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What is wrong with men today????
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What is wrong with men today???? There are so many things that went on over the last few weeks these are a few that brought my displeasure. 1-- If there is one thing I cannot tolerate from the men on here is the fact that its over run by flakes. It gives the good men on here a bad name because it makes the women not want to meet anyone. I speak of a man I met on here who has proven to be just that. What's the saying... "wrong me once shame on you, wrong me twice shame on me..." For me when someone has wronged me in a way that is unforgivable they are deleted from my cell phone. He has earned such a service and there is nothing he can say that will forgive his indiscretions. Not even such a handsome face and a gorgeous body will save him. Because you can be the hottest man alive and still be an ass. 2-- What do you do when a man is too eager? I mean you see him once and he calls 3-4 times daily to see if you can see him again. I'm a mother of two who works full time and my alone time is very rare. Now I did explain to him that I was in the lifestyle at that I was not looking for a relationship so he would have to share me. Is that wrong of me? To be blunt with him because I'm not ready for another relationship nor am I looking for one. Maybe these are just some more ramblings that only make sense to me. Oh well....  V      |
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Nice guys finsih last, but they finish. They don't mind waiting. they are not pushy, they understand aspects like children, jobs, personal space....they are out there. They are rare. But from my perspective so are the women. Such is life.
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10/27/2009 10:01 pm |
I totally agree with you! I have had that experience with me even though I am a single woman with no kids. I don't understand them either but I have noticed it has happened to me more than once with a few different men. There are many flakes and Liars on this site who pretend it's all fun when there are women like you and me who don't have time for these kind of men. I have had a similar experience and yet only once I have had the pleasure of being someone who had a handsome face and gorgeous body. I wanted to see him again because like you I don't have all the time in the world. Yet, I admit I want to see one guy more than once and yet I think I want a relationship but the one same ones I have met have fallen in that same bracket of men who are called "FLAKES". Thankfully, I might have found someone who maybe a good man I am not so sure yet. However, all I do know is when I meet someone and find someone who's too eager, all I do is just try to ignore him. I look again and find someone who maybe better than the idiot you found earlier. Then again maybe sometimes I wonder to myself if this is the right place to find someone like that here. It's like finding a needle in a haystack. It will be there and if you don't find it yet, it will be there. I find myself being impatient so I sympathize. I understand your ramblings but I'm a woman... If only there was a good man here on site that would explain this all to you or me, then he can help us figure out what's wrong with these men... Good luck!
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10/27/2009 10:03 pm |
you can easily re-write that to be for females, and couples as well. Come by and check out my [blog httpHeated]
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10/27/2009 10:15 pm |
Whats wrong with most but not all men? Desperation is what is wrong. A real connection to most is not from their heart mind but only downstairs.
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10/27/2009 10:49 pm |
Ever thought that there are 2 ways to go about having a profile on Heated Affairs: One way is to post the profile, sit back and wait for the solicitations - that comes with the BS and flakes et. etc The other way is to ignore the solicitations and ACTIVELY trawl the profiles to identify your possible matches and then initiate contact with your pre-selected list. I bet your hit-rate will be much, much higher and the frustrations much less. Happy trawling.
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10/28/2009 5:51 am |
I cant walk away from this without saying something.I have also had a problem with eager men.most of the time they are alot younger than i am.I perfer older men for this reason.Older men know how to treat a lady.and they can respect the fact of normal daily life.I had one younger man writting me.i didnt write him back!!but he still wouldnt stop,He sent me 5 to 10 emails a day asking if i can get with him just for sex.i did write back once to tell him no and please just move on and leave me alone.he still tries most days but i just delete them.so now im not really wanting to talk to single men at all.Your so right.after something like this you wonder,,where are all the good,decent,normal men???I for one would like to go on a date,not just a friend with bennifts,and even if thats all we are dont treat me like shit.
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I guess I am a bit "old school". I respect the parameters that they have and prefer not to be pushy or intrusive. I just cannot understand some of the men on here and how rude/coarse they are to people. If someone is not interested in you; move on. I have friends here that I have had sex with and others that I have not even met face to face. If someone is not interested; I respect their wishes; not try to force them to "see the light". Maybe it stems from being older or being raised to respect others. Get a clue guys; noy everyone is in love with you as much as you are with yourself. Just the thoughts of an old guy....LOL; T(bigdog)
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One of the things I hate the most about alot of men on here is their need to lie to us women. I hate to say this but probably 90% of the men I've talked to on here have lied in some small way or another. I also dislike how they don't take someone's feelings into consideration. For example, there was something that happened this last weekend at the Boo Bash that really bothered me but I've kept it to myself. Some things are just better left unsaid. MM    
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10/28/2009 5:54 pm |
Thanks for the reply watchusplay69. I know what you mean about any other sites. It doesn't matter where and I have learned it the hard way when I get stood up by flakes so I guess I have to deal with them. It's just so hard to find them. I've been on this site for over five years already and I have come to realize I do want more. I have only recently acted upon my profile and did something about it. A few men have stood me up, lied to me who they really are and it's hard to look past that. In time, I will learn to tolerate them and I think I will be able to find someone whether or not he's on this site or not. I know I just have to keep positive. It's just so hard to find someone who's been so good to me and doesn't hurt me or my feelings. I haven't given up and I continue to look further and find the one who can act out all my fantasies whether or not it's romantically or sexually inclined. I feel a little better now. Thanks!
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They're not me, that's what's wrong with them  But on the other hand there are girls and couples that do the very same things, just not as high a percentage.
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I'd like to thank you all for your wonderful insight on this thread. V
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10/30/2009 5:32 am |
Thanks Wes for the insight!! It helps to know hope is out there..xoxoxoxo
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I agree bigdog. After watching what P has gone through with her share of jerks out there. I can see that the ladies on here have to take this crap whereas the men arn't usualy affected. (I'm sure It's cause ladies care about others feelings) Lies will never work... Seems like it would keep a person running all the time just to cover thier ass.!? Good carma will come around and help back....But bad carma will BITE YOU IN THE ASS. Let's have Fun!!
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12/14/2009 11:04 pm |
Well I think on here men look at all the hoochie profiles (mostly bullshit ones, of young girls 18+ that are looking for something, the ones that sound too good to be true). They feel that all women on here are just looking for sex. Sorry, but not everyone on here is just looking for sex. There are some great people one here as well who do want a relationship. Some of us who want to take it slow and get to know people. Want there to be more than just sex. Sex is great but it is not a priority in life and is not the only thing. Lets get real unless you just want a booty call. You have to have something to talk about after 10 minutes. Unless you are going to get your clothes and leave. That is the problem with most of the guys on here. Some and hopefully more than some of us would like to date and meet someone nice. There are successes on here with people who are not lusting for 10 minutes of sex. They are not easy to find but then isn't that the fun of it all anyway. Keep trying and have fun.
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