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Never change for anyone  

darknesswins 46F  
349 posts
9/22/2014 7:43 am
Never change for anyone
Just the other day I was talking to a friend in the BDSM lifestyle, which I am also a part of about how those within that lifestyle never do well in vanilla (non-BDSM) relationships. She mentioned a book and I will have to ask her the name so I post the name for everyone to see.

I was thinking back to all of my previous relationships and in just about every single one I gave up the swinging or the BDSM lifestyle almost entirely to appease my partner. It was always because it made them uncomfortable or they were insecure. Sometimes they would ask me to stop talking to my friends in the lifestyle completely, and I did it because I didn't want to lose them. Well each and every time I was the one being faithful and they were the ones who either cheated on me or were going to before I ended the relationship. I seriously see a pattern that I never thought to see before.

After careful consideration I have decided that I will never give up either lifestyle or my friends in it just to make my boyfriend/lover/whatever happy. I am here to meet like minded-individuals, people I can be comfortable around and just be myself, become more educated in the lifestyle, and collaborate with other Dominants and network with them on their varied teaching styles. If they don't like it to damn bad, don't let the door hit them on their way out of my life.

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bigdog7_11 72M/74F
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535 posts
9/23/2014 7:29 am

 Be true to yourself and let the chips fall where they may.
T(bigdog)


Nuke_N_Naughty 52M/53F

9/26/2014 9:48 pm

 WOW!! I cannot even begin to tell you how good it made me feel to read this post as this is a lesson that it has taken me 42 years and 2 failed marriages to learn and I have finally come to the conclusion that I am who I am and that is just the way it is going to be. Anyone who wants to be a part of my life from here on out is just going to have to accept me as I am.

I am very happy to know that I am not alone in this and I applaud you for being true to yourself.
Dennis (Idahonuke)
To read about myongoing adventures and journey into the lifestyle:
[blog Idahonuke]


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