about it and shared those thoughts and experiences with us along the way makes every one of those posts a little piece of you that is to be more treasured because of that !.!.! Always Yours here in the ether, Range Bull From the Gold Country of Northern California's Sierra Nevada Mountains, Range Bull
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i understand. my old blog as L&O (Loud & Often) was MUCH racier with more nude photos. the current blog typically has a photo or graphics per post. it feels naked without it. yet i wrote for so long as just words... my old handle just didn't represent where i am now. but only the bloggers understand where i am now. XO!
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Jules, I have been following you for some time now. Maybe I didn't read any of your early posts, but, I do know, what you post always expresses an open minded opinion towards a sexual experience. Perhaps as we age and allow ourselves to experience more and even meet some wonderful new people our attitudes change us. Hopefully for the better, but, I like to think it as an evolutionary process. Like you, I am not the same person I was when I first was introduced to this site. In that regard, I think it has helped me to grow and become far more open minded. This in spite of all the stuff happening in the world around us. We can still evolve if we allow ourselves. Bud Always Ready for Fun.
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I would like to think as we age we learn...as we learn we grow, but the lessons are in our history... what we have become is from everything we have done, learned, hurt and loved in the past.
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It would take me quite a few pages just to scratch the surface of how I have changed since discovering this site! And yet at the same time fundamentally I am still the same me as I was when I first began to really know myself, back when I was just a teenager I suppose. But people I have corresponded with here, and people who have understood a part of me which is often hidden from the real world have helped me to learn which parts of me I want to give freedom to, and which parts of me take me in directions I do not want to go. They are all intertwined of course. Sometimes like you I look back on earlier posts and cringe. Other times I smile at a memory, or laugh and wonder where I dreamed up such a clever turn of phrase. I think early on in an Heated Affairs blog journey, (or back then, whichever it is,) there was such an excitement about the instant connections which could be made here, that made it devastating when someone disappeared without saying goodbye. I hope I have learned not to be upset if that happens. It happened to me a few times, thankfully only once or twice involving anyone I thought I was getting close to. I am sure they had their reasons. A long time ago I decided I would never do that, just in case, unbeknown to me, someone was getting invested in what I was writing more than I realised. One of the things this post of yours made me realise is that I am closer to repeating earlier mistakes right now than I have been for a while, and I need to work out what it is that I have learned so that I can find a better path. Whether these blogs are the place to share my thoughts on this I don't really know. I seem to have wandered into my own thoughts here, lol. Thanks for listening!
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