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Agony Uncle  

Mygentlecaress 50M
12856 posts
6/29/2010 3:50 am
Agony Uncle

Being the ever charitable and genial soul that I am, I have decided to offer my agony uncle services to everyone reading this
Simply put, if you have a problem and nobody else can help (and assuming that the A-Team are unavailable) then ask me and I will attempt to solve your dilemma
Be it relationship issues, stress in your work place, a tricky DIY problem, cookery tips or else some deep seated psychological disorder which has resulted in you being sectioned under the mental health act, tell me your woes and I will do my very best to sort them.

Aren't I nice eh?


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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 5:45 am

    Quoting  :

lol Caf - it was a great test and I now wear my psychotic badge with pride (although I still think the CSI guys should be called in just to make sure the lady in question wasn't framed for the crime lol)

Agony uncle Gentle is always here so please come back whenever you require some (probably dodgy) advice

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 6:47 am

    Quoting  :

Welcome to my blog Erotic

Now, onto your question; How can you tell if a man is sincere? Well, the only true way is when he is laying in a coffin to be honest

But seriously, in relation to the brief scenario you related, I would personally be highly reluctant to casually extend the benefit of the doubt to such an individual as you relayed, not least given his past shenanigans.
Cynicism aside for a second though, and people can change admittedly, but regarding players, in my estimation, the saying holds true, namely, ‘Once a player, always a player.’

Now myself on the other hand....

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 6:59 am

    Quoting  :

lol Cat

I'm on this one straight away - I'll be bulk buying lotto tickets tonight

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 8:25 am

    Quoting  :

This is an all too common problem in our society Bunty and one which sufferers are invariably too embarrassed to talk about

Indeed, I myself have on occasion, found my tongue idly caressing glass whilst sitting in vehicles.
Fear not however, for there is help for this unhappy condition; I have found that by smearing distasteful food substances upon my windows, I am less likely to run my tongue over them. Try it, it really works

I should just point out here that said remedy should be balanced with common sense however ‒ as a rule, covering the front windscreen of ones car could prove potentially hazardous to driving visibility and the police would likely be somewhat unsympathetic to our condition if we were to cause an accident

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rm_loveslilies 57F
36204 posts
6/29/2010 9:00 am

it would take me all day long to type it all out ! a good laugh would be nice though or many many orgasms would be nice too

If Love Is Not The Answer,
Then I Misunderstood The Question


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 9:26 am

    Quoting rm_loveslilies:
    it would take me all day long to type it all out ! a good laugh would be nice though or many many orgasms would be nice too
I think a lovely big hug for you...

(((((((Lilie))))))))

Hmmmm....I wonder how to graphically represent an orgasm via text symbols?

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 10:39 am

    Quoting  :

Ostensibly so, sadly, but if you'd like me to come and break you out I can draw up a cunning plan

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/29/2010 1:53 pm

    Quoting  :

Your wonderful warmth and loving disposition always shines through in all your posts Naughty ‒ rest then assured, everyone you interact with on here cares deeply about you xxxx

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
6/30/2010 5:42 pm

    Quoting  :

Hmmm…now that is a tricky one Shy

There’s an intriguing factor which may well aid you however and one which simultaneously demonstrates a big difference between the sexes I believe; In compendious terms, it lay in the fact the ladies are far more psychologically astute than we chaps.
In effect, ladies are generally better at perceiving and discerning body language and non verbal signs than males are.
This wonderful faculty is especially beneficial in seeking out partners, be they men or women as it allows one to gauge if there is a reciprocal interest on the part of any given intended.

As a result and armed with said faculty, one need not limit oneself to the usual ‘pick up’ locations such as bars, clubs etc.
Indeed, by reading the signs of mutual attraction, you will be enabled to both attract and strike up communication with potential partners virtually anywhere

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PerpetoMobile13 67F
3218 posts
8/2/2010 10:13 am

Dear Uncle Agony,

Don't wanna sound cocky but can you think of some logical reasons why I'm still searching for my no limit guy!...

~~I may be no better, but at least I am different.~~ Jean-Jacques Rousseau

~~Stop by my adventure land ~♑~Reambiguating the world~♑~


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
8/2/2010 12:04 pm

    Quoting PerpetoMobile13:
    Dear Uncle Agony,

    Don't wanna sound cocky but can you think of some logical reasons why I'm still searching for my no limit guy!...
A no limit guy eh? My (admittedly slightly pervy) interests are peeked...pray tell, do elaborate...

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
8/12/2010 8:24 am

    Quoting sexylorrainekay:
    Dear Agony Uncle Gentle,

    Not sure if you will be able to help me on this one, but I've been trying for many many months now to meet a very sexy guy for a coffee and a bloody good chat, but as of yet it's just not happening, can you help me on this matter...

    Yours in anticipation, Lorraine xx
Mmmmmmmm! How about a lovely snog?

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
8/17/2010 2:09 am

    Quoting  :

(((((((((((((((Naughty))))))))))))))))))
How did you manage to chip your tooth? An emergency dental appointment is clearly on the cards
You are always more than welcome to don (and un-don) that underwear for me Naughty...

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5StupidGirls 59F

8/29/2010 10:18 pm

I'm sure we can use your help.. with some of our questions!


newgirl70000 53F
946 posts
9/5/2010 12:47 pm

I have a question.

How do I turn my moron beacon off?

NG

"What's wrong with comfort and efficiency?"
"Nothing but no-one wants to f**k it."


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
9/5/2010 2:37 pm

    Quoting newgirl70000:
    I have a question.

    How do I turn my moron beacon off?

    NG
lol Newgirl

I'm assuming that you're referring to the plethora of morons who are doubtless plaguing you on this site?

Alas, if this be the case, it is my solemn regret to inform you that there is no real way of stopping these woeful creatures; Indeed, quite the contrary, for a beautiful photo such as yours will conversely, doubtlessly serve to attract them unto you even more

The only advice agony uncle Gentle can provide here is to block such individuals post haste whereupon they will soon move along and bother some other unfortunate lady with their myriad of crude one line introductions enquiring for sex etc. lol

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newgirl70000 53F
946 posts
9/6/2010 12:55 pm

    Quoting Mygentlecaress:
    lol Newgirl

    I'm assuming that you're referring to the plethora of morons who are doubtless plaguing you on this site?

    Alas, if this be the case, it is my solemn regret to inform you that there is no real way of stopping these woeful creatures; Indeed, quite the contrary, for a beautiful photo such as yours will conversely, doubtlessly serve to attract them unto you even more

    The only advice agony uncle Gentle can provide here is to block such individuals post haste whereupon they will soon move along and bother some other unfortunate lady with their myriad of crude one line introductions enquiring for sex etc. lol
I was indeed referring to those. Ah well, if it's the pic that's doing it I'll just have to change it to one showing what I really look like every day

Thanks for the advice 'Uncle Gentle'

NG

"What's wrong with comfort and efficiency?"
"Nothing but no-one wants to f**k it."


sweet14fun 59F

9/9/2010 10:08 am

Dear Agony Uncle: My fwb always makes it point to degrade me after we have passionate and fun sex. Why does he do this every time?
I can't believe I'm posting this, I need help!


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
9/9/2010 11:30 am

    Quoting sweet14fun:
    Dear Agony Uncle: My fwb always makes it point to degrade me after we have passionate and fun sex. Why does he do this every time?
    I can't believe I'm posting this, I need help!
I'm very sorry to hear that Sweet. No one has the right to treat you that way, no matter how casual the relationship. The best advice I can offer is to openly air your grievances and tell him how it makes you feel.
If the relevant person still continues to put you down then I would hazard that even in a FWB's capacity, the person is clearly not right for you. I hope this helps?

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sweet14fun 59F

9/9/2010 2:29 pm

Yes. He knows how it makes me feel, I've been riding this rollercoaster for three years now. We are very compatible in every way to be potential mates. He has a LTR, I have been married for 10 years and because I have developed feelings for another, I'm ending my marriage October 1st. I only see this guy a few times a month, so I'm definately not leaving for anyone but myself. My marriage would be another paragraph, or so. I mean, the things he says are intentionaly said to make me feel bad, so I don't take it personally.
Why do you think he pushes me away by name calling and rude texts?
Then two weeks later "want to come by". I go because I need sex too!

p.s. I love your blog and your use of the English language. I can't write as well as I am from Midwest America lol!


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
9/10/2010 1:11 am

    Quoting sweet14fun:
    Yes. He knows how it makes me feel, I've been riding this rollercoaster for three years now. We are very compatible in every way to be potential mates. He has a LTR, I have been married for 10 years and because I have developed feelings for another, I'm ending my marriage October 1st. I only see this guy a few times a month, so I'm definately not leaving for anyone but myself. My marriage would be another paragraph, or so. I mean, the things he says are intentionaly said to make me feel bad, so I don't take it personally.
    Why do you think he pushes me away by name calling and rude texts?
    Then two weeks later "want to come by". I go because I need sex too!

    p.s. I love your blog and your use of the English language. I can't write as well as I am from Midwest America lol!
There is ostensibly a sadly all too common and entirely despicable tendency amongst some men to utilise verbal degradation of their partners in order to deliberately lower the relevant persons self esteem; The somewhat malicious logic behind this is that with the ladies self esteem thus abated, they will not likely stray or find other partners.

On the other hand, there is a possibility that your partner could potentially be experiencing stress in his home life and/or the workplace and is ill advisedly and very unfairly venting his frustrations at someone he feels he can get away with it, in this case yourself.

Neither of the above potential scenarios are equitable on you whatsoever of course and neither should you stand for it. Again, no one has the right to treat you in such a deplorable manner.

On more upbeat matters though and I'm glad that you enjoy my blog - I hope it raises a smile
Oh, and you write perfectly if I may say so

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sweet14fun 59F

9/10/2010 1:53 pm

You are a very wise man, indeed. This does explain a alot. The last few times he told me my pussy always stinks, I'm mean really? So he's trying to make me think I have a problem so I don't screw anyone else?
Makes perfect sense from this type of man. He does seem the jealous type and I'm a pretty hot lady for my age!

Thank you for your advice, I take your words to heart. I knew I was asking the the right man! My first time posting and I picked a winner!

On your blog, sometimes I don't see the pic you posted, it just shows your profile pic. Maybe that's a good thing sometimes!

Keep 'em coming!!


bootyman1988 36M
31 posts
9/13/2010 12:01 am

muhhahahaha


fitboy8 40M

9/16/2010 8:19 pm

So hey nice blog so far.

what is your opinion on having a girlfriend and also being on a site such as this? Honestly, I wouldn't mind meeting someone compatible on this site.

Thanks


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
9/17/2010 12:21 am

    Quoting fitboy8:
    So hey nice blog so far.

    what is your opinion on having a girlfriend and also being on a site such as this? Honestly, I wouldn't mind meeting someone compatible on this site.

    Thanks
Hello Fitboy and welcome to my blog

Now that's a morally tricky one for sure; I'm presuming you mean to meet someone from here without your girlfriends knowledge?

My only advice would be to seriously consider your reasons for wishing to do so and in addition, the potential consequences; Certainly, in relationships there is often an ongoing temptation to stray as it were but ultimately it is up to the individual if they choose to act upon these urges and go through with it.

I'm sorry that this advice is somewhat ambiguous, but I would definitely stop and really think about this one before taking any action

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
10/4/2010 6:18 am

    Quoting  :

lol Naughty Hmmm....I suffer this one to
I recommend Pledge dusters - they're really good for magnetising dust particles and come with my wholehearted recommendation
Afterwards, one can sit back, relax.....and sip a Pimms lol

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
10/11/2010 5:54 am

    Quoting  :

pmsl Kalia

This is indeed a perplexing predicament
...Fortuitously however, Uncle Gentle is on hand to save the day
As both one of the worlds most renowned authorities on Gecko lizards and additionally border patrol bribery techniques, I can offer you the following sapient advice: Due to the Gecko's heightened olfactory senses, they make for quite superb, expedient sniffer 'dogs'. Indeed, such an ability makes them the reptile of choice for border patrol forces in combating unscrupulous individuals who would attempt to smuggle drugs between countries. My advice therefore is to bribe those on duty with one of your next generation, Gecko offspring. Certainly, I myself have employed this very technique on numerous occasions and have found it to work nine times out of ten (the tenth time resulted in my detainment and subsequent incarceration but that's quite another story...)
Now, regarding the most desirable location of exile, I would wholeheartedly recommend Papua New Guinea. It is admittedly quite a trek to get there but having previously gone on the run in the dense jungles there myself a few times, I can definitely recommend it

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
10/11/2010 5:57 am

    Quoting  :

lol Although there is no co-pay as such for being sectioned, I am told that regular perusal of my blog is a highly efficacious manner in which to attain this glorious state of incarceration

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
10/14/2010 3:44 pm

    Quoting  :

lol Kalia

It's certainly a far simpler system here albeit according to many critics, one excessively stringent.
By way of example, just ask 80's pop God, Adam Ant. The poor bugger was carted off to what he referred to as and I quote, 'The Alice In Wonderland Ward' for merely getting drunk in a pub whilst dressed up in cowboy gear lol

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
10/18/2010 6:08 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you for your kind words RS and a warm welcome to my blog to

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
11/2/2010 9:18 am

    Quoting  :

Welcome to my blog Too and thank you so much for your kind words

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ce_64667 60F

11/2/2010 12:27 pm

cookery tips, huh?

so, can you help...I have a terrible time cooking chicken breasts...they are always dry, no matter how I cook them. (I buy the skinless, boneless kind).



I've stumbled across your blog today, and enjoyed my visit! It's always good when I can find a blog that brings a smile to my lips!!

Thank you!



"All you'll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you." - Judith Crist, crack film critic


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
11/2/2010 3:37 pm

    Quoting ce_64667:
    cookery tips, huh?

    so, can you help...I have a terrible time cooking chicken breasts...they are always dry, no matter how I cook them. (I buy the skinless, boneless kind).



    I've stumbled across your blog today, and enjoyed my visit! It's always good when I can find a blog that brings a smile to my lips!!

    Thank you!
Hello Ce, a very warm welcome to my blog and thank you so much for your kind words

Ah ha, I can indeed help with this culinary dilemma

Here are two top tips from Uncle Gentle

Try covering the breasts in tin foil when cooking them. This retains the moisture that would normally be lost in 'open' cooking.
Of course, it also somewhat prevents browning so for the last few minutes of cooking, baste in a little butter and brown it off

Alternatively, before placing the chicken breasts in the oven, firstly fry them on a high heat in a pan for a few minutes. This produces a crisp outer edge and thus forms a protective barrier to minimise the juices that would normally escape from the flesh when in the oven

I hope this helps. Bon appetit

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ce_64667 60F

11/3/2010 9:34 am

    Quoting Mygentlecaress:
    Hello Ce, a very warm welcome to my blog and thank you so much for your kind words

    Ah ha, I can indeed help with this culinary dilemma

    Here are two top tips from Uncle Gentle

    Try covering the breasts in tin foil when cooking them. This retains the moisture that would normally be lost in 'open' cooking.
    Of course, it also somewhat prevents browning so for the last few minutes of cooking, baste in a little butter and brown it off

    Alternatively, before placing the chicken breasts in the oven, firstly fry them on a high heat in a pan for a few minutes. This produces a crisp outer edge and thus forms a protective barrier to minimise the juices that would normally escape from the flesh when in the oven

    I hope this helps. Bon appetit
Thank you so much Uncle Gentle!

Perhaps my sons will eat chicken now...



"All you'll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you." - Judith Crist, crack film critic


rm_ISORareGem 60F
8183 posts
11/11/2010 12:26 am

Uncle Caress!!!!!

What a generous and lovely offer!!!!!! I used to go to Bob the Clown, but he has been MIA......

I am sure I will need plenty of help!



what the world needs now..........


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
11/30/2010 11:37 am

    Quoting rm_ISORareGem:
    Uncle Caress!!!!!

    What a generous and lovely offer!!!!!! I used to go to Bob the Clown, but he has been MIA......

    I am sure I will need plenty of help!


Uncle Gentle is always here for you (with sometimes admittedly dodgy but nonetheless well meant advice)

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
11/30/2010 11:46 am

    Quoting  :

Ah ha! Sensitive teeth are a speciality of mine in fact

A number of options present themselves for this one depending upon the cause of the sensitivity. Firstly, whilst the teeth are sensitive, try switching to a softer bristled toothbrush and remember to brush gently, not least of all on any specific teeth affected.
Secondly, avoid as best possible both very cold and very hot foods and drinks which may well be painful to consume and aggravate the situation.

Remember, sensitive teeth often serve as warning signs for other dental problems so if the problem persists for any length of time it is important to visit a dentist.

Alternatively to all of the above, it just so happens that I have a magic kiss which can heal all such conditions instantly....ahem lol

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
1/11/2011 4:07 pm

    Quoting  :

Welcome back Kalia Long time no see - I hope that you are well there?

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
1/24/2011 6:24 am

    Quoting  :

Welcome to my blog Lucy

lol I have a heart even kinder than the late Mother Teresa's

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
1/26/2011 5:54 am

    Quoting  :

Hello Robi

This is an interesting one insomuch that whilst your friend states that he is heterosexual, his actions clearly suggest that he is at least bisexually experimental.
The fact that he actually instigated the sex further reaffirms this.

Should you make a move on him? I say go for it for in accordance with the old adage, 'Nothing ventured, nothing gained'.

I hope that it goes well

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
1/28/2011 1:53 am

    Quoting Kidfos:
    Bubbles, London, visit, Friday.

    Cant put details of the "Party" up as they keep getting pulled down. Cunning plans for for flash mobbing Soho when bubbles turns up are welcome Details and Locations on request.

    ( yes I know Im Hijacking this Blog, but its only a little and Bubbles is a good cause )

    Peace
Please give Bubbles my very best - I hope that a great time is had by all

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
2/13/2011 3:09 am

    Quoting  :

lol All problems are tackled here Well.....except for mechanical issues which I admit I am absolutely useless at lol

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
2/13/2011 3:11 am

    Quoting  :

Thank you I'll say the same for yours to

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Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
2/18/2011 2:01 am

    Quoting  :

Hello Susan and a very warm welcome to my blog

Sperm stains on a white couch you say? lol Well, two options present themselves here immediately; 1) Cover the couch with more sperm so that everything blends in or 2) Give the couch a Vodka wash - this stuff is not only the drink of the gods, it's also one of the best cleaners out there

Now, the criteria for a good fuck worthy bed varies somewhat from person to person depending upon a number of factors; For example, if one has a preference for a faster, more rampant rhythm to proceedings then I'd actually recommend less springiness (against popular belief) as in my experience the bouncing motion of the said springs will remain staggered behind the actual tempo of pelvic thrusting due to the springs reverberatory like motion and subsequent time delay. This invariably results in the subsequent pelvic thrusts ‘colliding’ with the upwards reverberatory ‘bounce’ and can be quite annoying as it can put one off of one’s rhythm
Conversely, if one prefers a slower, more sensual style of lovemaking however, then a springy bed is the option of choice as it effectively mirrors each movement in time with the caressing unison.

And the design? A four poster bed is the best in my opinion; Sexy, elegant, ornate and boasting the additional benefits of allowing a number of sexual positions that no other type of bed can bestow – the four poster is the true Rolls Royce of fuck worthy beds

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blingblangbooom 36M

2/19/2011 9:50 am

ahahhaaha...


BeccaBardoux

2/24/2011 1:16 am

Ok, here's one for you..
I ended up getting together with this guy. We had agreed to remain friends regardless of the attraction between us. The line didn't hold for us long and in a very short time, we were inseparable. Yes, we did do some things on our own, and occasionally even spent a night away from one another. When I'd get back, you thought it had been months instead of hours since he'd seen me. We were together about a month and ended on good terms. He said we could see where we were when he got back.
Work sent him away and he wont be state side again for at least six months. (Why the original "Just Friends" had been agreed upon) He promised to write while he was gone, but hadn't. When I wrote him, he replied with not wanting to talk at all. How our relationship got more serious than we had intended, and disappeared. Then I get a very random email from him a few weeks later.
What does it mean?? If he doesn't want to talk, why write me?? I need a mans brain to figure him out I think..
Any advice/comments appreciated.
~Becca


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
2/24/2011 4:27 am

    Quoting BeccaBardoux:
    Ok, here's one for you..
    I ended up getting together with this guy. We had agreed to remain friends regardless of the attraction between us. The line didn't hold for us long and in a very short time, we were inseparable. Yes, we did do some things on our own, and occasionally even spent a night away from one another. When I'd get back, you thought it had been months instead of hours since he'd seen me. We were together about a month and ended on good terms. He said we could see where we were when he got back.
    Work sent him away and he wont be state side again for at least six months. (Why the original "Just Friends" had been agreed upon) He promised to write while he was gone, but hadn't. When I wrote him, he replied with not wanting to talk at all. How our relationship got more serious than we had intended, and disappeared. Then I get a very random email from him a few weeks later.
    What does it mean?? If he doesn't want to talk, why write me?? I need a mans brain to figure him out I think..
    Any advice/comments appreciated.
    ~Becca
I'm very sorry to hear about this confusing situation

This is a tricky one; Indeed, mixed signals are a common form of issue within any given relationship for both men and women.

Unfortunately, it sometimes occurs that one partner may be capricious as regards the nature/goal of the relationship.
One moment they may yearn for a soul mate whilst the next they suddenly wish to cool things down or else end proceedings altogether.
Certainly, such whimsical behaviour is entirely unfair on the other party who is invariably left up in the air so to speak and baffled as regards where matters are actually heading.
It seems to me that the person you speak of may be guilty of the aforesaid indecisive behaviour for reasons best known to himself.

My advice is to take the reigns in effect and decide what is best for you. Weigh up if this is a relationship that you would like to pursue/rekindle. If upon said reflection you believe it is inadvisable then I would suggest taking full control by explaining your decision to the person in question.
Of course, this does not preclude the possibility of a platonic friendship still but this again, should be your decision and one which you should set the rules to.

I hope this helps

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BeccaBardoux

2/24/2011 9:19 am

Thank you very much!!


BeccaBardoux

3/4/2011 12:53 am

So, my dear Uncle, I once again have a situation and am in need of help. I have a "Survey" of sorts that I have been trying to gather information for, but apparently, my subject is Too controversial. I knew when I chose the topic, response would be difficult, but I didn't think it would be this bad. Any ideas on how to people to respond?? I almost have to set up a table on campus and catch people as they go to lunch.. Not sure that would work any better..

Oh yeah, my topic is abortion.


Mygentlecaress 50M
13880 posts
3/4/2011 2:02 am

    Quoting BeccaBardoux:
    So, my dear Uncle, I once again have a situation and am in need of help. I have a "Survey" of sorts that I have been trying to gather information for, but apparently, my subject is Too controversial. I knew when I chose the topic, response would be difficult, but I didn't think it would be this bad. Any ideas on how to people to respond?? I almost have to set up a table on campus and catch people as they go to lunch.. Not sure that would work any better..

    Oh yeah, my topic is abortion.
It's indeed a very heated subject and I can well imagine that many people will be difficult to corner on it.

Here's a tip that may help though; Studies have found that a good place to canvas and gather information from people is in cafeterias, as the patrons will be both already seated and more relaxed.
Libraries to in my experience, serve as a good location to approach people for surveys etc.

As a rule, people are generally less likely to wish to be stopped if they are on the move as it were so the best bet therefore is to catch them when they are already stationary as in the above examples.

I hope that this may help and that your study is successful

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BeccaBardoux

3/4/2011 8:15 am

Thank you once again!!


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3/7/2011 7:36 am

The pleasure is always mine

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BeccaBardoux

3/7/2011 10:47 pm

So if we keep coming to you for our problems.. Who do you go to??


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3/8/2011 3:21 am

    Quoting BeccaBardoux:
    So if we keep coming to you for our problems.. Who do you go to??
That's a good question lol

It's funny but the being who I confide in most is probably my dog lol
She obviously can't comment or offer decent advice (other than an occasional bark) but she does make for a great listener nonetheless

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BeccaBardoux

3/8/2011 7:51 pm

As dogs are good listeners indeed, but sometimes you just need a little bit of feedback. Please feel free to ask if you ever need some advice yourself!!


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3/9/2011 3:55 am

    Quoting BeccaBardoux:
    As dogs are good listeners indeed, but sometimes you just need a little bit of feedback. Please feel free to ask if you ever need some advice yourself!!
Thank you Becca

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4/4/2011 4:49 am

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Welcome to my blog cool

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4/4/2011 4:58 am

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Welcome to my blog Nikki

I think far from a problem, this is a wonderful thing you describe - certainly for the lucky younger guys who will be more than happy I can assure you

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5/16/2011 5:48 am

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Hmmm....a tricky one indeed; I'll wager that it's due to one of the plethora of site glitches on here - it's full of more bugs than an old BBC Micro computer lol

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binkfanvegas 33M
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6/29/2011 7:28 pm

cool


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rm_naturallust3 54F
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9/2/2011 7:23 pm

hi uncle agony,I seem to be afraid of intimacy,I would like to get close to some-one but its seems that I always have my self protective barrier around me.Do u think it is some form of social phobia?I spend a lot of time alone and most of the time I enjoy it but at other times it is counterproductive.Any advice? How do I force myself to socialize?


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9/5/2011 5:29 pm

    Quoting rm_naturallust3:
    hi uncle agony,I seem to be afraid of intimacy,I would like to get close to some-one but its seems that I always have my self protective barrier around me.Do u think it is some form of social phobia?I spend a lot of time alone and most of the time I enjoy it but at other times it is counterproductive.Any advice? How do I force myself to socialize?
Hello Natural and welcome to my blog
There may be a number of reasons for erecting invisible barriers around ourselves in certain areas in life; Certainly, one common example is that we sometimes do so in order to ward off potential perpetrators who may cause us emotional hurt thus it is a self defence mechanism in effect.
As regards overcoming this and the subsequent socializing, I would recommend to make a point of gradually indoctrinating yourself into perhaps once every week going out with friends in order to overcome this aversion before maybe up'ing this to more days when you feel ready.
Having said that, there's nothing inherently wrong in enjoying one's own company whatsoever though and it is in fact I believe a great strength to be independent.
I hope that this helps



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10/27/2011 4:30 am

    Quoting Softsheetsnme:
    My kitty cat's hair is falling out...Stop perving MGC...It's my kitty cat, Spooky. Her fur is falling out. I've tried several different types of food in case it's allergies. It returns temporarily, then starts to get really thin again. Any ideas?
Ah ha! I had a cat who had exactly the same problem Although the symptoms can be quite alarming, there are often very simply causes for said condition. Food allergies are indeed one possibility; Certainly it would seem that said allergy is not likely something you are giving her, rather possibly a food source she is obtaining elsewhere - does she hunt outside for instance? Other than that, another possible cause could be temperature based. Does she sleep near a radiator? Certainly hotter temps will likely cause a cats hair to thin as it's body is effectively 'tricked' into believing it is time to malt

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11/9/2011 11:46 am

This agony uncle can definitely and indeed most earnestly and determinedly help with that

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newgirl70000 53F
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11/15/2011 2:35 am

I'm in agony looking at that photo

NG.

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11/15/2011 12:15 pm

    Quoting newgirl70000:
    I'm in agony looking at that photo

    NG.
You'd better have a little lay down with me to recuperate....

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fancy_for_you 47F
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11/15/2011 11:32 pm

The problem I'm having right now I'm afraid no one can really help me with. I have a pet that is injured and the vet says he needs a surgery I can't afford, we discussed options and basicly we can't amptate his leg because with his size and prior arthritis he wouldn't do good withone back leg. We tried pain meds and we can continue with them but they are very expensive and he's still getting worse even with the meds. So the vet says it's either the surgery or putting him down. And I'm struggling with the decision. He's such a good boy and even in pain he ain't being snappy or growly. It's just a horrible position to be in to make this decision. (lol hope you are a animal lover or you might be rolling your eyes at me)

So see guess no one can fix it but it did help to talk about it a bit, now if only someone else could make the decision for me.

~~Fuzzy~~


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11/16/2011 4:14 am

    Quoting fancy_for_you:
    The problem I'm having right now I'm afraid no one can really help me with. I have a pet that is injured and the vet says he needs a surgery I can't afford, we discussed options and basicly we can't amptate his leg because with his size and prior arthritis he wouldn't do good withone back leg. We tried pain meds and we can continue with them but they are very expensive and he's still getting worse even with the meds. So the vet says it's either the surgery or putting him down. And I'm struggling with the decision. He's such a good boy and even in pain he ain't being snappy or growly. It's just a horrible position to be in to make this decision. (lol hope you are a animal lover or you might be rolling your eyes at me)

    So see guess no one can fix it but it did help to talk about it a bit, now if only someone else could make the decision for me.
I'm so very sorry to hear of your understandable heartache over this matter; I myself am indeed a big animal lover and thus know well from experience the anguish associated with having to make the final decision on having to say goodbye to one's beloved pets.
Leading on from this though, I've also had much experience with vets in my time, some good whilst some regretfully far less so and in relation to this last point I can definitely advise that it is always good to get a second opinion. Vets are much like doctors; No two will give you exactly the same prognosis and whilst one may approach a problem/condition from a decidedly pessimistic vantage point, offering only negative options, another will invariably aspire for a more favourable outcome by exploring all possible choices.
Likewise, so to will costs/payment options very much vary between different veterinary practices, again another reason that I very much advise to seek out a second opinion.
I sincerely hope that this may help and that the situation resolves for the best outcome both for you and your pet


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newgirl70000 53F
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11/17/2011 3:59 am

    Quoting Mygentlecaress:
    You'd better have a little lay down with me to recuperate....
Unfortunately, I fear that would just bring an entirely different problem

Oh what the hell! On my way.

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Just_MsRoss 49F

11/27/2011 9:55 pm

Love it! What a fabulous idea for a sticky post

Would developing wild cravings for *things* you see but can never have be considered a problem?

Oh! I had the same picture viewing issue on your blog as a previous commenter mentioned until I discovered that I actually had my content filter ON wtf? I don't remember saying I wanted to be sheltered, lol...

(and not that I minded staring at your profile picture over and over again, but having read back through your blog with the filter OFF, I have to say you have a deliciously demented sense of humor )

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11/28/2011 11:40 am

    Quoting Just_MsRoss:
    Love it! What a fabulous idea for a sticky post

    Would developing wild cravings for *things* you see but can never have be considered a problem?

    Oh! I had the same picture viewing issue on your blog as a previous commenter mentioned until I discovered that I actually had my content filter ON wtf? I don't remember saying I wanted to be sheltered, lol...

    (and not that I minded staring at your profile picture over and over again, but having read back through your blog with the filter OFF, I have to say you have a deliciously demented sense of humor )
lol My sense of humour is a little...well, ok, a fair bit on the warped side but is of course always meant to be in good fun; Even the granny porn and scat pics

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12/12/2011 3:07 pm

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Have you ever experienced foot reflexology? Even if one is skeptical of such arts, none can deny the amazing relaxation properties that they bequeath. I'd definitely recommend booking a session - you'll feel wonderful afterwards

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12/15/2011 4:14 am

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lol Thank you .

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BeccaBardoux

12/19/2011 2:02 am

Any time My Gentle!!


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12/19/2011 11:00 am

Welcome back Becca

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BeccaBardoux

12/20/2011 12:52 am

Thanks!! It's good to be back!!


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1/2/2012 8:13 am

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Hello Intriguing and a warm welcome to my blog Thank you so much for your kind words also I'm afraid that I'm not a watcher of Coronation Street - I'm more of a Sci-Fi fan or Geek as we are sometimes called lol
As regards open relationships however, I believe that they, much like the arrangements of so called, 'Friends with benefits' and 'FB's', are invariably problematic or in the worst case scenarios, prone to failure purely on account of our basic human natures exactly as you cited i.e. one partner wishing to 'progress' from the initial mutual agreement or else conversely, to 'digress' somewhat.
In regards to open relationships specifically, there is of course also frequently the issue of jealousy and insecurity relating to who the other partner chooses to spend time with.
Certainly, this is not to say that any such relationship is doomed from the offset however, rather that it requires absolute trust and precise communication on behalf of both (or more) parties in the inception of any such relationship undertaking.
I hope that this may be of some help?



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2/6/2012 7:55 am

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The Shed is banned? Were there any particularly inflammatory topics on discussion at the time of deletion? I'd definitely keep pestering the site admin in regards to this and demand to know exactly what was so offensive as to have provoked this. These things are usually minor as it happens but the fact that someone has taken the time to issue a complaint invariably sets the site police on red alert (with subsequent hasty and ill judged actions on their part) just so as to appear to be doing something. Um....now that I have said this though, I wouldn't be at all surprised if I suddenly disappear from the site to

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singlenow1974 49F

3/5/2012 6:50 pm

Beautiful Pic, especially the one on your side. ABSOLUTLY beautiful! Thank you for the kind words. Lets keep in touch. ~Single


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3/6/2012 4:45 am

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Welcome back I hope that your smile won't disappear if I reveal that I do sometimes snore a bit?

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3/6/2012 4:47 am

    Quoting singlenow1974:
    Beautiful Pic, especially the one on your side. ABSOLUTLY beautiful! Thank you for the kind words. Lets keep in touch. ~Single
Welcome to my blog Single and thank you so much for your wonderfully kind words

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BeccaBardoux

5/8/2012 8:33 pm

Woo hoo!! I get caught getting settled in my new job and go AWOL for a while.. And miss the new pics!! What a nice.. sight to come back to!!


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5/10/2012 3:53 am

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lol You might say that I'm a master chronicler of cock contortions

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5/10/2012 3:55 am

    Quoting BeccaBardoux:
    Woo hoo!! I get caught getting settled in my new job and go AWOL for a while.. And miss the new pics!! What a nice.. sight to come back to!!
Welcome back Becca I hope that your new job is going well?

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BeccaBardoux

5/10/2012 6:16 pm

My job is going amazingly well!! Thank you!! I'm glad to finally be settling in to a wonderful rhythm.. That is, until they move me again.. lol


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